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May 19, 2015

Focus On The Things You Can Do Something About

Screen Shot 2015-05-19 at 5.30.40 AMTwo frogs were playing together when suddenly they fell together into a bucket of cream.


One frog quickly realized he didn’t have any way to gain his footing to get out, so shortly afterwards he accepted his fate and slipped under the surface and drowned.


Horrified, the second frog watched his friend give up and die.


But he was determined not to go himself without putting up a fight. He wasn’t sure of the best thing to do, so he just thrashed around, doing whatever he could to keep himself afloat. In time, he began to notice that the cream was growing thicker. He kept kicking, and after a while he discovered that the cream had turned to butter and he could easily hop out.


Here’s the thing to remember: What happens within us is at least as important as what happens to us.


We all face challenges—that’s a given, in leadership, work and in life. It’s how we choose to respond that makes all the difference. And that can be tough to figure out, especially when things are difficult.


But if we don’t want to drown we have to focus on the action we can take.


Here are some helpful thoughts to help the next time you need to churn the cream into butter:


Focus on the route, not the destination. Most of the time, you can’t know what the outcome will be. And that’s OK. Even the worst possibilities are seldom as dire as drowning in a bucket. Stumbles and failure are part of success, so take your focus off the results you fear and concentrate on your best path forward.


Focus on what you have, not what you lack. Faced with a challenge, it’s easy to focus on what you’re missing. But there’s no better moment to take stock of who you are and what you have—within you and around you.


Focus on what you can do, and not what you can’t. It’s always going to be easier to give up rather than to fight. But it means you’ll never move ahead. Put up a good fight and keep it up until the end.


Focus on containing the challenge and not drowning in the drama.  We all know someone who seems to magnify every problem they encounter. Don’t be that person. If there’s drama, walk away. If there’s discord and blaming, don’t participate. Keep your focus on solving the problem at hand.


Focus on trusting yourself and not wavering within. Don’t allow anyone else to make decisions for you.  Remember, part of leadership is coming up with new ways of doing old things. Be the person who shows their leadership in times of challenge.


Challenges are tough and frightening. But, with the right focus, it can help you build a stronger version of yourself.


Lead from Within. When facing a difficult challenge we must focus on the things we can do something about—because struggling with challenges is a natural part of growing, developing, and leading.


Lolly Daskal is the president and Founder of Lead From Within a consulting firm specializing in executive leadership coaching and customized leadership programs. Connect with Lolly Daskal


Additional Reading:


At The Risk Of Being Changed

The Power Of Parting: 7 Things You Need To Stop Doing

Lead From Where You Are And With All That You

The Wisdom Of Whole Hearted Leading


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May 12, 2015

It Takes Each Of Us To Make A Difference For All Of Us

Screen Shot 2015-05-05 at 10.24.48 AMCompetition today is fierce; change is everywhere and windows of opportunity seem to be gone before they are fully open. In times like this the responsibility of leadership can feel heavier than usual.


But it doesn’t have to be this way.


The honest truth is this: We can all succeed and we can all be less stressed if everyone has the opportunity to lead and does their share.


If we work together and have one another’s backs, then we will all share in our wins.


Here are some simple but significant ways we can all lead, and succeed, together:


Everyone leads. If each of us were to step up to own our own leadership, we would have a huge number of people taking action and moving forward and creating a great force. The drive for leadership carries itself forward.


Everyone contributes. The job of a leader is to get everyone to understand and believe that each one has something powerful to contribute, and that their contribution is vital to success. The more diverse the effort, the better.


Everyone dares. We all have it within us to dare, to take the risks. When everyone is empowered to lead, we can seize opportunity and act decisively even in the absence of certainty.


Everyone commits. Commitment takes courage and tenacity, because we never know where the journey will actually take us. The willingness to commit, to persevere, to follow through, is among the strongest of forces.


Everyone trusts. It’s an old adage of management: Find the most talented people you can and trust them. And that trust, in turn, inspires them to trust one another, and you. When the crunch comes, and it always does, trust is the greatest asset any team can have.


Everyone believes. A huge part of leadership lies communicating a vision, a purpose, a shared ideal. Fostering belief in others does not come from money or coercion; it comes from a shared commitment and purpose.


Everyone appreciates. Each one of us wants to be treated as a unique and valuable individual. Appreciation comes from empowering others, and great leadership comes from recognizing others for who they are and what they bring to the team.


Everyone inspires. When people share victories, they inspire one another. The key to inspiration is to find those who lift others up, whose sheer presence calls forth the best from those around them.


