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IMPORTANT: My most important epiphany and message for others...
Epiphany: What Makes Someone Successful?
I had an epiphany last night that will transform your life...
I discovered the most important reason some people are successful and some people are not successful.
There is one fundamental difference, one simple distinction between the most important, successful leaders and historical figures in the world compared to the average person...one common characteristic that made them successful.
The good news is...once you have the answer, you will be well on your path to achieving the success in life you dream about.
Additionally, this answer is simple to implement and act upon. I will walk you through that step, taking action, later here in this blog.
I am even willing to say, this is the one piece of information that will be the reason you finally find success in life, once you take action on it.
Additional 1.5 Years of Thought
It has been almost a year since I published (almost 1.5 years since I completed writing), Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement.
Mentor Me was written to provide a real-world, practical (not just theoretical like so many books) guide for people to take positive action in life. It delivers tools to help people achieve their definition of ultimate success, in a concise, easy-to-read, and easy-to-implement package.
Many deeper themes are also written into Mentor Me in order to stimulate profound thoughts about life...some of these themes are subtle and some are not-so-subtle.
Within its pages are the mindset, exercises, and useful tools to help people on their journey to fulfill their Greatest Achievement (GA).
The Thought Process to The Answer
First a few questions, then I will provide the answer to what makes someone successful.
You deserve to have the answer and to achieve the success you dream of in life.
I will ask you for something in return...share this blog and this information with others.
Please help someone else achieve their dreams and their definition of success in life.
My Question for You
Who are you and what is most important to you in life?
In other words, how do you define yourself and your life?
This seems like a very fundamental question. Yet, if I asked you this question in person right now, could you communicate your answer succinctly and effectively?
Try it right now. Please write down...how do you define yourself and your life?
I am guessing you are just like most of the people to whom I have posed that question...you are struggling with a concise definition of you.
The Answer
Having a deep-rooted knowledge, conviction, and belief of yourself, who you are and what is important to you, is the fundamental basis of focusing your life for success.
This is the biggest difference between those who are successful in life and those who are not.
Think of the most successful person you know...either someone personally or someone you admire; a contemporary or someone from history.
Think of the qualities that person exhibits or exhibited in history. They have a "presence" when they enter a room. People are naturally attracted to them, want to follow them, and to be a part of their lives. Why?
...because this person knows who they are, they can define themselves, and concisely, effectively communicate that definition to others.
They have a direction in life and people want to follow them because it is our human nature to want to be a part of something bigger than us.
We all want to be in the presence of success, greatness, and inspirational leadership. It is our innate constitution to want to achieve, or be a part of something remarkable, earth-shattering, and truly great.
Everyone wants to have a greater purpose in life. Exceptional, charismatic leaders exude confidence and attract followers who believe in them. Their followers believe they will be taken to a place of greatest achievement in life, well above what they could have achieved on their own.
It all starts with defining yourself, having a solid, foundational belief in who you are, what is important to you, and the ability to communicate that effectively to others.
Once you can define yourself, radiate the confidence and belief in who you are, where you are going in life, and concisely, effectively communicate this to others...people will follow you and help you achieve your definition of success.
The X Factor
Last night I realized, that is the difference between great leaders throughout history and the rest of the population.
Some call it the "X Factor." Yet, to my knowledge, no one has succinctly defined the "X Factor" and told you how to construct your own "X Factor"...until today.
Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Alexander the Great, George Washington, Mohatma Gahndi, Mother Teresa, Jesus Christ, etc... all the great and historically relevant leaders in the world:
If you asked any of them, they could answer that question, how do you define yourself and your life?
Any one of them could readily define themselves, radiate confidence in their belief of that definition, and concisely communicate that definition effectively to others.
Deliberately I used diverse names from varied backgrounds, such as, innovative business leaders, nation or empire builders, names synonymous with peace and love, and religious leaders in my example above to make a point...you define you.
Whatever defines you and is most important to you is up to you.
Your definition may be with respect to your profession, your business, your community, your family, your religion, etc...
...it can be anything as long as it is yours and you define it. Your definition of you and your purpose of being is yours to decide and yours alone, which leads me to my next point:
Define Yourself; Do Not Let Others Define You
Once you have constructed your definition of you, you believe it with conviction, and you can communicate it effectively to others...then nothing anyone else says can truly harm you.
Your definition of you is like a suit of armor protecting you in the battles of every day life.
Once you have this deep-rooted belief and understanding of who you are and what is most important to you, then anything anyone else says to you outside of this definition cannot penetrate the emotional armor you have donned.
Anything anyone says will bounce off and be discarded by your conscious and subconscious mind if it is not congruent, or in alignment with, your deep-rooted conviction of your definition of you.
As I wrote in Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement, there is constructive and destructive criticism.
When you have a firm belief and definition of yourself, you can easily shrug off any destructive criticism of you, with the true knowledge and belief it is not accurate, or worthy of a second thought from you.
Your definition of you is like an impenetrable tank, protecting you every second of each day from words of jealousy, hatred, bullying, or abuse.
You Will Be Unstoppable In Achieving Success
By establishing your definition of you, you will attract people to you who will reinforce your positive self image.
People will want to help, nurture, and follow you, while you ward off and repel those who want to harm you, or feed you destructive criticism.
Furthermore, your definition of you will provide you the confidence, direction, and focus in life to achieve your greatest accomplishments.
It will be the guiding principal for your life, directing you to success and making course corrections to your targeted goals like an unstoppable, guided missile.
Some people define themselves through their profession, career, family, relationships, affiliation with groups, church, religion, etc... your definition is completely individualized and it will encompass all that is most important to you.
So how do you physically, concisely, and effectively do this? How do you define yourself and your life? How do you write this down in a way that is easily communicated to others?
Define You: The IBT Model
Last night I came up with a model, or framework, to help people define themselves, write it down, and concisely, effectively communicate this definition to others; I call it the IBT Model.
Write down on a piece of paper the following three words, leaving space between them so you can fill in the blanks.
Write:
I
By
Through
Then think about how you will define you and what is most important to you:
"I" is who you are.
"By" states how you accomplish who you are and your life purpose in relation to you.
"Through" states what medium you use to accomplish your life purpose.
So take some time right now, think about you, your life, and what is most important to you.
As I wrote in Mentor Me, "Something magical happens when we put down what we want on a piece of paper, verbalize it, visualize it, define it, and allow ourselves to experience it…We can program ourselves to have it!"
Your Definition of You in Writing
Write it down, believe it with conviction, and communicate it effectively to others.
I will share what I wrote last night as my definition of me as an example:
"I help people define and achieve their definition of success by providing information, motivation, and inspiration through writing books and coaching."
The people I help can be friends, family, a member of a group I am affiliated with, someone in my community, etc...anyone. It is an all encompassing definition of me.
In order to easily share this with others, I created a photo quote which is located here:
https://www.goodreads.com/photo/autho...
Once you write down your definition of you, refer to it each day. It will be the guiding force for your life, your being, and drive you toward success.
Having this written statement, your deeply-rooted definition of you, is the difference between the greatest leaders and historical figures of all time versus the average person.
You now have the foundation to truly achieve your definition of success.
Help Others and Continue Your Journey
Share this blog with others, help them define themselves, and take the next step...map out your blueprint to achieve your dreams.
In Mentor Me, I assemble the exercises and tools to help people define and achieve their lifelong goal(s), their Greatest Achievement (GA).
After all, you have seen my definition of me:
"I help people define and achieve their definition of success by providing information, motivation, and inspiration through writing books and coaching."
Now that you have your definition of you, pick up a copy of Mentor Me and continue your journey:
http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00KPGM28C
Continue on your path to achieving your definition of success...your Greatest Achievement (GA).
Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement
Ken Poirot
Warmly,
Ken Poirot
I had an epiphany last night that will transform your life...
I discovered the most important reason some people are successful and some people are not successful.
There is one fundamental difference, one simple distinction between the most important, successful leaders and historical figures in the world compared to the average person...one common characteristic that made them successful.
The good news is...once you have the answer, you will be well on your path to achieving the success in life you dream about.
Additionally, this answer is simple to implement and act upon. I will walk you through that step, taking action, later here in this blog.
I am even willing to say, this is the one piece of information that will be the reason you finally find success in life, once you take action on it.
Additional 1.5 Years of Thought
It has been almost a year since I published (almost 1.5 years since I completed writing), Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement.
Mentor Me was written to provide a real-world, practical (not just theoretical like so many books) guide for people to take positive action in life. It delivers tools to help people achieve their definition of ultimate success, in a concise, easy-to-read, and easy-to-implement package.
Many deeper themes are also written into Mentor Me in order to stimulate profound thoughts about life...some of these themes are subtle and some are not-so-subtle.
Within its pages are the mindset, exercises, and useful tools to help people on their journey to fulfill their Greatest Achievement (GA).
The Thought Process to The Answer
First a few questions, then I will provide the answer to what makes someone successful.
You deserve to have the answer and to achieve the success you dream of in life.
I will ask you for something in return...share this blog and this information with others.
Please help someone else achieve their dreams and their definition of success in life.
My Question for You
Who are you and what is most important to you in life?
In other words, how do you define yourself and your life?
This seems like a very fundamental question. Yet, if I asked you this question in person right now, could you communicate your answer succinctly and effectively?
Try it right now. Please write down...how do you define yourself and your life?
I am guessing you are just like most of the people to whom I have posed that question...you are struggling with a concise definition of you.
The Answer
Having a deep-rooted knowledge, conviction, and belief of yourself, who you are and what is important to you, is the fundamental basis of focusing your life for success.
This is the biggest difference between those who are successful in life and those who are not.
Think of the most successful person you know...either someone personally or someone you admire; a contemporary or someone from history.
