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Somewhere out there someone is reading the above quote and saying, “Absolutely not, T, but thank you anyway.”

But it’s true.

The sad part is “some of us”, who haven’t had the best relationship with our mothers, often look for the worse part and choose to reflect on those moments. (I am certainly guilty as charged)

But what about her strength? What about her resilience in the face of adversity? What about how she always seemed to make a way for us?

Isn’t there something good about your mom? And if not, maybe the negatives are what we should aim not to reflect to our children.

If you want a strong child teach her love. Teach her self respect. Teach her to stand up for others who can’t stand up for themselves.

Don’t teach her petty arguments. Don’t teach her how to lie, hate or discriminate.

Teach her how to be the better part of yourself. The part you always wished you could be. – T. Styles

 

I get Oprah when she talks about her best friend Gayle. Outside of my boo thang my best knows my darkest secrets and I love her so much. ❤️

Whether we are traveling across the world or getting wasted just to sit in a movie theater and laugh through the film, she is everything and when we are together time flies.

We become kids again.

While I’ve learned so much from her what she’s taught me the most  (absent of an actual lesson) is how to be a good friend.

When times are hard I’m there for her and she’s ALWAYS there for me. When I need to hear the truth she tells me even if it’s hard to listen. With hectic lives between us, I make it my business to inquire about her life without jumping in to tell her about mine.

Having a best friend is God’s sweet way of giving you a companion during life’s journey.

A true best friend is a reflection of the kind of person you want to be. And as with all real friendships they should be cherished.

Have you noticed how the most ratchet toss around the word LOYALTY like it’s on sale? It use to mean something but now it’s a tool. Similar to candy for a pedophile.

So sad.

While the word ‘LOYALTY’ itself still holds meaning, those who have no business using it use it abuse it the most. Whether it be to guilt you into riding or dying with a cheating ass dude in jail, or guilt you into not pursuing your dreams until they are on their feet, you should never be held back by those who call you on your loyalty.

At the end of the day those who love you will hardly ever use the word. Because they realize that just like the word love, true loyalty requires nothing more than emotion and action. – T. Styles

I have been in many wars in my life. There was the Louis Vuitton Massacre in which my best friend scratched up my new car while taking her suit case out of the trunk even though I predicted it and told her to be careful. The punishment: I didn’t talk to her for two months because although she offered to pay for repairs she refused to see, and I quote “MY point”.

There was the murder on BURGER KING HILL when I told my baby to stop throwing my half eaten sandwiches away without asking. Later she tossed a Whopper I was looking forward to that had been in the fridge for three days (yuck) because she thought it was trash. The punishment: I gave her the silent treatment for a week because and I quote “SHE FAILED TO SEE THE ERROR OF HER WAYS”.

Then there was the war due to THE CASE OF THE UNTIMELY RETURNED CALLS (before cell phones and texting) in which my beau at the time refused to return my call in what I deemed to be a timely fashion. The punishment: He would reach out and I wouldn’t return his phone calls until days later. His punishment: He got tired  of the weird shit and dumped my ass.

After many battles, as I got older, I learned what real war was. Not receiving my royalties after writing three books. Being physically and mentally abused by my ex-husband. Suddenly it all made sense.

Life is precious and one should never waste time on petty arguments or disagreements. Choose your battles or you will be alone. No one wants to be around an evil person. Shine your light 90% of the time and those who truly love you will walk with you even in your darkness.

 

I could be wrong but I don’t think there are many novelists who write stories and immerse themselves into technical things at the same time. It’s like a mathematician who is also a painter— those lines of work don’t co-exist. But here I am writing Goon, running The Cartel Publications, shooting movies and editing them when they’re done. The weirdest part is I’m not sure which one I love more. I don’t want to think about it either.

 

I’m not the girly-girl type. I’ve never been. Yet here I am looking at venues in preparation for what some call, the most important day of my life.

 

The scheduled date seems so far off. I’m nervous. I’m anxious. And above all I want this to be the start of something sincere and amazing in my life.

 

One thing is for sure. I don’t take myself too seriously. So if I fall on the way down the aisle I’ll get up and laugh. If the cake breaks on the way to the table let it crack. Because I know when it’s all said and done, the only thing that matters is being with the one I love forever.

 

Wish me luck on quarterbacking my big day. I’m going to need it.

 

 

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T. Styles is the President and CEO of The Cartel Publications, an Urban Fiction Publishing house. The company has over 50 novels including breakout hits, Shyt List, Pitbulls In A Skirt, Raunchy, Quita's Dayscare Center and more.

Although most of the titles published by The Cartel Publications are street lit or urban fiction content, The Cartel also produces non-fiction titles. The most popular is 'The End: How To Write A Novel In 30 Days'. The End. How To Write A Bestselling Novel In 30 Days.

For more information on The Cartel Publications, visit www.thecartelpublications.com.

I’m not a fan of Valentine’s Day, but it isn’t because I don’t believe in love.

I rebel against any holiday created to stimulate the economy instead of its intended purpose. The expression of love shouldn’t be based on what your mate can buy you, instead how he/she makes you feel the other 364 days of the year.

Does a poor lover deserve any less recognition because he makes dinner or clean the house for his spouse on this day because he can’t afford a gift? Or what about those who lost a mate suddenly or to a disease? Does this day cause them more grief?

The practice of showing love should be everyday and not just one day of the year.

I’m just saying.

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