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Mentor Me New Quotes and Photos...
Take a look at the new photos I added...quotes designed from my book, "Mentor Me."
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Let me know what you think...
Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement
Ken Poirot
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Let me know what you think...
Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement
Ken Poirot
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Mentor Me: GA=T+E-A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement
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Ken Poirot
Mentor Me: GA=T+E-A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement
New Quote and Photos for "Mentor Me"...
I added more quotes/photos from "Mentor Me" today to my photos here on Goodreads.
Here is a link to the latest quotes/photos starting with the most recent additions to my photos:
https://www.goodreads.com/photo/autho...
Come take a look and tell me what you think.
Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement
Ken Poirot
Here is a link to the latest quotes/photos starting with the most recent additions to my photos:
https://www.goodreads.com/photo/autho...
Come take a look and tell me what you think.
Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement
Ken Poirot
Fun T-Shirt Shop: "Mentor Me" based upon Photo Quotes from "Mentor Me"...
Fun: Today I opened up an online shop with T-Shirts of some of the photo quotes I posted here on Goodreads.
Unfortunately, not all the designs translate well to T-Shirts...but many do.
Come here to see which photo quotes made it to T-Shirt designs:
http://kenpoirottshirtsandmore.spread...
Here are the original photo quotes on Goodreads:
https://www.goodreads.com/photo/autho...
Let's have some fun with this! Guess, which design is my favorite?
Do not forget about my 99 cent Kindle promotion going on right now...
Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement
Ken Poirot
Warmly,
Ken Poirot
Unfortunately, not all the designs translate well to T-Shirts...but many do.
Come here to see which photo quotes made it to T-Shirt designs:
http://kenpoirottshirtsandmore.spread...
Here are the original photo quotes on Goodreads:
https://www.goodreads.com/photo/autho...
Let's have some fun with this! Guess, which design is my favorite?
Do not forget about my 99 cent Kindle promotion going on right now...
Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement
Ken Poirot
Warmly,
Ken Poirot
George Washington, the average person, and "epic battles never told"...
So what do George Washington, the average person, and "epic battles never told" have in common?
...my thoughts as I penned this quote:
"Be Courageous: Succeed or Fail Monumentally!"
The photo quote can be found here:
http://www.goodreads.com/photo/author...
I purposely hunted for the iconic painting I had in mind: a public domain photo of George Washington crossing the Delaware River in order to depict this photo quote.
As many of you know, one of my interests is history, learning more about the history of the places to which I travel, as well as American history.
I grew up on Long Island, in a small village called Northport. As with many small villages and places on Long Island, there are signs (blue markers in this case) designating historical incidents in connection with The Revolutionary War.
I will never forget one of these signs in Northport; inscribed upon it is the story of a man who died defending his cow from seizure by the British (an historical marker placed to commemorate the approximate location) during The Revolutionary War. Just an average person...not the name of someone famous or recognizable from history.
Many times I have watched the well-produced series airing on "The History Channel" called, "The Revolution." I find it fascinating to learn about all the trials and tribulations of those times...all the events that played out behind the scenes. The drama present day Americans normally do not think about.
I am especially fascinated by the situations and circumstances surrounding George Washington during this time.
Many of you may be familiar with this series, "The Revolution," but for those of you who are not, it tells history by analyzing concurrent events from different points of view to help the viewer better understand the backdrop of the events described.
Scholars analyze and peel back the layers to uncover what was really happening at the time. Different opinions, perspectives, and the original thoughts in the minds of George Washington and his contemporaries are told by reading their actual letters written in response to specific events.
"The Revolution" reveals all the generals under George Washington who openly criticized him (in their own handwritten letters), his betrayal by Benedict Arnold (who many scholars believe would have been worthy of his own monument had he not become a traitor siding with the British), the lost battles, the under funding of George Washington's troops, the lack of even basic supplies, like food.
The series conveys the desperation and despondency George Washington must have felt at times, trying to fight the world's superpower, the British, on a shoe string budget, which sometimes meant troops literally without shoes or boots.
One of the most famous examples of this took place at Valley Forge. It is recorded, the lack of even the most basic resources for American soldiers during the Continental Army's brutal winter encampment there, forced some soldiers to boil their own shoes (the soldiers who actually had shoes) in order to eat them for sustenance.
The events leading up to that brutal winter at Valley Forge added to the sense of hopelessness most Americans must have been feeling at the time. It came on the heels of substantial, demoralizing defeats for the Continental Army, culminating in the loss of New York City to the British.
So what did George Washington do at Valley Forge?
He led his troops across the Delaware River, with some soldiers (who did not have shoes) wrapping their feet in rags, while leaving trails of blood in the snow from their poorly protected, frozen feet.