Think of the qualities that person exhibits or exhibited in history. They have a "presence" when they enter a room. People are naturally attracted to them, want to follow them, and to be a part of their lives. Why?
...because this person knows who they are, they can define themselves, and concisely, effectively communicate that definition to others.
They have a direction in life and people want to follow them because it is our human nature to want to be a part of something bigger than us.
We all want to be in the presence of success, greatness, and inspirational leadership. It is our innate constitution to want to achieve, or be a part of something remarkable, earth-shattering, and truly great.
Everyone wants to have a greater purpose in life. Exceptional, charismatic leaders exude confidence and attract followers who believe in them. Their followers believe they will be taken to a place of greatest achievement in life, well above what they could have achieved on their own.
It all starts with defining yourself, having a solid, foundational belief in who you are, what is important to you, and the ability to communicate that effectively to others.
Once you can define yourself, radiate the confidence and belief in who you are, where you are going in life, and concisely, effectively communicate this to others...people will follow you and help you achieve your definition of success.
The X Factor
Last night I realized, that is the difference between great leaders throughout history and the rest of the population.
Some call it the "X Factor." Yet, to my knowledge, no one has succinctly defined the "X Factor" and told you how to construct your own "X Factor"...until today.
Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Alexander the Great, George Washington, Mohatma Gahndi, Mother Teresa, Jesus Christ, etc... all the great and historically relevant leaders in the world:
If you asked any of them, they could answer that question, how do you define yourself and your life?
Any one of them could readily define themselves, radiate confidence in their belief of that definition, and concisely communicate that definition effectively to others.
Deliberately I used diverse names from varied backgrounds, such as, innovative business leaders, nation or empire builders, names synonymous with peace and love, and religious leaders in my example above to make a point...you define you.
Whatever defines you and is most important to you is up to you.
Your definition may be with respect to your profession, your business, your community, your family, your religion, etc...
...it can be anything as long as it is yours and you define it. Your definition of you and your purpose of being is yours to decide and yours alone, which leads me to my next point:
Define Yourself; Do Not Let Others Define You
Once you have constructed your definition of you, you believe it with conviction, and you can communicate it effectively to others...then nothing anyone else says can truly harm you.
Your definition of you is like a suit of armor protecting you in the battles of every day life.
Once you have this deep-rooted belief and understanding of who you are and what is most important to you, then anything anyone else says to you outside of this definition cannot penetrate the emotional armor you have donned.
Anything anyone says will bounce off and be discarded by your conscious and subconscious mind if it is not congruent, or in alignment with, your deep-rooted conviction of your definition of you.
As I wrote in Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement, there is constructive and destructive criticism.
When you have a firm belief and definition of yourself, you can easily shrug off any destructive criticism of you, with the true knowledge and belief it is not accurate, or worthy of a second thought from you.
Your definition of you is like an impenetrable tank, protecting you every second of each day from words of jealousy, hatred, bullying, or abuse.
You Will Be Unstoppable In Achieving Success
By establishing your definition of you, you will attract people to you who will reinforce your positive self image.
People will want to help, nurture, and follow you, while you ward off and repel those who want to harm you, or feed you destructive criticism.
Furthermore, your definition of you will provide you the confidence, direction, and focus in life to achieve your greatest accomplishments.
It will be the guiding principal for your life, directing you to success and making course corrections to your targeted goals like an unstoppable, guided missile.
Some people define themselves through their profession, career, family, relationships, affiliation with groups, church, religion, etc... your definition is completely individualized and it will encompass all that is most important to you.
So how do you physically, concisely, and effectively do this? How do you define yourself and your life? How do you write this down in a way that is easily communicated to others?
Define You: The IBT Model
Last night I came up with a model, or framework, to help people define themselves, write it down, and concisely, effectively communicate this definition to others; I call it the IBT Model.
Write down on a piece of paper the following three words, leaving space between them so you can fill in the blanks.
Write:
I
By
Through
Then think about how you will define you and what is most important to you:
"I" is who you are.
"By" states how you accomplish who you are and your life purpose in relation to you.
"Through" states what medium you use to accomplish your life purpose.
So take some time right now, think about you, your life, and what is most important to you.
As I wrote in Mentor Me, "Something magical happens when we put down what we want on a piece of paper, verbalize it, visualize it, define it, and allow ourselves to experience it…We can program ourselves to have it!"
Your Definition of You in Writing
Write it down, believe it with conviction, and communicate it effectively to others.
I will share what I wrote last night as my definition of me as an example:
"I help people define and achieve their definition of success by providing information, motivation, and inspiration through writing books and coaching."
The people I help can be friends, family, a member of a group I am affiliated with, someone in my community, etc...anyone. It is an all encompassing definition of me.
In order to easily share this with others, I created a photo quote which is located here:
https://www.goodreads.com/photo/autho...
Once you write down your definition of you, refer to it each day. It will be the guiding force for your life, your being, and drive you toward success.
Having this written statement, your deeply-rooted definition of you, is the difference between the greatest leaders and historical figures of all time versus the average person.
You now have the foundation to truly achieve your definition of success.
Help Others and Continue Your Journey
Share this blog with others, help them define themselves, and take the next step...map out your blueprint to achieve your dreams.
In Mentor Me, I assemble the exercises and tools to help people define and achieve their lifelong goal(s), their Greatest Achievement (GA).
After all, you have seen my definition of me:
"I help people define and achieve their definition of success by providing information, motivation, and inspiration through writing books and coaching."
Now that you have your definition of you, pick up a copy of Mentor Me and continue your journey:
http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00KPGM28C
Continue on your path to achieving your definition of success...your Greatest Achievement (GA).
Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement
Ken Poirot
Warmly,
Ken Poirot
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Quoted all over the world! ...find out why!
NOW FREE on Amazon (Kindle) for a Limited Time...
Pick up your copy here today:
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00V...
Warmly,
Ken Poirot
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Ken Poirot
With Great Love Comes Great Forgiveness...
Dating in a Fast-Paced Society
In our fast-paced society filled with professionals spending endless hours dedicated to their careers, online dating has become a fixture.
Albeit a convenient necessity to help expand social circles, as well as an opportunity to meet someone new while permitting complete flexibility to work the relationship into our busy lifestyles.
You can't spend almost 5 hours a day with someone for three months, even online, without getting to know quite a bit about the person.
So was the case with Tania.
In appearance on video chat she was a mousy girl, and I mean that affectionately.
A bit shy at times, with big brown, beautiful sparkling eyes filled with life, enthusiasm, and the inquisitive brilliance of playful curiosity.
Her eyes were her most striking feature, as I am always most attracted to a girls' eyes at first.
Hers smiled radiantly through the endless miles that separated us; her eyes brought us closely connected together, an unbreakable bond.
Then there was her hair; long dark, shimmering, luscious, silky locks which danced with her endless expressions and effervescent smile. Sometimes her hair was up, sometimes down, or drawn to one side gently caressing her soft, smooth, delicate neck.
Frequently at night she wore glasses, which just added to the studious, intelligent, cute, mousy-girl-look which I found so attractive.
We would share everything together over those months: our hopes, dreams, and ambitions in life; even our thoughts on family and raising children together.
During that whole time, very few days passed without long conversations. Maybe twice a full twenty-four hours passed when we both knew we would have to wait for our next rendezvous, due to commitments with family or friends.
She dreamed of becoming a fashion designer and showed me some of her work; a painting and drawing from her studies.
A skirt she designed; a long, full-length skirt with sheer blue fabric. The skirt was draped and sewn perfectly to appear and allow for flowing movement; it looked beautiful and very impressive. Not that I know much about fashion design myself, none more than I have seen on "Project Runway," but still, it made an impression as it was quite stunning.
We can all appreciate it when someone has passion for their work or a special project with which they are involved. Just as we can all recognize talent. This girl had both; passion for all that she did, especially design, and a depth of talent.
Then there were the other cute things she made. Drapes for her windows, a design she sewed on her sofa cushion at home, and various decorations, like Christmas ornaments; the kind of attention to detail and passion which makes a house a home.
It made me feel, and I imagined myself, as a proud husband with a wife who took great joy in making a warm, cozy place for all to spend their time as a family.
She also starred in a couple music videos. She never mentioned them, but I stumbled over them online. When I asked about them her response was quiet humility.
It is a rare beauty who can be both cute and sexy: a truly scarce combination. Most women can only be one or the other; she was both...cute and sexy at the same time.
The Perfect First Date
It was my 5th time to visit the Ukraine. Tania and I had really connected online, but you never know if that connection will carry over to an in person, face-to-face meeting or not.
Anyone who has spent any time in the online dating world knows, sometimes you hit it off with someone online, yet when you meet, the same chemistry is just not there. For this reason, there was a lot of anxiety leading up to my meeting with Tania in Odessa, Ukraine.
I so desperately wanted to know what it would be like together in person, and I had butterflies in my stomach over the anticipation.
Could this really be the one? Would our inseparable connection online be as strong in person, or would we feel that awkward silence of no connection at all?
I contacted a friend in Odessa before my visit, an old girlfriend from a previous trip with whom a romantic relationship had not progressed into a serious future.
I wanted my first date and meeting with Tania to be perfect, so I asked my friend, Aliona, to help me prepare a special, favorable first impression for Tania.
As I do not speak the language in Odessa, predominately Russian, I would need help finding and buying items for my first date with Tania. I wanted to have flowers for her and her translator, champagne, and I asked Aliona for suggestions to make everything as romantic as possible, from a Ukrainian girls' point of view.
Tania's Arrival and Our First Date
Aliona and I scrambled to have all ready for Tania by the time she arrived. Tania was scheduled to arrive a couple hours after noon and when Aliona and I called her, we found Tania was arriving early.