Everyone influences. Influencing others means respecting them, by mentoring them, coaching them—not as the one in the spotlight, but leading the applause. When everyone gives of their influence, teams are unstoppable.


Everyone succeeds. Success is much more meaningful when it comes from a joint effort. When it’s not about us individually but all of us together, we all share the victory and are strengthened as a team for the next challenge.


Lead From Within: Leadership isn’t supposed to be a solo act. It takes each one of us fulfilling our personal purpose to make a difference together—and when that happens, we all succeed.


Lolly Daskal is the president and Founder of Lead From Within a consulting firm specializing in executive leadership coaching and customized leadership programs. Connect with Lolly Daskal

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The Wisdom Of Whole Hearted Leading
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Let Your Leadership Speak For Itself
Lead By Example Others Will Follow

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May 5, 2015

The Act of Empowering Others Changes Lives

Screen Shot 2015-05-04 at 10.05.52 PMHe was sincere and pleasant, but he was also shy and kept to himself. He prided himself on never drawing too much attention to himself.


His style of leadership was in fact a lack of leadership, in which he left most of his employees to their own devices.


He was good man but he was not a leader, and now his company was paying a steep price.


Through coaching I had to explain what a true leader was and how empowering others is an important aspect of leadership. He asked why? “Because it changes lives,” I said.


We can map out our leadership by the ways in which we empower others:


By helping them reach new heights. As a leader you share your knowledge and your wisdom. You make a point of investing time and resources to show your people that you believe in them, and it’s a win-win situation for all. Your job is to see the potential, find out what they lack to develop it, and equip them with what they need.


By appreciating them. Everyone wants to feel that they count for something and are important to someone. People will work harder, and work more, for those who care about them, and their trust will earn you respect.


By having the right attitude. If you want to be successful at empowering people, you need to be mindful of how you show up, how you respond and react, and how you deal with conflict. Attitudes are contagious—and that fact is especially important when you’re working to empower others.


By sharing information and giving them what they need. The best leaders think about what their people need to do their jobs well. You can’t just take for granted that they have all that they need; you engage and share information and give them the knowledge and tools they need to be successful.


By modeling the way of empowerment. The best leaders let others see, hear, and experience what empowerment is. They are mindful of their attitude, their moods, and their ethics—aware that people are looking to them to set an example.


By grooming others for leadership. When you groom others you are transferring authority to them, allowing them to share in the load, and giving them opportunity to lead. In empowering them you’re ultimately working toward the day when you can hand over the baton.


Just about everyone has the potential to empower others. Start looking for opportunities today, and see your leadership grow.


Lead From Within: When you empower people, you’re influencing not only them, but also all the people they will influence in turn through their leadership. That is empowering.


Lolly Daskal is the president and Founder of Lead From Within a consulting firm specializing in executive leadership coaching and customized leadership programs. Connect with Lolly Daskal

Additional Reading:


At The Risk Of Being Changed


• The Power Of Parting: 7 Things You Need To Stop Doing 


Lead From Where You Are And With All That You 


The Wisdom Of Whole Hearted Leading


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April 28, 2015

You Are The Message Make It Meaningful

Screen Shot 2015-04-27 at 12.43.44 PMEverything, it seems, is changing: business, politics, communication, even the climate. But who you are should be a constant. If you want to attain the things you want, you must first know what is your message.


Your message is our leadership story, here are a few principles to help you define what matters:


You get the best out of others when you give the best of yourself. If you know what you want to achieve, you must know and understand your strong and weak points and be comfortable with who you are. When you can reach out to people authentically, it makes others comfortable. And when you understand your best and know how to give it, it unlocks excellence in those around you.


A set of clear values simplifies decision making. Your basic core values—what you believe—informs decision, every judgment, and every action that you make. When you’ve invested time in defining and understanding those values, they become second nature. Decisions are easier, and over time you become known as someone with a strong and consistent moral code.


It’s not just what happens to you that determines how far you will go; it is also how you handle what happens to you. Attitude is more important than education, money, circumstances, failure, success or any other factor in your life and work. There are many things in life you cannot change, but you choose your attitude every day.


Make sure that what you’re doing today is taking you closer to your goals. Set challenging but attainable goals and a compelling vision, then keep your focus there. It’s easy for short-term failure or distraction to take you off track. Setting your goals is like setting your compass. Once you’ve done it, you can check in often and save yourself a lot of aimless wandering.


