Rollo Tomassi > Quotes

“ruthlessness of my, I guess seminal, War Brides essay. Guys have a hard time accepting the amorality of women’s inborn capacity to bond with their own captors as a psycho-socially adaptive survival trait, and how this evolved into women’s pronounced facility with which they can ‘get over’ former lovers so much faster than men seem to be capable of. Women don’t like me detailing this phenomenon”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“At that point they come full circle and understand that the conceptual love they’d hoped they could return to (or could be) with their mother doesn’t exist in the woman he’s ‘in love’ with, and ultimately, never really existed between he and his mother from his infancy to adulthood.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“The vast majority of guys (see Betas), particularly in western culture, tend to transition from mother to wife with little or no intermission between.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“Women are human beings with the same basic motivations that men are subject to with some greater or lesser variation in their reasoning and methodologies.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“The Cardinal Rule of Relationships In any relationship, the person with the most power is the one who needs the other the least.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“Feminization in this respect is the ultimate form of penis envy;”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“Just because he didn’t read a book doesn’t mean he didn’t learn through trial and error like you did, practicing his game on a large number of women. It doesn’t mean that he wasn’t conscious and deliberate with his behavior, incrementally improving his moves and tactics over a long period of time. He has experimented like you have experimented, and he has also connected his attempts with results to figure out what works and what doesn’t.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“He embodies the masculine arousal that their feminine has been seeking and they can’t explain it. This is the ultimate meta-shit test in sexual selection”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“Objectification of Gender - This might be less obvious, but both sexes objectify one another. Naturally when we think of this, the popularized notion is that men objectify women as sex objects, but women have a tendency to objectify men as “success objects” for the same reason. It is easier to accept rejection from an object than it is to take it from a living, breathing, human being. This is why we refer to intergender communication as a “game.” We “score” or we get “shot down” not personally or emotionally rejected; the buffer is in the language and mental approach.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“Game driven emancipation from the control that fem-centrism has maintained for so long. Make no mistake, the Feminine Imperative needs men to be necessitous of it, and it will always be hostile to the Men attempting to free other men from that necessity. In this respect, any Game, even the co-opted Game the imperative will use itself, is by definition sexist. Anything that may benefit Men, even when it associatively benefits women, is sexist. Freeing men from the Matrix, breaking their conditioning and encouraging them to re-imagine themselves and their personalities for their own betterment is, by feminine definition, sexist. In girl-world, encouraging men to be better Men is sexist.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“The world is filled with guys forever trying to catch up, control the frame and be the Man they should’ve been long before they entered an LTR.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“despite all odds, people largely feel entitled to, or deserving of, an important love of their life.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“Women would rather share a successful man than be saddled with a faithful loser, perfectly sums up Plate Theory vs. Monogamy-as-Goal mindsets.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“Your goal should be to attract women effortlessly, so play to your strengths no matter what they are; there is a groupie for every male endeavor. Except World of Warcraft.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“Beware of making your necessity a virtue in making a Quality woman your substitute for a ONEitis idealization.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“promise yourself you won’t allow yourself to let emotionality and conditioned expectations of monogamy dictate what your goals will be or how you’ll achieve them.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“I know devout atheists who still believe in the fallacy of the ONE or the soulmate myth. Most women (and far too many men) look at me as if I’d denied the existence of God when I elaborate on why I think their eHarmony, induced fantasies of a soulmate are hogwash”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“So yes, you should be seeking to reassure an LTR of your love and devotion, but know that due to women’s intrinsic fear of security loss and the competition anxiety that comes from a declining capacity to compete with her sisters’ attentions, you will never achieve an ideal state of contentment of it, and certainly not by relying solely on comfort and familiarity.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“It’s not a problem to be solved, it’s the communication that’s primary. When a chump supplies her with everything all at once we think, yeah, the mystery is gone, he’s not a challenge anymore, why would she be interested?”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“Ask a woman to name the most attractive female actress they can think of. Odds are it will be a woman (who as a guy you’d never think of)”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“He may not be obsessive about it enough to log his data into a spreadsheet, but he’s mindful and aware of what he’s doing. He understands the mechanism behind charm and can often turn it on or off depending on what he wants. He has learned the type of humor and story-telling that gets a positive response in women. The last thing you can say about him was that he was born into the world with the “automatic” ability to fuck a lot of girls.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“Communicate with your behavior. Never overtly tell a woman anything. Allow her to come to the conclusions you intend. Her imagination is the best tool in your”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“This discussion was the catalyst for one of my awakening realizations – despite all odds, people largely feel entitled to, or deserving of, an important love of their life.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“but how many men do you know who are what they are today as a result of their own real doing, unfettered by how their choices impact their girlfriend, wife, kids, parents, etc.?”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“How you handle being alone and what you do with the opportunities that freedom allows is the real measure of a man. If you’re single and 50 you STILL have options if you’re only brave enough to explore them. I know divorced men in their 50s who’re dating mid 30s women right now and I know men in their 60s who’ve been trapped and emotionally blackmailed by their wives for 30 years. Marriage is no insulation from the sexual marketplace.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“Women always have the prerogative to change their minds. Men must be resolute. Proactive and Reactive Pseudo-Friendship Rejections: LJBF rejections – “I already have a boyfriend” (boyfriend disclaimers) or “I’m not interested in a relationship right now” rejections.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“truth is supposed to make you uncomfortable in order to inspire you to action.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“you don’t find the perfect woman, you make the perfect woman.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“You: “I have an idea, lets fuck and then you can tell me how many girls you think I’ve been with, OK?”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

“Comfort comes from familiarity and predictability; all decidedly anti-seductive influences. And while comfort has its own merits in interpersonal relationships, it is not the basis for genuine, passionate sexual desire.”
― Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male