We had bought apples, mangoes, flowers, and champagne for Tania and her translator.
As Aliona was cutting the fruit, I dashed down the hall to the property manager's office; I needed vases for the two sets of flowers...red roses for Tania and yellow, friendship, roses for her translator.
Maria, the flat manager, emptied flowers out of one vase and graciously gave it to me, along with a second empty vase.
As I returned to the flat, Aliona had finished cutting up the apples and was skinning the mangoes. Aliona informed me (not that I would know), "If you leave the skin on, the mangoes are bitter, so it is best to take the skin off."
Our original intention was for Aliona to leave before Tania arrived, as you do not want your ex-girlfriend and new girlfriend to meet, since it could make all a little uncomfortable (and especially on our first date).
Tania arrived early. I walked outside, greeted her with a hug, and offered to help her (and her translator) with their luggage.
I pointed out my flat as we passed it on the way to theirs, which was further down the hall. I opened their door, gave them the key, and took Tania's suitcase inside. I told the translator once they are settled into their flat, to please come by my flat.
As Aliona finished the last plate of fruit, there was a knock on my door. Here was the uncomfortable moment I was hoping to avoid: ex-girlfriend meets new girlfriend. Just a couple more minutes and Aliona would have been gone.
The mishap and unintentional meeting only added to my already nervous anxiety. I opened the door and gestured to the red roses on the window sill, which I had placed in their vase just seconds before. Tania told her translator I should present them to her...my first mistake besides Aliona still being there.
Aliona is an intuitive girl and she knew it was time to leave. So as not to be rude to Aliona, who had helped me all morning, I politely excused myself and hurriedly escorted her out of the building.
We walked quickly across the courtyard and said goodbye. As I gave her a friendly hug she said, "Tania...she has foxy eyes. Be careful!"
I thanked Aliona for her help and we bid farewell.
Translation Disaster
Later that evening, Tania, her translator, Gala, and I went to a club. Our first date which started out with such anxiety and many timing mishaps on my part, was turning out quite beautifully.
Tania and I were sitting next to each other holding hands, while Gala was sitting across the table from us. It was cold in Odessa in February, near zero Celsius, so I had worn a sports jacket under my coat. We had checked our coats upon entry to the club, so I took off my sports jacket as it was a bit warm inside.
Tania was even more beautiful in person. Full of life and energy, those eyes dancing as her radiance filled the room. I will never forget her smile, the way her hair shined in the light with crowning perfection. I was smitten; filled with the heavenly sound and cadence of her voice, as I felt the magic, tingling energy of her touch.
I leaned over to our translator, Gala, and said, "We have a lot in common." Gala spoke to Tania in Russian and everything changed that instant.
Tania was obviously offended. She tossed away my hand and refused to look at me!
Just like that...in one instance all changed 180 degrees. I could not figure out what happened at first; I asked Gala what she had said to Tania to cause such a reaction.
I looked at Gala struck with bewildered disbelief. Gala looked at Tania again and they spoke. This time Tania's speech was fast, angry, defensive, and dismissive.
Gala looked over at me and said, "I am sorry, I mistranslated." She tried to explain the mistake to Tania, but she would not hear of it.
I leaned over and tried to hold Tania's hand, which was now far away in her stretched out arms on the table; she would not respond and she ignored me.
Gala gestured for us to go and we walked out of the club. I was so upset I completely forgot my sports jacket...which was never seen again.
We retrieved our coats from the entrance of the club; next was the most uncomfortable taxi ride I have ever experienced. Tania did not want to be there and especially not stuck in the back of the taxi with me.
Gala continued to plead with Tania, but she was not in the mood to listen. Gala apologized to me over and over again.
All I could figure is she might have translated my words as, "We do not have a lot in common" instead of "We have a lot in common." I was not even sure if that was the source of the confusion and miscommunication.
We all arrived back at my flat and the girls came inside; I sat on the bed while they sat on the couch across from me.
Tania would not listen to anything we said, instead, she turned to Gala and mentioned something about me, and then stormed out of the flat.
At this moment I was overcome by emotion. All the anticipation, the months leading up to this moment, scheduling our first meeting, the preparation, the nervous energy and hope...it all came crashing over me like a giant wave of pressure needing to be released.
My eyes welled up with tears which spilled out over their lids and rolled down my cheeks, then dripped off my chin. I looked over at Gala with mournful despondency and said, "I can't make her love me."
That was the end of our first evening together. So much for creating the perfect first date...
The Day After Disaster
I didn't sleep well that night. I woke up early, much earlier than normal, and really did not know what to do.
Some girls want you to come after them, to chase them, to try to make things right. Other girls want you to leave them alone, completely, and forever, while some want you to wait and let them come to you.
It is difficult enough to know what to do in the USA, let alone in a completely different culture, language, and country.
I waited for a while. I showered and cleaned up hoping to hear from Tania or Gala for some direction. Nothing...the morning continued with silence.
"Maybe the girls are not up yet," I thought. I had been hungry since I woke up, so I decided to get some breakfast, think about all that had transpired that evening, then decide what to do next.
On my way out of the flat I saw the three tickets I had procured for the ballet, one for each of us for that evening.
During our conversations, Tania had mentioned she had never been to the ballet, so I had purchased tickets for us. I thought, "Regardless of what happens, I still want to take her to the ballet, even if she does not want to date me anymore; I can still take her as friends."
A few hours after I arrived back from breakfast, Gala sheepishly tapped on my door. As I opened it she said, "I don't know what do do. Tania packed her bags and she wants to go back home to Kherson. Both of you were crying last night and I do not know what to do."
I explained how I would still like to take them both to the ballet that evening, no matter what. I told her to have Tania come over to my flat, by herself, so we can see if we can work all this out together in private.
I wanted to work it out. Gala had made a mistranslation the previous evening which began the whole misunderstanding in the first place, so I figured it was best if Tania and I spoke alone.
I had a pocket translator so we could type to each other, and there was always the computer I brought, as well as the computer belonging to the flat; we would be able to communicate.
Shortly thereafter, there was a knock on the door. Tania looked miserable, truly unhappy; the look of a girl who had been crying all night long. She walked across the room as I closed the door; she sat on window sill, which was directly opposite the door, as far away from me as possible.
I walked over and put my arms around her, warmly, gently, and kissed her as I held her in my arms.
She got up and moved over to the bed, walking with a defensive posture, arms crossed in front of her and eyes looking down to the floor, avoiding mine.
I moved over to the bed where she was sitting, her back against the wall at the head of the bed. I lay down next to her, with my arms gently around her legs and looked up. I took the electronic translator out of my pocket and glanced up once more.
I was wearing a baseball cap and she took it off, tossing it aside, so she could better see my eyes. She typed and passed the pocket translator to me so I could see what she wrote, "I sorry for my bad behavior."
I gazed at her with warmth, compassion, and love in my eyes, typed, then handed her back the translator so she could read my words, "With great love comes great forgiveness."
The Happiest Day of My Life
We went to the ballet that evening and had a great time. We met up with her friend Vlada, who lived in Odessa, and also had a wonderful late night at a club.
The next day we had sushi at the restaurant by our flat. This picture was taken there:
https://www.goodreads.com/photo/autho...
Per my suggestion, and since Tania had never been to the beach in Odessa, we took a taxi to the Arcadia area by the sea.
It was cold and windy by the water and Tania's gorgeous hair, always made agonizingly perfect was amusingly wind-blown as we shivered from the biting, damp, cold, salty air. She looked at me and ran her hands through her hair in surrender at her unusually disorderly appearance, as we laughed together.
We dodged into the nearest cafe for respite from the cold and hot tea to warm us up, while we looked out the window over at the Black Sea. As our eyes met, we both knew what we were feeling; the connection online was now just as strong in person.
We arrived back at our flat, packed the taxi, and left for Kherson together. We were in the back seat which was stuffed with a few of our things that did not fit in the trunk.
She looked over at me, smiled, and grabbed my hand, squeezing it tightly the whole way to Kherson, for almost three hours. As she glanced over at me from time-to-time, catching my eyes and smiling; I could see her heart, radiance, and soul through her eyes.
That taxi ride from Odessa to Kherson is the moment she fell in love with me.
We stopped once for gasoline (petrol) and she excused herself to the restroom. My hand had fallen asleep; I did not care for it was holding the hand of the one I loved.
As she exited the taxi, I moved my fingers to shake out that tell-tale pins-and-needles feeling. As she entered the taxi again, she immediately reached over, smiled, and grabbed my hand.
That was the best day of my life.
In that moment, I held in my hand everything I had longed for my entire life. That feeling, the kind of love that makes you question if you have ever truly felt love before.
No one mattered from before nor had anyone ever mattered in that instance, except for Tania.
In all the world there was only Tania and me; me and Tania. No one else in the entire universe existed...just me and Tania.
Always remember: with great love comes great forgiveness.
Warmly,
Ken Poirot
Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement
Ken Poirot
In our fast-paced society filled with professionals spending endless hours dedicated to their careers, online dating has become a fixture.
Albeit a convenient necessity to help expand social circles, as well as an opportunity to meet someone new while permitting complete flexibility to work the relationship into our busy lifestyles.
You can't spend almost 5 hours a day with someone for three months, even online, without getting to know quite a bit about the person.
So was the case with Tania.
In appearance on video chat she was a mousy girl, and I mean that affectionately.
A bit shy at times, with big brown, beautiful sparkling eyes filled with life, enthusiasm, and the inquisitive brilliance of playful curiosity.
Her eyes were her most striking feature, as I am always most attracted to a girls' eyes at first.
Hers smiled radiantly through the endless miles that separated us; her eyes brought us closely connected together, an unbreakable bond.
