Vansh asked Robin Waite:

Hey mate! how does one identify self-limiting beliefs? I've an easy time fixing stuff but have a hard time introspecting and figuring out what goes wrong. It may seem like a stupid question, but I'd really appreciate if you could answer it. Cheers!

Robin Waite Their are concious and subconcious limiting beliefs, and generally they are exacerbated by underlying fears surounding the outcomes of doing the thing you are thinking about doing.

I've found a great exercise is either "The Fear Setting Exercise" which Tim Ferris talked about in a TED Talk. Or there's a similar exercise in Joseph Nguyen's book, Don't Believe Everything You Think.

If you can identify the underlying fear that will help. Ask yourself whether it is true or not.

I like to then identify, "What is the smallest, first step I can take towards my goal?" and focus on taking that first tiny step. Then build up positive habits around the thing you want to do by seeing if you can do it more times with some consistency which starts to desensitise you to the action and outcomes.

If you're really struggling then change your environment and give yourself some guilt-free time off. Normally a bit of space and time away from the thing creating the fear helps to minimise the issue somewhat.

Hope that helps.

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