This malnourished, starving, battered, and disheveled American army surprised the British Hessian soldiers (German troops hired by the British) at Trenton on the other side of the Delaware River. This surprise attack orchestrated by George Washington gave the American colonists a much-needed, overwhelming victory, lifting their spirits.
Some scholars point to this victory at the Battle of Trenton as the single-most important psychological triumph in The Revolutionary War. This inspiring, courageous assault eventually led to America's supremacy in its fight for independence from England.
George Washington never gave up and continued to push on regardless of his circumstances.
Through all the obstacles, road blocks, uncertainty, back stabbing, betrayal, lack of resources, and with poorly trained, ragged average citizens as troops...George Washington still managed to prevail.
Many scholars have stated at times the Continental Congress even debated over the firing of George Washington as the commanding general of the Continental Army during this time.
After all this drama and with all the difficulties...George Washington led America to independence against arguably the greatest superpower in the world at that moment in history.
It is said George Washington invested so much personally in The Revolutionary War...of his own time, life (he was willing to die for the cause), and finances, that he even had to borrow money just to travel to his own inauguration as the first President of the United States.
George Washington was decimated financially by the war due to his complete commitment to the American cause.
Yes, there are monuments to George Washington and many of our Founding Fathers; they were victorious in the end against what many thought to be insurmountable odds.
...but what about the average person? What about the person who gives their all, gives everything for their dream(s), goal(s), or achievement(s)...and who does not win in the end?
Where are the monuments to these people...the ones whose stories we will never hear? What about their strife, or as I like to call it, their "epic battles never told."
As we know, life itself is a struggle. Every day can be an "epic battle never told" for the average person.
What is important is that no matter what happens in your life, no matter what obstacles you have to overcome to pursue your dreams...never, never, never give up!
Put it all on the line and risk it all for your beliefs and for your dreams. The small fraction who achieve astronomical success in life against all odds have monuments erected in their honor. Yet, those who strive, toil, struggle, and fail, fight "epic battles never told," never commemorated, or even whispered.
That average person, the farmer in Northport who died protecting his cow from the British, just happened to be memorialized by an historical marker. How many other average people died giving their lives for freedom during The Revolutionary War, whose stories, and "epic battles" we will never know?
What about your story? What about your "epic battles?"
It is better to give everything of yourself for your dreams, even if you fail in the end, versus not giving your all.
Live monumentally!
For if you toil, strive, and still fail in the end...it is better than not having the courage to give all of yourself completely, to lay all of yourself and your being on the line in order to achieve your dreams.
It is better to never have to ask, "What if?" about your life.
"What if" I had given it my all? What would have happened? How would it have changed my life if I had only had the courage to give all of myself completely to achieving my dreams or my goals? "What if" I had the courage to get up after being knocked down just one more time?
Courage is not lack of fear (a fear that paralyzes most people into lack of action); true courage is being afraid and taking action anyway.
Have the courage to never have to ask "What if?" about your life.
Live monumentally!
Give of yourself completely for your dreams. Invest all of yourself for what you want and what is most important to you.
Like George Washington, don't make excuses, hold back, or let any obstacle(s) defeat you!
Can you imagine if George Washington had just admitted the Continental Army could not win against the British due to the lack of funding, lack of resources, lack of supplies, back stabbing and betrayal by his generals, defeats in battle, and seemingly insurmountable odds against his better-trained and equipped British superpower opponent?
Never give up or surrender...no matter what the odds against you!
If you fail...fail monumentally by giving your dreams everything you have. If you get knocked down...get up again and fail on your feet.
It is better to be the "epic battle never told," to be the person who everyone can say never gave up or lost sight of their ultimate vision. Much better than just giving in or surrendering to defeat: being too afraid to fight an "epic battle" in the first place.
Never have to ask "What if?" about your life!
Engage your "epic battle." Confront the road blocks on your way to victory head-on. Have the courage to give of yourself completely to all that you do and set out to achieve.
When you succeed they may build monuments in your honor. At least live the "epic battle never told" and have the courage to never, ever give up or have to ask "What if?"
So I ask you...what are your obstacles? What are your insurmountable odds in the way of your success and your dreams?
When you feel defeated on the way to achieving your goals or dreams, think of that iconic image of George Washington crossing the Delaware River.
Yes, you may fail and you may be an "epic battle never told," or you may have monuments erected in your honor for your success in the face of insurmountable odds like George Washington.
Never, ever, ever give up! Never stay down after being knocked down in pursuit of your goals or dreams! Never surrender and never succumb to defeat!
Give it your all...give of yourself completely to the pursuit and achievement of your dreams! Never have to ask "What if? about your life!