Then there was her hair; long dark, shimmering, luscious, silky locks which danced with her endless expressions and effervescent smile. Sometimes her hair was up, sometimes down, or drawn to one side gently caressing her soft, smooth, delicate neck.
Frequently at night she wore glasses, which just added to the studious, intelligent, cute, mousy-girl-look which I found so attractive.
We would share everything together over those months: our hopes, dreams, and ambitions in life; even our thoughts on family and raising children together.
During that whole time, very few days passed without long conversations. Maybe twice a full twenty-four hours passed when we both knew we would have to wait for our next rendezvous, due to commitments with family or friends.
She dreamed of becoming a fashion designer and showed me some of her work; a painting and drawing from her studies.
A skirt she designed; a long, full-length skirt with sheer blue fabric. The skirt was draped and sewn perfectly to appear and allow for flowing movement; it looked beautiful and very impressive. Not that I know much about fashion design myself, none more than I have seen on "Project Runway," but still, it made an impression as it was quite stunning.
We can all appreciate it when someone has passion for their work or a special project with which they are involved. Just as we can all recognize talent. This girl had both; passion for all that she did, especially design, and a depth of talent.
Then there were the other cute things she made. Drapes for her windows, a design she sewed on her sofa cushion at home, and various decorations, like Christmas ornaments; the kind of attention to detail and passion which makes a house a home.
It made me feel, and I imagined myself, as a proud husband with a wife who took great joy in making a warm, cozy place for all to spend their time as a family.
She also starred in a couple music videos. She never mentioned them, but I stumbled over them online. When I asked about them her response was quiet humility.
It is a rare beauty who can be both cute and sexy: a truly scarce combination. Most women can only be one or the other; she was both...cute and sexy at the same time.
The Perfect First Date
It was my 5th time to visit the Ukraine. Tania and I had really connected online, but you never know if that connection will carry over to an in person, face-to-face meeting or not.
Anyone who has spent any time in the online dating world knows, sometimes you hit it off with someone online, yet when you meet, the same chemistry is just not there. For this reason, there was a lot of anxiety leading up to my meeting with Tania in Odessa, Ukraine.
I so desperately wanted to know what it would be like together in person, and I had butterflies in my stomach over the anticipation.
Could this really be the one? Would our inseparable connection online be as strong in person, or would we feel that awkward silence of no connection at all?
I contacted a friend in Odessa before my visit, an old girlfriend from a previous trip with whom a romantic relationship had not progressed into a serious future.
I wanted my first date and meeting with Tania to be perfect, so I asked my friend, Aliona, to help me prepare a special, favorable first impression for Tania.
As I do not speak the language in Odessa, predominately Russian, I would need help finding and buying items for my first date with Tania. I wanted to have flowers for her and her translator, champagne, and I asked Aliona for suggestions to make everything as romantic as possible, from a Ukrainian girls' point of view.
Tania's Arrival and Our First Date
Aliona and I scrambled to have all ready for Tania by the time she arrived. Tania was scheduled to arrive a couple hours after noon and when Aliona and I called her, we found Tania was arriving early.
We had bought apples, mangoes, flowers, and champagne for Tania and her translator.
As Aliona was cutting the fruit, I dashed down the hall to the property manager's office; I needed vases for the two sets of flowers...red roses for Tania and yellow, friendship, roses for her translator.
Maria, the flat manager, emptied flowers out of one vase and graciously gave it to me, along with a second empty vase.
As I returned to the flat, Aliona had finished cutting up the apples and was skinning the mangoes. Aliona informed me (not that I would know), "If you leave the skin on, the mangoes are bitter, so it is best to take the skin off."
Our original intention was for Aliona to leave before Tania arrived, as you do not want your ex-girlfriend and new girlfriend to meet, since it could make all a little uncomfortable (and especially on our first date).
Tania arrived early. I walked outside, greeted her with a hug, and offered to help her (and her translator) with their luggage.
I pointed out my flat as we passed it on the way to theirs, which was further down the hall. I opened their door, gave them the key, and took Tania's suitcase inside. I told the translator once they are settled into their flat, to please come by my flat.
As Aliona finished the last plate of fruit, there was a knock on my door. Here was the uncomfortable moment I was hoping to avoid: ex-girlfriend meets new girlfriend. Just a couple more minutes and Aliona would have been gone.
The mishap and unintentional meeting only added to my already nervous anxiety. I opened the door and gestured to the red roses on the window sill, which I had placed in their vase just seconds before. Tania told her translator I should present them to her...my first mistake besides Aliona still being there.
Aliona is an intuitive girl and she knew it was time to leave. So as not to be rude to Aliona, who had helped me all morning, I politely excused myself and hurriedly escorted her out of the building.
We walked quickly across the courtyard and said goodbye. As I gave her a friendly hug she said, "Tania...she has foxy eyes. Be careful!"
I thanked Aliona for her help and we bid farewell.
Translation Disaster
Later that evening, Tania, her translator, Gala, and I went to a club. Our first date which started out with such anxiety and many timing mishaps on my part, was turning out quite beautifully.
Tania and I were sitting next to each other holding hands, while Gala was sitting across the table from us. It was cold in Odessa in February, near zero Celsius, so I had worn a sports jacket under my coat. We had checked our coats upon entry to the club, so I took off my sports jacket as it was a bit warm inside.
Tania was even more beautiful in person. Full of life and energy, those eyes dancing as her radiance filled the room. I will never forget her smile, the way her hair shined in the light with crowning perfection. I was smitten; filled with the heavenly sound and cadence of her voice, as I felt the magic, tingling energy of her touch.
I leaned over to our translator, Gala, and said, "We have a lot in common." Gala spoke to Tania in Russian and everything changed that instant.
Tania was obviously offended. She tossed away my hand and refused to look at me!
Just like that...in one instance all changed 180 degrees. I could not figure out what happened at first; I asked Gala what she had said to Tania to cause such a reaction.
I looked at Gala struck with bewildered disbelief. Gala looked at Tania again and they spoke. This time Tania's speech was fast, angry, defensive, and dismissive.
Gala looked over at me and said, "I am sorry, I mistranslated." She tried to explain the mistake to Tania, but she would not hear of it.
I leaned over and tried to hold Tania's hand, which was now far away in her stretched out arms on the table; she would not respond and she ignored me.
Gala gestured for us to go and we walked out of the club. I was so upset I completely forgot my sports jacket...which was never seen again.
We retrieved our coats from the entrance of the club; next was the most uncomfortable taxi ride I have ever experienced. Tania did not want to be there and especially not stuck in the back of the taxi with me.
Gala continued to plead with Tania, but she was not in the mood to listen. Gala apologized to me over and over again.
All I could figure is she might have translated my words as, "We do not have a lot in common" instead of "We have a lot in common." I was not even sure if that was the source of the confusion and miscommunication.
We all arrived back at my flat and the girls came inside; I sat on the bed while they sat on the couch across from me.
Tania would not listen to anything we said, instead, she turned to Gala and mentioned something about me, and then stormed out of the flat.
At this moment I was overcome by emotion. All the anticipation, the months leading up to this moment, scheduling our first meeting, the preparation, the nervous energy and hope...it all came crashing over me like a giant wave of pressure needing to be released.
My eyes welled up with tears which spilled out over their lids and rolled down my cheeks, then dripped off my chin. I looked over at Gala with mournful despondency and said, "I can't make her love me."
That was the end of our first evening together. So much for creating the perfect first date...
The Day After Disaster
I didn't sleep well that night. I woke up early, much earlier than normal, and really did not know what to do.
Some girls want you to come after them, to chase them, to try to make things right. Other girls want you to leave them alone, completely, and forever, while some want you to wait and let them come to you.
It is difficult enough to know what to do in the USA, let alone in a completely different culture, language, and country.
I waited for a while. I showered and cleaned up hoping to hear from Tania or Gala for some direction. Nothing...the morning continued with silence.
"Maybe the girls are not up yet," I thought. I had been hungry since I woke up, so I decided to get some breakfast, think about all that had transpired that evening, then decide what to do next.
On my way out of the flat I saw the three tickets I had procured for the ballet, one for each of us for that evening.
During our conversations, Tania had mentioned she had never been to the ballet, so I had purchased tickets for us. I thought, "Regardless of what happens, I still want to take her to the ballet, even if she does not want to date me anymore; I can still take her as friends."
A few hours after I arrived back from breakfast, Gala sheepishly tapped on my door. As I opened it she said, "I don't know what do do. Tania packed her bags and she wants to go back home to Kherson. Both of you were crying last night and I do not know what to do."
I explained how I would still like to take them both to the ballet that evening, no matter what. I told her to have Tania come over to my flat, by herself, so we can see if we can work all this out together in private.
I wanted to work it out. Gala had made a mistranslation the previous evening which began the whole misunderstanding in the first place, so I figured it was best if Tania and I spoke alone.
I had a pocket translator so we could type to each other, and there was always the computer I brought, as well as the computer belonging to the flat; we would be able to communicate.
Shortly thereafter, there was a knock on the door. Tania looked miserable, truly unhappy; the look of a girl who had been crying all night long. She walked across the room as I closed the door; she sat on window sill, which was directly opposite the door, as far away from me as possible.
I walked over and put my arms around her, warmly, gently, and kissed her as I held her in my arms.
She got up and moved over to the bed, walking with a defensive posture, arms crossed in front of her and eyes looking down to the floor, avoiding mine.
I moved over to the bed where she was sitting, her back against the wall at the head of the bed. I lay down next to her, with my arms gently around her legs and looked up. I took the electronic translator out of my pocket and glanced up once more.
I was wearing a baseball cap and she took it off, tossing it aside, so she could better see my eyes. She typed and passed the pocket translator to me so I could see what she wrote, "I sorry for my bad behavior."
