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There Can Be No Light Without Shadow!

We are like a child in a candy store when it comes to exercising our choices in life. The more options we have, the more complex our decision making process becomes. If you have only two shirts or two dresses to choose from, the choice of selection is easy. However, choosing a shirt or a dress in a specialty store can become a nightmare, because our mind is excluding all the time.

Is there a reason why we must choose one option over another? Is there a reason why we cannot accept life as it is? Choice actually gives us such freedom; but we experience it as a terrible bondage. Why is this so? Where are we missing it?

The ancient Chinese wisdom of the Tao is based on the Yin and Yang; symbolizing the male and female, good and evil, darkness and light, black and white. Interplay of these opposites is constant and certain. There can never be good without bad; there can be no light without shadow. That is the way life’s cards are dealt to us.

What we have to understand clearly here is this: It is our ability to work with the seemingly opposite qualities in life that leads to fulfillment and happiness and not the power to choose between one and the other! This is the truth that you need to understand.

Let me explain: The very perception of something being good or bad is totally dependent on the eyes that perceive the situation, am I right? We always see things through the lens of our bias, our past, our expectations, our desires and we think that it is reality. It is something like this. The sky that is covered by the floating clouds is unaffected by the presence of the clouds; it is untouched by the clouds. It only appears to be absent because of the clouds. But, if you look at it and say that the sky has disappeared, will it be a true statement?

If you can see the truth as it is and not bring in your lens into it, if you can just allow the truth to be and facilitate it to prevail, you will never be faced with any dilemma or choice; you will simply flow with Existence. Choosing becomes so important and miserable in your life because you are always looking through your desires, your despair, your anger and what not.

A small story:

A man was suffering from severe multiple injuries after a bad accident. His friend visited him in the hospital.

He asked him, ‘It must be aching throughout your body because of the injuries all over.’

The man replied, ‘No not really; only when I laugh!’

Life is to do with your attitude towards it, always. A pessimist is one who always sees the dark side of life while the optimist is one who always sees the bright side of things. But the key is, to not feel any compulsion to choose between the two, to go beyond both and just resonate with Existence so that there is no choice to make; just allow the truth to prevail. If this is done, we will not feel misery or happiness that comes with a reason. We will just feel choiceless and helpless bliss, that’s all.

The problem is, we forget our divinity and start thinking of ourselves as human beings with limited potential. We limit our infinite potential by the very acceptance that we have limited potential. Realize the infinite capacity in you! Know that the boundless cosmic energy is there for you; be very clear that you can explode in all directions instead of constraining yourself to the imaginary lines of materialism and spiritualism that you have restricted yourself to! It boils down to the attitude, the perspective with which we see and perceive our situation.

The wise person realizes this and does not get perturbed by anything that seems unpleasant nor does he get carried away by something that seems pleasurable. He will understand that both these are impermanent and hence, not the eternal truth.
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