You can acquire knowledge by studying, but wisdom comes with observation. Pay careful attention to the people around you. Notice their reactions; listen to what they say; think about what they’re leaving out. Let yourself learn from every vantage point.


Be yourself. As the saying goes, everyone else is taken. Don’t change to fit in, but seek out and develop your best qualities. We are what we pretend to be, so be careful about what you choose.


Persistence will get you there; consistency will keep you there. Don’t change your style of communication, or message depending on the circumstance. Be the same whether you are talking one on one or standing in front of a room of a thousand. Adapt to your audience and context, but keep your messaging consistent.


If things are to move forward, someone must be willing to take charge. Even in the hardest—and the best—of times, don’t leave things up to chance. It’s your responsibility to make sure that your company, brand, and organization exemplify what they stand for and what they are capable of. If you don’t shape the message, someone else will.


Alone we can do so little; together we can do so much. Finding good players is easy. Getting them to play as a team is another story. Coming together with a great team is a beginning, staying together is progress, and working together is what brings you success. When you have the right team, you have a group of people who are on your side, spreading the same message with the same passion as you.


Your leadership narrative is created by being who you are.


Lead From Within. As we create and develop businesses, companies, and our leadership, we can achieve much more with focus, discipline, and attention to everything we say and everything we do because it’s conveying our message–so lets make it meaningful.


 


Lolly Daskal is the president and Founder of Lead From Within a consulting firm specializing in executive leadership coaching and customized leadership programs. Connect with Lolly Daskal

Additional Reading:

 

At The Risk Of Being Changed


• The Power Of Parting: 7 Things You Need To Stop Doing 


Lead From Where You Are And With All That You 


The Wisdom Of Whole Hearted Leading

 

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April 21, 2015

The Divided Will Always Be Separated

Screen Shot 2015-04-19 at 6.47.06 AMHe called because everyone on his leadership team said he needed a great coach.


He was head of a large global organization, and the feedback he kept getting is that he was a lousy leader.


I thought to myself, This must be either a brave organization or a desperate one to ask their CEO to seek help. I wouldn’t know which until I spoke to him.


The call was going fine until he said, “Stop asking me questions about myself—let’s do a 360 and figure out what’s wrong, and then you can give me some processes and I will make things right.”


Surprised, I asked him, “What do you mean?”


He said, “Let’s not dive too deeply into who I am as a person. That’s not relevant. What matters here is who I am when I show up at work. And that is all.”


Any leader who thinks that they can divide their personal and professional life is setting themselves up for disillusionment.


Because the honest truth is this: What gets divided gets separated. And the price is high.


Who you are as a person is who you bring to work. The best leaders bring their entire being to work, because they know that who you are says more than any words. There are three essentials to leadership: humility, clarity, and courage—and they require your all


What we try ignore is what we ordinarily highlight. Ignoring something doesn’t mean it isn’t there. In fact, life has a way of highlighting what we try to hide. As someone leading a team or a business, remember that people are looking to you—and noticing the things you choose not to deal with.


When we diverge we are most likely disrupting.  Another strategy for failure is to try to divert a problem to another leader or work group. The only difference between trying to ignore a problem and trying to divert it is that diversion disrupts another work group in addition to your own. If you own it, recognize it and deal with it before it becomes an emergency.


When we don’t deal with conflict it generally comes with a price. When you try to avoid difficult people, strenuous situations, or tough circumstances, you are failing to lead. How many times have you hoped to yourself Maybe if I don’t deal with it, it will go away? And how many times has the situation only grown worse as a result?


When we insist on fooling ourselves we are only deceiving ourselves. If you think you can consistently fool yourself, you’re likely headed for major trouble. Great leadership requires honesty, beginning with yourself. The consequences of long-term deceit are enormous—for you personally and for your organization.


A company, a team, a leader that is divided against itself will never stand.


What’s the difference between a leader and a lousy leader?


A leader works in the open, and a lousy leader is covert.

A leader leads, and a lousy leader doesn’t even drive.

A leader is about integration; the lousy leader is about separation.
 


We are as strong as we are united, and as weak as we are divided.


Lead From Within: What lies within us is what connects us, not separates us. All we need to do is look, listen, learn, and lead. Our humanity and unity are the things that make us strong.