I gazed at her with warmth, compassion, and love in my eyes, typed, then handed her back the translator so she could read my words, "With great love comes great forgiveness."
The Happiest Day of My Life
We went to the ballet that evening and had a great time. We met up with her friend Vlada, who lived in Odessa, and also had a wonderful late night at a club.
The next day we had sushi at the restaurant by our flat. This picture was taken there:
https://www.goodreads.com/photo/autho...
Per my suggestion, and since Tania had never been to the beach in Odessa, we took a taxi to the Arcadia area by the sea.
It was cold and windy by the water and Tania's gorgeous hair, always made agonizingly perfect was amusingly wind-blown as we shivered from the biting, damp, cold, salty air. She looked at me and ran her hands through her hair in surrender at her unusually disorderly appearance, as we laughed together.
We dodged into the nearest cafe for respite from the cold and hot tea to warm us up, while we looked out the window over at the Black Sea. As our eyes met, we both knew what we were feeling; the connection online was now just as strong in person.
We arrived back at our flat, packed the taxi, and left for Kherson together. We were in the back seat which was stuffed with a few of our things that did not fit in the trunk.
She looked over at me, smiled, and grabbed my hand, squeezing it tightly the whole way to Kherson, for almost three hours. As she glanced over at me from time-to-time, catching my eyes and smiling; I could see her heart, radiance, and soul through her eyes.
That taxi ride from Odessa to Kherson is the moment she fell in love with me.
We stopped once for gasoline (petrol) and she excused herself to the restroom. My hand had fallen asleep; I did not care for it was holding the hand of the one I loved.
As she exited the taxi, I moved my fingers to shake out that tell-tale pins-and-needles feeling. As she entered the taxi again, she immediately reached over, smiled, and grabbed my hand.
That was the best day of my life.
In that moment, I held in my hand everything I had longed for my entire life. That feeling, the kind of love that makes you question if you have ever truly felt love before.
No one mattered from before nor had anyone ever mattered in that instance, except for Tania.
In all the world there was only Tania and me; me and Tania. No one else in the entire universe existed...just me and Tania.
Always remember: with great love comes great forgiveness.
Warmly,
Ken Poirot
Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement
Ken Poirot
TOMAHAWK: An Original Screenplay...FREE READ
TOM A HAWK: An Original Screenplay
I just made this screenplay public as of today, so you can be one of the first to read it!
Back in August I wrote an original screenplay based upon my personal experiences and travels in the Ukraine.
It is a mix of fiction and non-fiction...the characters are real people.
The screenplay is a transformation story designed as a pilot movie for a series of movies or better adapted for a movie to begin a TV series.
Here is my favorite quote from the screenplay that is a great defining quote for the story, "Life is like that...Sometimes you have to peel off the bitterness in order to get to the part that is sweet."
Amazon's title page did not allow for spacing, but the title is really TOM A HAWK versus TOMAHAWK.
Once you read the whole script you will understand.
Here is the full synopsis as per the original screenplay on Amazon's website:
"Based on a true story and his personal experiences in modern day Ukraine, Ken seeks answers about his relationship with the love of his life that ended in heartbreak.
Did she really feel anything? Did she just use him? What is the truth behind the love he thought he had found?
As the love story, happiness, and heartbreak of his transformation are gradually revealed, questions of morality, corruption, lies, and betrayal surface. This is further complicated by the vast differences in Ukrainian, Russian, and Western cultures.
Ken ultimately realizes his initial quest for love has changed him forever in ways he could never have imagined."
The full screenplay can be downloaded for FREE via .pdf here on Amazon:
https://studios.amazon.com/projects/1...
Feel free to read it and add reviews/comments as you like.
Warmly,
Ken Poirot
I just made this screenplay public as of today, so you can be one of the first to read it!
Back in August I wrote an original screenplay based upon my personal experiences and travels in the Ukraine.
It is a mix of fiction and non-fiction...the characters are real people.
The screenplay is a transformation story designed as a pilot movie for a series of movies or better adapted for a movie to begin a TV series.
Here is my favorite quote from the screenplay that is a great defining quote for the story, "Life is like that...Sometimes you have to peel off the bitterness in order to get to the part that is sweet."
Amazon's title page did not allow for spacing, but the title is really TOM A HAWK versus TOMAHAWK.
Once you read the whole script you will understand.
Here is the full synopsis as per the original screenplay on Amazon's website:
"Based on a true story and his personal experiences in modern day Ukraine, Ken seeks answers about his relationship with the love of his life that ended in heartbreak.
Did she really feel anything? Did she just use him? What is the truth behind the love he thought he had found?
As the love story, happiness, and heartbreak of his transformation are gradually revealed, questions of morality, corruption, lies, and betrayal surface. This is further complicated by the vast differences in Ukrainian, Russian, and Western cultures.
Ken ultimately realizes his initial quest for love has changed him forever in ways he could never have imagined."
The full screenplay can be downloaded for FREE via .pdf here on Amazon:
https://studios.amazon.com/projects/1...
Feel free to read it and add reviews/comments as you like.
Warmly,
Ken Poirot
Humbling...
It is Truly Humbling...
When you find yourself quoted all over the world in social media on a regular basis it is a truly humbling experience.
Every day I find my quotes popping up on different websites, blogs, Facebook posts, Instagram captions, etc...
Just today I searched for my name on Twitter using the Twitter Advanced Search function...click on the link below to see what I found:
https://twitter.com/search?f=tweets&a...
Yes...I am thoroughly humbled to see so many people all over the world posting my quotes.
It is the dream of any author to know their words are affecting other people's lives each day.
I am blessed that so many people found my words helpful, useful, motivational, moving, or inspiring in some way.
Thank you all!
Warmly,
Ken Poirot
When you find yourself quoted all over the world in social media on a regular basis it is a truly humbling experience.
Every day I find my quotes popping up on different websites, blogs, Facebook posts, Instagram captions, etc...
Just today I searched for my name on Twitter using the Twitter Advanced Search function...click on the link below to see what I found:
https://twitter.com/search?f=tweets&a...
Yes...I am thoroughly humbled to see so many people all over the world posting my quotes.
It is the dream of any author to know their words are affecting other people's lives each day.
I am blessed that so many people found my words helpful, useful, motivational, moving, or inspiring in some way.
Thank you all!
Warmly,
Ken Poirot
Is a Self Help or Personal Development Book Ruining Your Life?
Self Help and Personal Development Books
First of all if you seek out self help and personal development in your life then I applaud you for taking responsibility for your life and for acting on your desire to improve yourself.
Unfortunately, not all information, self help, or personal development books are created equal and some can be downright damaging.
This may be a controversial topic by an author who has written a self help and personal development book, except when you realize that I wrote Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement to solve a problem I saw in the marketplace.
The problem is many self help and personal development books are just not that helpful; even worse, some could completely ruin your health and life.
Books Like The Secret Are Particularly Damaging
Now before many of you become defensive about the premise for the book above, namely, positive thinking and the Law of Attraction, I will say I am a great fan of the power of thinking positively.
Positive thinking can do a great deal to help lead the way towards a successful life, but one cannot simply think, dream, and wish for positive events to occur in life, therefore, spontaneously resulting in massive success.
It is a very sexy dream to do no work and expect the universe to deliver health, wealth, and happiness to your doorstep, just because you wish or believe it into your life.
There was an unfortunate case of this thought process documented on Oprah Winfrey and through the media shortly after Oprah Winfrey spotlighted The Secret by Rhonda Byrne on her show.
Kim Tinkham was diagnosed with stage three breast cancer and a month later appeared on Oprah Winfrey stating she was not going to seek medical treatment for her cancer counter to the urging of multiple doctors.
Instead, Kim Tinkham decided to follow the advice in The Secret and "heal herself."
Kim Tinkham later succumbed to her cancer and died.
Yes, following the advice of The Secret instead of her doctor's advice resulted in Kim Tinkham having no chance to prolong her life, versus some chance by undergoing the surgery her doctor's recommended.
Furthermore, if you stringently adhere to the teachings of The Secret one would have to believe we all, including Kim, bring bad things on ourselves strictly due to our thoughts.
Although positive thinking can cause some positive results. a plan is required to channel the positive thoughts putting them into action towards ultimate goal achievement.
However, positive thoughts alone cannot cure cancer, create wealth, and lasting happiness...these things take actual work. Also, bad things do happen to good, positive people and it is not their fault!
Sure, it is very enticing to think one can have everything you want in life without having to work for it, just by sitting home and thinking about it as well as keeping all bad events out of our lives.
Yet, the reality is having the life you want requires devising a plan and taking the steps necessary to achieve that life you envision, by the execution of that plan.
The 4-Hour Workweek...Ferris Bueller's Day Off
Some of you younger folks may miss the comparison of Tim Ferriss' book, The 4-Hour Workweek, to the 1986 Matthew Broderick movie, Ferris Bueller's Day Off.
In the movie, the main character has a knack for cutting school and getting away with it. Similarly, in his book, Tim Ferriss expounds about hacking your life by outsourcing just about everything, including your job.
Now, if you ever tried to actually follow Tim Ferriss' advice you would be fired immediately from your present job and possibly never get another one.
Can you imagine dodging your boss all week using virtual assistants to do so and keeping your job?
I did like The 4-Hour Workweek for its entertainment value, but it is just that...entertainment!
It is a fun book, but if you ever tried to apply and follow Tim Ferriss' advice you would certainly ruin your life.
The 7 Habits of Highly Ineffective Meandering Verbiage
Yes, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People has become a staple of the business world. Yet, I wonder how many people have actually read the book versus those who can quote Stephen Covey's "7 Habits?"
