Rollo Tomassi > Quotes

“You are who you believe you are, and you are who she perceives you to be.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“behavior is the only reliable evidence of motivation.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“Nothing is more self-satisfying for a woman than to think she’s figured a Man out based solely on her mythical feminine intuition (i.e. imagination).”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“Blunt, to the point, solve the problem and move on to the next.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“Even Freud was fooled by the hysterics of women’s responses and wrote them off as largely incapable, random and duplicitous to their own interests.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“of women’s inborn capacity to bond with their own captors as a psycho-socially adaptive survival trait, and how this evolved into women’s pronounced facility with which they can ‘get over’ former lovers so much faster than men seem to be capable of. Women don’t like me detailing this phenomenon for obvious reasons, but I think men dislike the notion of their easy ‘disposability’ because of that same inconsistency in gender concepts of love.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“Everything a woman does on a daily basis is colored by competition anxiety.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“Gentlemen, as I’m fond of saying, women will fuck. They may not fuck you, they may not fuck me, but they will fuck someone.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“The “Relationships are work” meme is a feminine Social Convention. How often do you hear men say these words? This convention has filtered into popular consciousness even amongst men now. For the LTR men who subscribe to this I’d also speculate that many of them are in relationships where they are “doing the work” for the women who are giving them the ‘grade’ so to speak. And of the single men who subscribe to this mythology, each had to be conditioned to believe this is the case in LTRs by women.”
― Rollo Tomassi

“Women enjoy the communication more than the information being transferred”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“Statistically, men have far greater difficulty in coping with psychological trauma (think PTSD) than women.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“What’s the chance a 30-year-old can get pregnant in one try? Many thought up to 80 percent, while in reality it’s less than 30 percent.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“You do not buy into a good marriage or LTR, you create one, you build one.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“Men literally live and die according to their options,”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“No amount of proselytizing or social conditioning will erase what God and evolution hard-coded into our collective bio-psychological desires and behaviors.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“Iron Rule of Tomassi #5 Never allow a woman to be in control of the birth.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“Let’s be honest, women don’t want to hear that they can’t have it all,” she says. “We can have a great job, we can have a master’s degree, we don’t need to worry about child-bearing because that’s something that will come. And when it doesn’t happen, women are really angry.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“Everything a woman does on a daily basis is colored by competition anxiety. Make up, clothing, shoes (God, the shoes!), indirect communications with men and women, social contrivances, comparing and evaluating dates and possible suitors, everything is borne from this competitive desire to achieve security with the best possible guy and make damn sure the girl next door doesn’t get him first.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“Sexuality is spontaneous chemical reaction between two parties, not a process of negotiation. It’s sex first, then relationship, not the other way around.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“We filter for information to work from, not the subtle details that make communication enjoyable for women.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“Secondly, women’s sexual value decreases as they age, meaning there is no guarantee that your beautiful, vivacious, 27 year old bride will remain so at 37.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“but on some level of consciousness they realize that they’re past their expiration date and securing a commitment is a progressively more difficult battle with every passing year. Looks lose precedent in favor of assets and status.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“Humility is an admirable quality too, don’t get me wrong, but humility is only genuine when you’re confident of your own abilities.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“Secondly, women’s sexual value decreases as they age, meaning there is no guarantee that your beautiful, vivacious, 27 year old bride will remain so at 37. In fact the odds are she wont.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“So it should be obvious that under such conditions if a man chooses to entertain a lifestyle of marriage the only acceptable condition is that it be within his frame and his terms. And this, gentlemen, requires not only an internalized commitment to Game itself, but an understanding of, and an internalization of a much tighter Game than would be necessary in single-man-sex-”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“Every touchy-feely therapist will tell you to open up and express yourself, but all that leads to is the negotiation of desire and the disingenuous obligations based on those terms.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“A woman implying another woman had “hit the wall” was marginally more polite than calling her an old slut, but the latent purpose is still the same”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“A backhanded compliment shouldn’t work; it goes against everything any girl has ever told him will endear him to a woman, but once he musters up the courage to experiment, he finds that they do work.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“When women employ gossip it comes natural since it is an emotional form of communication (men have a far lower tendency to use gossip), but the purpose of it is meant to disqualify a potential sexual competitor.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“woman is crazy, she’s crazy like a fox; she’s crazy with a reason. Women are every bit as calculating as men, in fact more so I’d argue because they have the mystique to hide a multitude of sins behind.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male