Lolly Daskal is the president and Founder of Lead From Within a consulting firm specializing in executive leadership coaching and customized leadership programs. Connect with Lolly Daskal

Additional Reading:

 At The Risk Of Being Changed


•  The Power Of Parting: 7 Things You Need To Stop Doing 


•  Lead From Where You Are And With All That You 


•  The Wisdom Of Whole Hearted Leading


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April 14, 2015

The Best Leaders Shine from Within

Screen Shot 2015-04-14 at 7.08.00 AMThere is an old fable by Aseop about a man, the wind, and the sun.


One day the wind and the sun were talking about which was stronger. When they saw a man walking below in his overcoat, they decided to see who was more powerful. They dared each other to a contest: who could get the man’s coat off?


The wind blew harshly down on the man, but the more powerfully it blew, the more tightly he wrapped his coat around himself.


Then the sun came out and started warming the air. The man started to unbutton his coat, and then as the sun grew brighter he took it off and sat down in the shade.


The wind, furious, asked, “How did you get him to take off his coat? What force did you use?” The sun said, “No force—I did it through gentleness and brightness.”


It may not seem so on the surface, but this story has everything to do with leadership.


Great leadership operates like the sun:


The best leaders shine when they help others weather storms. They’ve experienced defeat, suffering, struggle, and loss, and they’ve found their way out of the depths. As a result, they’re filled with warmth, compassion, and a gentle force. Like the sun, they bring comforting warmth and dry the rain.


The best leaders shine when they show respect. Their actions express interest and caring, no matter who they’re dealing with. They’re consistently thoughtful and generous. Like the sun, they illuminate everything around them.


The best leaders shine when they encourage others. Their encouragement lifts spirits, enhances self-confidence, and adds fuel to the work of others. Just a few simple words convey understanding and inspiration. Like the sun, they lend their radiance to everything they touch.


The best leaders shine when they listen with interest.When they listen, they really listen—in a spirit of caring and engagement, not just to gather information or pass the time or be polite. Like the sun, they bring light and clarity.


The best leaders shine when they acknowledge others. They make those around them feel valued and important—inspiring them to excel at everything they do. Like the sun, they infuse whatever they touch with their energy.


When the sun is shining warmly on us we feel we can do almost anything—no mountain is too high, no wind is too strong, no trouble too difficult to overcome. The best leaders have the same effect: they shine from within and they are gentle, kind, and powerful.


Lead From Within: Anyone can be a leader, but the leader who shines, who uses their power to help others, is the one who inspires everyone around to do their best.


Lolly Daskal is the president and Founder of Lead From Within a consulting firm specializing in executive leadership coaching and customized leadership programs. Connect with Lolly Daskal


Additional Reading:


 At The Risk Of Being Changed

 The Power Of Parting: 7 Things You Need To Stop Doing

Lead From Where You Are And With All That You

The Wisdom Of Whole Hearted Leading


Photo Credit: Getty Images


 


 


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April 7, 2015

Wear Your Life Like a Loose Garment

Screen Shot 2015-03-22 at 7.26.21 AMWe all know life can be hard and leadership can be difficult.


And far too often we add unnecessary negativity and unwarranted pressure with our stress.


So why not think of life as a garment—something you wear, something that covers and protects you.


You don’t have to wear it tight and taut. And you don’t have to treat it solemnly and seriously. You can make it comfortable, functional, and something that reflects who you are.


When you wear life as a loose garment, you can…


Get to the naked truth. The false beliefs and distortions that keep you from your best self are not your truth. You must do everything in your power to ban those thoughts that keep you playing small. Because nothing will change until you can live your truth fully.


Give the shirt off your back. When you don’t think you have enough, that is the time to give more. Help others and see what you receive in return.


Walk in someone’s shoes. If you’re feeling down about yourself, make it a point to see with the eyes of another, listen with the ears of another, and walk in the shoes of another. Empathy is among the greatest of gifts.


Don’t dress others down.  When you’re lacking in confidence , be vigilant because the last thing you want to elevate yourself at the expense of someone else. When you are looking down at others, chances are no one is looking up to you.


Wear your heart on your sleeve. If you you feel needy and wanting, make time to spend with family and friends and those whose company you enjoy. Show them how much they mean to you and wear your love openly.


Don’t be a stuffed shirt. You always have a choice: You can be stubborn and argumentative, proving your point and insisting on your own way. Or you can overrule self-centeredness and actually have an open heart and mind.


Take off your hat. Even when your needs are not being met, you can always find a reason to show appreciation and gratitude to those around you. It is the most important gift you can give to others (and to yourself).


Treat people with kid gloves. You may be fighting a hard battle, but make room to show grace and compassion to others. Remember that everyone you see is fighting a battle of their own.