I ask that question because the book is filled with preaching, patting himself on the back for being a great parent, and a full 58 pages (depending on the version you read) of meandering stories until he even gets to the first habit.
The book is so impractical that a workbook had to be created just to tell people how they might be able to use the "7 Habits" in their lives (that is after you read the 100,000+ word original book).
Mentor Me is born
Having surveyed the landscape of available self help and personal development books, I was not satisfied people were getting what they were seeking.
Namely, a book that would be helpful, actionable, practical, and delivered in a succinct manner that anyone can follow to help affect a positive change in their life.
This is why I wrote Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement.
Along with the practical information, profound messages are scattered throughout for those who are seeking a higher life purpose, in addition to a guide for achieving their goals.
If you have not already read Mentor Me, then pick up your copy at Amazon here:
https://www.amazon.com/Mentor-Me-Form...
Find out why people have called it "practical," "succinct," and "helpful."
Also find out why Mentor Me has been quoted all over the globe and why I am quoted every single day in social media somewhere in the world!
Warmly,
Ken Poirot
First of all if you seek out self help and personal development in your life then I applaud you for taking responsibility for your life and for acting on your desire to improve yourself.
Unfortunately, not all information, self help, or personal development books are created equal and some can be downright damaging.
This may be a controversial topic by an author who has written a self help and personal development book, except when you realize that I wrote Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement to solve a problem I saw in the marketplace.
The problem is many self help and personal development books are just not that helpful; even worse, some could completely ruin your health and life.
Books Like The Secret Are Particularly Damaging
Now before many of you become defensive about the premise for the book above, namely, positive thinking and the Law of Attraction, I will say I am a great fan of the power of thinking positively.
Positive thinking can do a great deal to help lead the way towards a successful life, but one cannot simply think, dream, and wish for positive events to occur in life, therefore, spontaneously resulting in massive success.
It is a very sexy dream to do no work and expect the universe to deliver health, wealth, and happiness to your doorstep, just because you wish or believe it into your life.
There was an unfortunate case of this thought process documented on Oprah Winfrey and through the media shortly after Oprah Winfrey spotlighted The Secret by Rhonda Byrne on her show.
Kim Tinkham was diagnosed with stage three breast cancer and a month later appeared on Oprah Winfrey stating she was not going to seek medical treatment for her cancer counter to the urging of multiple doctors.
Instead, Kim Tinkham decided to follow the advice in The Secret and "heal herself."
Kim Tinkham later succumbed to her cancer and died.
Yes, following the advice of The Secret instead of her doctor's advice resulted in Kim Tinkham having no chance to prolong her life, versus some chance by undergoing the surgery her doctor's recommended.
Furthermore, if you stringently adhere to the teachings of The Secret one would have to believe we all, including Kim, bring bad things on ourselves strictly due to our thoughts.
Although positive thinking can cause some positive results. a plan is required to channel the positive thoughts putting them into action towards ultimate goal achievement.
However, positive thoughts alone cannot cure cancer, create wealth, and lasting happiness...these things take actual work. Also, bad things do happen to good, positive people and it is not their fault!
Sure, it is very enticing to think one can have everything you want in life without having to work for it, just by sitting home and thinking about it as well as keeping all bad events out of our lives.
Yet, the reality is having the life you want requires devising a plan and taking the steps necessary to achieve that life you envision, by the execution of that plan.
The 4-Hour Workweek...Ferris Bueller's Day Off
Some of you younger folks may miss the comparison of Tim Ferriss' book, The 4-Hour Workweek, to the 1986 Matthew Broderick movie, Ferris Bueller's Day Off.
In the movie, the main character has a knack for cutting school and getting away with it. Similarly, in his book, Tim Ferriss expounds about hacking your life by outsourcing just about everything, including your job.
Now, if you ever tried to actually follow Tim Ferriss' advice you would be fired immediately from your present job and possibly never get another one.
Can you imagine dodging your boss all week using virtual assistants to do so and keeping your job?
I did like The 4-Hour Workweek for its entertainment value, but it is just that...entertainment!
It is a fun book, but if you ever tried to apply and follow Tim Ferriss' advice you would certainly ruin your life.
The 7 Habits of Highly Ineffective Meandering Verbiage
Yes, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People has become a staple of the business world. Yet, I wonder how many people have actually read the book versus those who can quote Stephen Covey's "7 Habits?"
I ask that question because the book is filled with preaching, patting himself on the back for being a great parent, and a full 58 pages (depending on the version you read) of meandering stories until he even gets to the first habit.
The book is so impractical that a workbook had to be created just to tell people how they might be able to use the "7 Habits" in their lives (that is after you read the 100,000+ word original book).
Mentor Me is born
Having surveyed the landscape of available self help and personal development books, I was not satisfied people were getting what they were seeking.
Namely, a book that would be helpful, actionable, practical, and delivered in a succinct manner that anyone can follow to help affect a positive change in their life.
This is why I wrote Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement.
Along with the practical information, profound messages are scattered throughout for those who are seeking a higher life purpose, in addition to a guide for achieving their goals.
If you have not already read Mentor Me, then pick up your copy at Amazon here:
https://www.amazon.com/Mentor-Me-Form...
Find out why people have called it "practical," "succinct," and "helpful."
Also find out why Mentor Me has been quoted all over the globe and why I am quoted every single day in social media somewhere in the world!
Warmly,
Ken Poirot
Best Book For The New Year
New Year, New You
We are quickly nearing the new year, that time of year when we reflect on the past and think about where we want to be in the future.
Many of us will make New Year's resolutions by setting a personal goal for achievement or vowing a change we will make in our lives for the new year.
Yet, studies have shown only about 8% of people actually keep their New Year's resolution.
Keep Your New Year's Resolution
Why is it that so few people keep their New Year's resolution?
It is simply because most people lack the discipline necessary to keep their commitment to change.
Specifically, most people fail in their desire for change because they lack the personal motivation or inspiration to maintain the discipline necessary to affect change in their lives.
Through my experience coaching professionals, I have found these same three elements of motivation, inspiration, and discipline were the difference between those who achieved their goals and those who fell short.
How do you motivate yourself?
From where do you find inspiration?
How do you measure and hold yourself accountable to maintain discipline?
Once you read Mentor Me and work through the exercises within, you will be able to answer these questions above.
All three of these elements were incorporated into the writing of Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement
Make This Your Year
Why not make this year your year?
Why can't this year be the year you finally achieve all you want in life?
Find out how the three elements of motivation, inspiration, and discipline are purposefully packaged inside Mentor Me to help you achieve your goals.
Pick up a copy of Mentor Me here and make this your year: https://www.amazon.com/Mentor-Me-Form...
Warmly,
Ken Poirot
We are quickly nearing the new year, that time of year when we reflect on the past and think about where we want to be in the future.
Many of us will make New Year's resolutions by setting a personal goal for achievement or vowing a change we will make in our lives for the new year.
Yet, studies have shown only about 8% of people actually keep their New Year's resolution.
Keep Your New Year's Resolution
Why is it that so few people keep their New Year's resolution?
It is simply because most people lack the discipline necessary to keep their commitment to change.
Specifically, most people fail in their desire for change because they lack the personal motivation or inspiration to maintain the discipline necessary to affect change in their lives.
Through my experience coaching professionals, I have found these same three elements of motivation, inspiration, and discipline were the difference between those who achieved their goals and those who fell short.
How do you motivate yourself?
From where do you find inspiration?
How do you measure and hold yourself accountable to maintain discipline?
Once you read Mentor Me and work through the exercises within, you will be able to answer these questions above.
All three of these elements were incorporated into the writing of Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement
Make This Your Year
Why not make this year your year?
Why can't this year be the year you finally achieve all you want in life?
Find out how the three elements of motivation, inspiration, and discipline are purposefully packaged inside Mentor Me to help you achieve your goals.
Pick up a copy of Mentor Me here and make this your year: https://www.amazon.com/Mentor-Me-Form...
Warmly,
Ken Poirot
I lost EVERYTHING…
The Abyss of Emotional Bankruptcy
I could feel the warm, moist trail drip slowly, eventually overcome inertia, then roll quickly down my nose and cheek as each drop struck my pillow.
I do not remember leaving my bed for a month, but I must have as I would eat something from time to time.
I would later write, “The worst feelings are the warm, anxious burning that portends your heart breaking followed by the wave of numbness that asphyxiates your soul.”
An apt description for that month of my life.
I stopped living and I suffered in silence.
Men are not supposed to hurt, cry, and feel emotionally bankrupt; isn’t that what our Western society tells us? We are supposed to be strong and unshakeable; how could I ever tell others I was so dead inside?
How could I share how I felt when no one else would truly understand?
Anything to End the Pain
I just wanted to be alone and I did not want to live anymore.
I thought about running my car in the garage; buying a hose, affixing it to the tailpipe, and directing the exhaust inside my car.
At least then I would be comfortable in my leather cocoon and leave this world while residing forever in the house I built.
It was not just the most recent event that completely emptied my soul, it was a culmination of what transpired over the last five years; this was the final act of betrayal that ultimately drowned me in the ocean of hopelessness.
The Happiest Day of My Life
Just one week before was the happiest day of my life.
I had finally found the love of my life.
We had spent ten magical days together culminating in our announcement that we were planning on getting married, declared during a dinner I hosted for her friends and family.
Everyone was supportive and happy for us.
Yet, the minute I left town, this girl who knew all about me, knew about my hardships, struggles, and all the hurt of my past, the girl who squeezed my hand in happiness when we announced our plans for marriage at that same dinner, abruptly and without warning cut off all communication with me.
Evil Comes in Many Forms
I found she had been playing me the whole time, recruiting her friends and family to help deceive me. They fulfilled their roles well leading me to believe I had just made many new friends.
