Do you believe that anything on the following list scares you?

Standing on a high ledge. Buying a house. Balancing your checkbook. Making an emotional commitment. Speaking before a large group of people.

If you said yes to any of these you fall into a nearly universal trap. Most people believe that when they are scared of something, the scare comes from outside of themselves. It is perfectly normal to say, “[Whatever it is] scares me.” If everyone talks about scare that way, then it must be...