Don’t keep it your pocket. Don’t hold on to things because you’re scared of rejection or alienation. Say what you have to say, and don’t hold back. Express yourself with a full heart of passion.


Dress your best. Focus on what truly matters and cultivate your own taste for the best by investing in habits of character and integrity.


Our leadership fashion is the language that creates garments of our interpreted realities.


Lead From Within: It’s always tempting to give up when life is hard. But to hold it together when everyone expects you to fall apart takes true strength. Check your garments of life and loosen them up so you can lead with confidence.


Lolly Daskal is the president and Founder of Lead From Within a consulting firm specializing in executive leadership coaching and customized leadership programs. Connect with Lolly Daskal

Additional Reading:



At The Risk Of Being Changed 
The Power Of Parting: 7 Things You Need To Stop Doing
Lead From Where You Are And With All That You
The Wisdom Of Whole Hearted Leading

 


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March 31, 2015

At The Risk of Being Changed

Screen Shot 2015-03-22 at 7.11.13 AMShe was an successful leader in charge of a large global team, revered but also feared. Her success had not come overnight but after great challenges and enormous difficulties.


When I met her in her office she was negative, cynical and angry, so edgy and tense and defensive it was hard to talk to her. I had been hired as her coach to help her.


In time, she was able to overcome the marks of her troubling journey. But to do so, she had to face an element of risk: letting go of her familiar defenses and opening herself to the possibility of change.


We are not born into cynicism, anger, tension, or defensiveness. They arise in response to the circumstances of our lives. To be effective as leaders, we have to work through and move beyond those acquired traits, to alter our responses.


We have to risk being changed.


To change our negativity, we must ask ourselves how it serves us. If you expect the worst, you’ll never be disappointed. A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity, but an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty. the choice is ours.


To change our cynicism, we must ask ourselves where it originates. Cynicism sometimes masquerades as wisdom. Because cynics are afraid they will get hurt or be disappointed, they cut to the chase and they say no before anything bad can happen. But no keeps us closed off. Saying yes begins things and gives them room to grow. Saying yes leads to knowledge.


To change our edginess, we must ask ourselves what’s stressing us. In times of stress, the best thing we can do for each other is to listen with our ears and our hearts and to remember that feelings are just as important as thinking. Under stress, we can train ourselves to go in either direction—toward the positive or the negative.


To change our anger, we must ask ourselves what’s angering us. It is wise to direct your anger toward problems, not people, and to focus your energies on answers, not excuses. Anger is usually a feeling that makes our mouths work faster than our minds, and then we regret it.


To change our tension, we must ask ourselves if our agitation is making us unworkable. When we lead with anxiety we are allowing the pressure of the job to take over. In so doing, we risk leaving destructive marks on those around us.


To be changed, we have to weigh what has happened to us against what is happening within us.


It is hard to stay grounded when you feel the ground has been pulled from underneath you. But leadership is a challenge that dares us to study ourselves, at every nook and cranny, every black hole and bright spot, whether it’s murky, creepy, splendid, spooky, frightening, joyful, inspiring or wrathful—and then to have the courage to address and change the things that aren’t serving us well.


Lead From Within: To risk changing ourselves we must look within ourselves and find what is confused and what is brilliant, what is bitter and what is sweet. When we do, it isn’t just ourselves that we’re discovering, but everyone and everything.


Lolly Daskal is the president and Founder of Lead From Within a consulting firm specializing in executive leadership coaching and customized leadership programs. Connect with Lolly Daskal

Additional Reading:


•    The Wisdom Of Whole Hearted Leading

•    Codes Of Conduct To Lead

•    Let Your Leadership Speak For Itself

•    Lead By Example Others Will Follow


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March 24, 2015

Why Do We Have To Make Others Wrong To Be Right?

Screen Shot 2015-03-22 at 6.39.16 AMPeople sometimes have to make others wrong to be right. They do it not to be rude, not to be mean, not to be hateful but because they fear their own bad feelings.


Simply put, when we think we’re right we feel good, and when we’re wrong we feel bad.


But it’s not always about right or wrong.


How can we relate to others without making them, or ourselves, feel bad?


We must lead with an open and nonjudgmental heart. Wronging others is a way of protecting ourselves. Instead we must allow ourselves to feel what we feel without pushing it on. It means we must accept ourselves and others—even the parts we don’t like—with no judgment.