Instead, they were all lying to me.
They all knew she had a long-term boyfriend, and this was just a game to them. It was not enough for them to just hurt me though.
When I tried to speak to her friends and family, they blocked me on social media and sent me messages laughing at me because they enjoyed the cruelty of torturing me.
She herself told me that she “got what she wanted from me.” In other words, taking out her friends and family multiple times, the gifts, my generosity, warmth, care, and all the money I found out she made off me; all her goals had been achieved and accomplished in her mind.
She had seduced everything she wanted from me, therefore, according to her, she had no need to speak to me again.
I do not know what was worse, the pain I was feeling, the calculating coldness of those who wantonly set out to harm me, or the hurt I could hear in my mother’s voice when I told her the news, simply replying, “She used you.”
My friends and family were expecting to soon be greeting a new addition to our lives; the love of my life whose wedding plans had just been announced to the support of all in her intimate close-knit circle.
No One Understands
When I did talk to people about her, they would just say, “Get over it.” They did not understand the extent of my attachment, the six to eight hours a day of constant conversations for six months, the hole that was left, not just in my life but in my soul.
Nor did they understand the culminating affect the previous five years had on my complete devastation and destruction.
The downward spiral had begun in 2008. My boss, who I had trusted, sacked me in a surprise meeting with HR.
After seven years of loyal service, working my way up to run the department and growing it exponentially by over 83% from $8.5 million to over $15.6 million in revenue, while increasing the profit margin from 27% to 37%, they fired me on the spot.
I had invested wholeheartedly in my career with the company. I had worked tirelessly, even giving up much earned vacation time to drive the success of my department.
I was recognized nationally by my peers; often I was asked to speak at different events across the country, to explain why my department was doing so well at a time when the entire industry was experiencing stagnation or contraction.
It did not matter that my company had a policy of "progressive discipline" that required a verbal warning, written warning, and then probationary period before an employee was fired. My boss and HR threw out all the rules and terminated me right there with no warning. One of the HR managers even sadistically smiled at me as they fired me.
A Career in Ruins
I would sue them and battle them for years through depositions and attorneys.
The three of them who fired me, including my boss, could not come up with a consistent, unified reason why they fired me. In the end, I would stare in my ex-boss’ eyes as she answered questions.
I finally concluded that even though the success I was having in driving growth for our department made her look good, she was jealous of my achievements.
That same department would later fall apart in my absence and the company would settle with me before we went to court.
During that time, I had found another position as a regional manager with a different bank.
My coworkers were supportive and often consulted me on important decisions. I was treated with respect and my boss would seek advice from me on pressing matters.
Unfortunately, that bank did not make it through the financial crisis, and two years later it failed.
We closed as one bank on a Friday and opened as another bank the following Monday; that was how the FDIC handled bank failures during the financial crisis.
Right before Christmas, all of us managers were given our walking papers and I, once again, found myself unemployed.
After landing a new job as a regional manager six months later, enduring the misery of working with and for a bunch of truly nasty people, those positions also disappeared.
My professional career working for others ended at that point.
Left With Nothing and More Betrayal
Unfortunately, as my wife had already left, the financial markets had eroded my lifetime savings, and my money had dried up, I was now facing an imminent foreclosure as I could not keep my house afloat.
To top it all off, I had also recently been betrayed by someone else I had loved.
Unbeknownst to me, my girlfriend had decided it was time to have a baby. She did not tell me, but she had covertly stopped taking her birth control pills. I would later learn from her friends that she had told them she wanted to secretly get pregnant on purpose, to force me into moving our relationship to the next level immediately, per her timetable.
I was happy when she showed me the sonogram and told me we were having a baby. I was going to be a father for the first and only time in my life; it was a glorious occasion.
Yet, this same girl, once she was granted the commitment she always wanted from me, would sneak off into the night and have an abortion. She changed her mind as quickly and clandestinely as she had made her original decision. The news devastated me and ended our relationship.
She would later tell me she regretted what she did and she wanted to get back together with me.
Needless to say, I told her that was not going to happen.
The Final Betrayal and All Is Lost
All the hurt and pain of those previous five years had taken its toll on me.
In spite of this, I was willing to give love and happiness a chance. I was taking the risk to trust again with a girl who professed to have a conscious, moral compass, and who promised to treat me right.
Yet instead, the love of my life, the girl with whom we had just announced our future plans for marriage in front of her friends and family, who knew about all this previous hurt and pain in my life, took great pleasure in lying, cheating, using me, and then tossing me away once she got all she wanted.
After all I had been through, and with the latest blow, I just wanted the hurt and pain to stop.
In addition, at this moment my home was soon going to be at risk. My money was dwindling and I was about to be late on my mortgage for the first time ever.
I called my bank to work with them, but to my surprise, they began an aggressive campaign to try to take my house illegally.
I contacted an attorney and tried to sell my home, but the local housing market was in turmoil.
Per the attorney, the bank finally agreed to leave me alone until a specific date, at which time if my house was not sold, I had to turn it over to them.
Unfortunately, that date came and went without a buyer. I had to get rid of everything: all my furniture, paintings, personal possessions, and anything I could not fit into my car.
I lost my house.
Everything I once had was gone except for a solitary carload consisting mostly of clothes along with my cat. In truth, if not for my cat, as sad as it sounds, I may not be here today.
What did I do next? How does the story end?
Resurrection and Reinvention of Self
There are a few things I decided during this time in my life. I focused on the successes and not the failures I had achieved over the years and I decided to reinvent myself.
I also realized I had a message of hope to share with others.
All I ever wanted to do in life was help other people. With this goal in mind, I began to write.
As I wrote in my first book, which was written at this most difficult time in my life, “At that darkest moment, while drowning in the Abyss of Emotional Bankruptcy, reflect on this universal truth: the difference between success and failure is one more time.”
I took what I learned during these difficult times, I chose to look back at the accomplishments in my life, and to do my best to be a positive influence on others. If you read my book, “Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement,” now you know where I was emotionally and mentally when I wrote it.
My sole purpose was to turn this terrible time in my life into an opportunity to have a positive impact on other people. As I wrote in the book, “I feel the reason we are all here, our purpose of being, is to help others find their little piece of happiness and heaven right here on earth.”
I do not know where you are in life or what you are going through. Some of you have difficulties greater than mine. My wish is that you can get through these hard times in your life and “Be the light that inspires others to dream.”
“Light can devour the darkness but darkness cannot consume the light.”
Once you realize that you hold the power to change your life for the better and that nothing can extinguish your light, you will realize you are ultimately in control of your destiny when you make the conscious decision to move forward.
Everyone Has Hurt and Pain In Their Lives
We all go through tough times in life. No one is immune from difficulties.
Even after everything I endured, I am better now, and more importantly, I am better for it.
Furthermore, I also know that money cannot bring happiness but I know financial problems and the stress it causes can become all consuming.
I understand because I have lived it.
Success and Overcoming Adversity
“Wisdom comes from making mistakes, having the courage to face them, and make adjustments moving forward based upon the knowledge acquired through those experiences.”
I have always been told, and it seems true, no one cares about your story until you finally make it.
When you are down and out not only does the world not seem to care, but unfortunately, there are sometimes those who actively enjoy kicking you and keeping you down.
In the end, "Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement," became a bestseller on Amazon.
Furthermore, I am now quoted every single day in social media worldwide.
Each day my words inspire people all over the world; I achieved my ultimate goal of being a positive influence on people's lives.
Maybe someone, somewhere in the world can relate to my story, hold onto the knowledge that they can and will eventually overcome all of today’s hurt and pain, then have the courage to get up one more time and turn things around.
Whatever the obstacle, you can overcome it and achieve success as long as you just keep moving forward.
I hope by sharing my story that these words find their way to inspire others to rise above their current circumstances and keep going.
Warmly,
Ken Poirot
Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement
I could feel the warm, moist trail drip slowly, eventually overcome inertia, then roll quickly down my nose and cheek as each drop struck my pillow.
I do not remember leaving my bed for a month, but I must have as I would eat something from time to time.
I would later write, “The worst feelings are the warm, anxious burning that portends your heart breaking followed by the wave of numbness that asphyxiates your soul.”
An apt description for that month of my life.
I stopped living and I suffered in silence.
Men are not supposed to hurt, cry, and feel emotionally bankrupt; isn’t that what our Western society tells us? We are supposed to be strong and unshakeable; how could I ever tell others I was so dead inside?
How could I share how I felt when no one else would truly understand?
Anything to End the Pain
I just wanted to be alone and I did not want to live anymore.
I thought about running my car in the garage; buying a hose, affixing it to the tailpipe, and directing the exhaust inside my car.
At least then I would be comfortable in my leather cocoon and leave this world while residing forever in the house I built.
It was not just the most recent event that completely emptied my soul, it was a culmination of what transpired over the last five years; this was the final act of betrayal that ultimately drowned me in the ocean of hopelessness.
The Happiest Day of My Life
Just one week before was the happiest day of my life.
I had finally found the love of my life.
We had spent ten magical days together culminating in our announcement that we were planning on getting married, declared during a dinner I hosted for her friends and family.
Everyone was supportive and happy for us.
Yet, the minute I left town, this girl who knew all about me, knew about my hardships, struggles, and all the hurt of my past, the girl who squeezed my hand in happiness when we announced our plans for marriage at that same dinner, abruptly and without warning cut off all communication with me.
Evil Comes in Many Forms
I found she had been playing me the whole time, recruiting her friends and family to help deceive me. They fulfilled their roles well leading me to believe I had just made many new friends.
Instead, they were all lying to me.
They all knew she had a long-term boyfriend, and this was just a game to them. It was not enough for them to just hurt me though.
