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Hi Michael, I think coming out can promote personal well-being and contribute to mental health. But it doesn't mean that it's easier to find a partner for a sustainable relationship.
It's rough out there for sure. I found a lot of success in meeting people at LGBT events. Search meetup, facebook, the coffee shop, the gay bar, the library, or find someone on social media that posts about local queer events. There's also dating apps. I've met a lot of friends through that. It does take time, so be patient with yourself, and we'll be here when you need us!
Hi Marcus, coming out is a long process. It starts way before you actually do it and, for me at least, took a long time to “end”. And by end I mean the process of feeling well on my own skin. I think coming out is part of the self-discovery process, so in many ways it might never end. We will be always changing and learning about ourselves. Although, it feels like you are struggling/suffering. I would suggest seeing a therapist or a counselor. It can be a great way for you to understand this “fear” or “hesitation” you feel. Also there is a great number of organizations that offer group sessions and support.
I know this is not the best place, but you should feel embarrassed or anything for asking for support. Please reach for
professional support at a proper place. It’s really important to.
Relationships are going to be hard no matter what you identify as! The dating world is so different now than it used to be. I'm also bi, when I came out I felt nervous as well but over time it just became some other mundane fact about me. So I would say give it some time and don't force yourself to do anything you're uncomfortable with / go at your own pace.
Also bi, but I use the he/him/she/her/it pronouns even thought I’m a boy
I feel like it’s hard to connect with some people now. My best friends were great about it. And I’ve made a few new friends. And they’re great too. But now that I’m “free” to be with whoever I choose, I’m still nervous about being in a serious relationship with someone, regardless of their gender.
I was in a very long relationship with a woman before it ended a few years ago. I’ve been single for awhile. And I hate it. That’s why I came out. I was meeting other people, mostly men, who were interested in me. And I was interested in them, too. But I was too afraid to do anything about it. It hurt that I missed my chance. So I decided to come out to my friends and family, and for the most part, it went great. My father had a hard time with it, but now he says he just wants me to be happy. So why am I still nervous about it?
Guess that’s why I spend so much time on this app. I feel like I’m meeting more great people who can probably relate to this. Thanks for all the friend requests and for accepting mine. I really am proud to be part of this community, despite my trepidation. Hope I don’t sound like I’m not.