We must lead from a broader scope than the realities we perceive. When we’re not caught up in our own version of reality, we can see and hear and feel who others really are, and we can we better understand and accept other people’s opinions and ideas.


We must lead from the middle, not the front or back. Instead of classifying others as right or wrong, or focusing on what we see as right and wrong in ourselves, there’s a powerful middle way. When we stand in front or behind, we separate ourselves from those around us.


We must lead from security, even in insecure realms. Leading from the middle means keeping our hearts and minds open to the idea that when we label things right or wrong, we’re really trying to obtain our own security.


We must lead with no agenda and be comfortable with uncertainty. Can our minds and hearts be big enough to handle uncertainty about who may be right or wrong? Can we walk into a room with another person with no agenda or reason to make that person wrong or right?


We must lead with open spaces and not sharp corners of judgment. We must see, hear, and feel other people as they really are. It is powerful to lead in this way, because true communication can happen only when we open ourselves to learning and self-expression. There is nothing more beneficial in any situation than communication with understanding.


We must lead without blame, shame, or constraint. All three are techniques to solidify ourselves by casting something outside ourselves as wrong or out of control.



All of us are in relationships every day, and every day we face the risk that someone we encounter may trigger our unresolved issues.


To coexist and lead means extending compassion and understanding—a process that begins with all those unwanted parts of ourselves, all those imperfections that we don’t even want to look at.


Compassion isn’t some kind of self-improvement project or ideal that we are trying to live up to. It’s a daily discipline to make ourselves better and to understand and stay neutral when we are triggered so that we can better serve.


Lead From Within: True leadership is about communication, understanding, and acceptance. What we reject out there is what we reject in ourselves, and what we reject in ourselves is what we are going to reject in others.


Lolly Daskal is the president and Founder of Lead From Within a consulting firm specializing in executive leadership coaching and customized leadership programs. Connect with Lolly Daskal

Additional Reading:


•    The Wisdom Of Whole Hearted Leading

•    Codes Of Conduct To Lead

•    Let Your Leadership Speak For Itself

•    Lead By Example Others Will Follow


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March 17, 2015

Lessons from Geese: A Better Way to Lead

Screen Shot 2015-03-16 at 9.46.27 PMWhen it comes to leadership, we can draw inspiration from many places — even from nature. Take for instance the great northern geese, shrewd and wild birds with a lot to teach us.


Unity. A flock of great northern geese will fly thousands of miles in a perfect V formation. As each bird moves its wings, it creates an uplift for the bird that is following. It’s estimated that their formation flying is 70 percent more efficient than flying alone.


We prosper when we share a common direction and sense of community. We can get where we are going faster and better when we are traveling together and trusting each other forward than when we are traveling alone.


Interdependence. At a distance the flock appears to be guided by a single leader. But the lead bird does not in fact guide the formation. When the lead bird tires, it rotates back in the formation to take advantage of the lifting power of the birds in front.


Leadership is best shared. We can excel if we stay in formation with those headed where we want to go, accepting their help and giving ours. True leadership means interdependence.


Encouragement. Each flock finds its own unique rhythm and spirit. The pulsating sound of the huge flapping wings excites and energizes the entire formation; the geese enthusiastically honk from behind to encourage those in front to keep up their speed.


We need to make sure we are honking words of encouragement to each other. Encouragement is powerful: Groups where it is practiced are far more productive.


Loyalty. When a member of the flock becomes sick or wounded, two geese drop out of the formation and follow it down to help and protect it. They stay with it until it is able to fly again—then they soar off together to catch up with the flock.


We can find strength in standing by each other,  in strength and in difficulty.


Rejuvenation. In the northern hemisphere, geese fly south to spend the winter in a warmer climate.


Especially in the cold and darkness of winter, it’s important to remember to get away, to refresh ourselves, to recharge.


When you have a leadership that is based on unity, interdependence, encouragement, loyalty and rejuvenation, you have leadership that is not only meaningful but matters.


Lead From Within: There is a way that nature speaks and most of the time we are simply not patient enough or quiet enough, to pay attention to the story. Learn your leadership lessons from anyone with something to teach. Every opportunity, every circumstance, every story has a lesson to impart.


Lolly Daskal is the president and Founder of Lead From Within a consulting firm specializing in executive leadership coaching and customized leadership programs. Connect with Lolly Daskal

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•    The Wisdom Of Whole Hearted Leading

•    Codes Of Conduct To Lead

•    Let Your Leadership Speak For Itself

•    Lead By Example Others Will Follow


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Published on March 17, 2015 04:00