When I tried to speak to her friends and family, they blocked me on social media and sent me messages laughing at me because they enjoyed the cruelty of torturing me.
She herself told me that she “got what she wanted from me.” In other words, taking out her friends and family multiple times, the gifts, my generosity, warmth, care, and all the money I found out she made off me; all her goals had been achieved and accomplished in her mind.
She had seduced everything she wanted from me, therefore, according to her, she had no need to speak to me again.
I do not know what was worse, the pain I was feeling, the calculating coldness of those who wantonly set out to harm me, or the hurt I could hear in my mother’s voice when I told her the news, simply replying, “She used you.”
My friends and family were expecting to soon be greeting a new addition to our lives; the love of my life whose wedding plans had just been announced to the support of all in her intimate close-knit circle.
No One Understands
When I did talk to people about her, they would just say, “Get over it.” They did not understand the extent of my attachment, the six to eight hours a day of constant conversations for six months, the hole that was left, not just in my life but in my soul.
Nor did they understand the culminating affect the previous five years had on my complete devastation and destruction.
The downward spiral had begun in 2008. My boss, who I had trusted, sacked me in a surprise meeting with HR.
After seven years of loyal service, working my way up to run the department and growing it exponentially by over 83% from $8.5 million to over $15.6 million in revenue, while increasing the profit margin from 27% to 37%, they fired me on the spot.
I had invested wholeheartedly in my career with the company. I had worked tirelessly, even giving up much earned vacation time to drive the success of my department.
I was recognized nationally by my peers; often I was asked to speak at different events across the country, to explain why my department was doing so well at a time when the entire industry was experiencing stagnation or contraction.
It did not matter that my company had a policy of "progressive discipline" that required a verbal warning, written warning, and then probationary period before an employee was fired. My boss and HR threw out all the rules and terminated me right there with no warning. One of the HR managers even sadistically smiled at me as they fired me.
A Career in Ruins
I would sue them and battle them for years through depositions and attorneys.
The three of them who fired me, including my boss, could not come up with a consistent, unified reason why they fired me. In the end, I would stare in my ex-boss’ eyes as she answered questions.
I finally concluded that even though the success I was having in driving growth for our department made her look good, she was jealous of my achievements.
That same department would later fall apart in my absence and the company would settle with me before we went to court.
During that time, I had found another position as a regional manager with a different bank.
My coworkers were supportive and often consulted me on important decisions. I was treated with respect and my boss would seek advice from me on pressing matters.
Unfortunately, that bank did not make it through the financial crisis, and two years later it failed.
We closed as one bank on a Friday and opened as another bank the following Monday; that was how the FDIC handled bank failures during the financial crisis.
Right before Christmas, all of us managers were given our walking papers and I, once again, found myself unemployed.
After landing a new job as a regional manager six months later, enduring the misery of working with and for a bunch of truly nasty people, those positions also disappeared.
My professional career working for others ended at that point.
Left With Nothing and More Betrayal
Unfortunately, as my wife had already left, the financial markets had eroded my lifetime savings, and my money had dried up, I was now facing an imminent foreclosure as I could not keep my house afloat.
To top it all off, I had also recently been betrayed by someone else I had loved.
Unbeknownst to me, my girlfriend had decided it was time to have a baby. She did not tell me, but she had covertly stopped taking her birth control pills. I would later learn from her friends that she had told them she wanted to secretly get pregnant on purpose, to force me into moving our relationship to the next level immediately, per her timetable.
I was happy when she showed me the sonogram and told me we were having a baby. I was going to be a father for the first and only time in my life; it was a glorious occasion.
Yet, this same girl, once she was granted the commitment she always wanted from me, would sneak off into the night and have an abortion. She changed her mind as quickly and clandestinely as she had made her original decision. The news devastated me and ended our relationship.
She would later tell me she regretted what she did and she wanted to get back together with me.
Needless to say, I told her that was not going to happen.
The Final Betrayal and All Is Lost
All the hurt and pain of those previous five years had taken its toll on me.
In spite of this, I was willing to give love and happiness a chance. I was taking the risk to trust again with a girl who professed to have a conscious, moral compass, and who promised to treat me right.
Yet instead, the love of my life, the girl with whom we had just announced our future plans for marriage in front of her friends and family, who knew about all this previous hurt and pain in my life, took great pleasure in lying, cheating, using me, and then tossing me away once she got all she wanted.
After all I had been through, and with the latest blow, I just wanted the hurt and pain to stop.
In addition, at this moment my home was soon going to be at risk. My money was dwindling and I was about to be late on my mortgage for the first time ever.
I called my bank to work with them, but to my surprise, they began an aggressive campaign to try to take my house illegally.
I contacted an attorney and tried to sell my home, but the local housing market was in turmoil.
Per the attorney, the bank finally agreed to leave me alone until a specific date, at which time if my house was not sold, I had to turn it over to them.
Unfortunately, that date came and went without a buyer. I had to get rid of everything: all my furniture, paintings, personal possessions, and anything I could not fit into my car.
I lost my house.
Everything I once had was gone except for a solitary carload consisting mostly of clothes along with my cat. In truth, if not for my cat, as sad as it sounds, I may not be here today.
What did I do next? How does the story end?
Resurrection and Reinvention of Self
There are a few things I decided during this time in my life. I focused on the successes and not the failures I had achieved over the years and I decided to reinvent myself.
I also realized I had a message of hope to share with others.
All I ever wanted to do in life was help other people. With this goal in mind, I began to write.
As I wrote in my first book, which was written at this most difficult time in my life, “At that darkest moment, while drowning in the Abyss of Emotional Bankruptcy, reflect on this universal truth: the difference between success and failure is one more time.”
I took what I learned during these difficult times, I chose to look back at the accomplishments in my life, and to do my best to be a positive influence on others. If you read my book, “Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement,” now you know where I was emotionally and mentally when I wrote it.
My sole purpose was to turn this terrible time in my life into an opportunity to have a positive impact on other people. As I wrote in the book, “I feel the reason we are all here, our purpose of being, is to help others find their little piece of happiness and heaven right here on earth.”
I do not know where you are in life or what you are going through. Some of you have difficulties greater than mine. My wish is that you can get through these hard times in your life and “Be the light that inspires others to dream.”
“Light can devour the darkness but darkness cannot consume the light.”
Once you realize that you hold the power to change your life for the better and that nothing can extinguish your light, you will realize you are ultimately in control of your destiny when you make the conscious decision to move forward.
Everyone Has Hurt and Pain In Their Lives
We all go through tough times in life. No one is immune from difficulties.
Even after everything I endured, I am better now, and more importantly, I am better for it.
Furthermore, I also know that money cannot bring happiness but I know financial problems and the stress it causes can become all consuming.
I understand because I have lived it.
Success and Overcoming Adversity
“Wisdom comes from making mistakes, having the courage to face them, and make adjustments moving forward based upon the knowledge acquired through those experiences.”
I have always been told, and it seems true, no one cares about your story until you finally make it.
When you are down and out not only does the world not seem to care, but unfortunately, there are sometimes those who actively enjoy kicking you and keeping you down.
In the end, "Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement," became a bestseller on Amazon.
Furthermore, I am now quoted every single day in social media worldwide.
Each day my words inspire people all over the world; I achieved my ultimate goal of being a positive influence on people's lives.
Maybe someone, somewhere in the world can relate to my story, hold onto the knowledge that they can and will eventually overcome all of today’s hurt and pain, then have the courage to get up one more time and turn things around.
Whatever the obstacle, you can overcome it and achieve success as long as you just keep moving forward.
I hope by sharing my story that these words find their way to inspire others to rise above their current circumstances and keep going.
Warmly,
Ken Poirot
Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement
New Screenplay: Life's Plan
About My New Screenplay: Life's Plan
I recently completed a new screenplay titled, "Life's Plan."
The premise is relatively simple: imagine taking the universally, well-known story of David and Goliath and then twisting it.
Furthermore, exploring complex philosophical and religious topics, such as:
Free Will
Fate
LIfe's Purpose
The meaning of life (and death)
Time
Parallel Universes
Now take all of those topics above and wrap them into a contemporary version of the traditional Biblical account of David and Goliath, while taking the audience on an emotional roller coaster ride (with a side of humor).
In a nutshell, that is my screenplay, "Life's Plan."
Here is the log line for Life's Plan:
An improbable awkward college freshman meets a mysterious man who takes him on a journey through love, loss, and Goliath to become King David.
"LIfe's Plan" has been copyrighted and it can be viewed here on InkTip (for InkTip members) for a limited time.
Life's Plan on InkTip
For anyone who is not a member of InkTip, for a limited time you can contact me via email through InkTip and I can send you a copy.
Warmly,
Ken Poirot
I recently completed a new screenplay titled, "Life's Plan."
The premise is relatively simple: imagine taking the universally, well-known story of David and Goliath and then twisting it.
Furthermore, exploring complex philosophical and religious topics, such as:
Free Will
Fate
LIfe's Purpose
The meaning of life (and death)
Time
Parallel Universes
Now take all of those topics above and wrap them into a contemporary version of the traditional Biblical account of David and Goliath, while taking the audience on an emotional roller coaster ride (with a side of humor).
In a nutshell, that is my screenplay, "Life's Plan."
Here is the log line for Life's Plan:
An improbable awkward college freshman meets a mysterious man who takes him on a journey through love, loss, and Goliath to become King David.
"LIfe's Plan" has been copyrighted and it can be viewed here on InkTip (for InkTip members) for a limited time.
Life's Plan on InkTip
For anyone who is not a member of InkTip, for a limited time you can contact me via email through InkTip and I can send you a copy.
Warmly,
Ken Poirot