"Be Courageous: Succeed or Fail Monumentally!"
http://www.goodreads.com/photo/author...
Warmly,
Ken
Ken Poirot
...my thoughts as I penned this quote:
"Be Courageous: Succeed or Fail Monumentally!"
The photo quote can be found here:
http://www.goodreads.com/photo/author...
I purposely hunted for the iconic painting I had in mind: a public domain photo of George Washington crossing the Delaware River in order to depict this photo quote.
As many of you know, one of my interests is history, learning more about the history of the places to which I travel, as well as American history.
I grew up on Long Island, in a small village called Northport. As with many small villages and places on Long Island, there are signs (blue markers in this case) designating historical incidents in connection with The Revolutionary War.
I will never forget one of these signs in Northport; inscribed upon it is the story of a man who died defending his cow from seizure by the British (an historical marker placed to commemorate the approximate location) during The Revolutionary War. Just an average person...not the name of someone famous or recognizable from history.
Many times I have watched the well-produced series airing on "The History Channel" called, "The Revolution." I find it fascinating to learn about all the trials and tribulations of those times...all the events that played out behind the scenes. The drama present day Americans normally do not think about.
I am especially fascinated by the situations and circumstances surrounding George Washington during this time.
Many of you may be familiar with this series, "The Revolution," but for those of you who are not, it tells history by analyzing concurrent events from different points of view to help the viewer better understand the backdrop of the events described.
Scholars analyze and peel back the layers to uncover what was really happening at the time. Different opinions, perspectives, and the original thoughts in the minds of George Washington and his contemporaries are told by reading their actual letters written in response to specific events.
"The Revolution" reveals all the generals under George Washington who openly criticized him (in their own handwritten letters), his betrayal by Benedict Arnold (who many scholars believe would have been worthy of his own monument had he not become a traitor siding with the British), the lost battles, the under funding of George Washington's troops, the lack of even basic supplies, like food.
The series conveys the desperation and despondency George Washington must have felt at times, trying to fight the world's superpower, the British, on a shoe string budget, which sometimes meant troops literally without shoes or boots.
One of the most famous examples of this took place at Valley Forge. It is recorded, the lack of even the most basic resources for American soldiers during the Continental Army's brutal winter encampment there, forced some soldiers to boil their own shoes (the soldiers who actually had shoes) in order to eat them for sustenance.
The events leading up to that brutal winter at Valley Forge added to the sense of hopelessness most Americans must have been feeling at the time. It came on the heels of substantial, demoralizing defeats for the Continental Army, culminating in the loss of New York City to the British.
So what did George Washington do at Valley Forge?
He led his troops across the Delaware River, with some soldiers (who did not have shoes) wrapping their feet in rags, while leaving trails of blood in the snow from their poorly protected, frozen feet.
This malnourished, starving, battered, and disheveled American army surprised the British Hessian soldiers (German troops hired by the British) at Trenton on the other side of the Delaware River. This surprise attack orchestrated by George Washington gave the American colonists a much-needed, overwhelming victory, lifting their spirits.
Some scholars point to this victory at the Battle of Trenton as the single-most important psychological triumph in The Revolutionary War. This inspiring, courageous assault eventually led to America's supremacy in its fight for independence from England.
George Washington never gave up and continued to push on regardless of his circumstances.
Through all the obstacles, road blocks, uncertainty, back stabbing, betrayal, lack of resources, and with poorly trained, ragged average citizens as troops...George Washington still managed to prevail.
Many scholars have stated at times the Continental Congress even debated over the firing of George Washington as the commanding general of the Continental Army during this time.
After all this drama and with all the difficulties...George Washington led America to independence against arguably the greatest superpower in the world at that moment in history.
It is said George Washington invested so much personally in The Revolutionary War...of his own time, life (he was willing to die for the cause), and finances, that he even had to borrow money just to travel to his own inauguration as the first President of the United States.
George Washington was decimated financially by the war due to his complete commitment to the American cause.
Yes, there are monuments to George Washington and many of our Founding Fathers; they were victorious in the end against what many thought to be insurmountable odds.
...but what about the average person? What about the person who gives their all, gives everything for their dream(s), goal(s), or achievement(s)...and who does not win in the end?
Where are the monuments to these people...the ones whose stories we will never hear? What about their strife, or as I like to call it, their "epic battles never told."
As we know, life itself is a struggle. Every day can be an "epic battle never told" for the average person.
What is important is that no matter what happens in your life, no matter what obstacles you have to overcome to pursue your dreams...never, never, never give up!
Put it all on the line and risk it all for your beliefs and for your dreams. The small fraction who achieve astronomical success in life against all odds have monuments erected in their honor. Yet, those who strive, toil, struggle, and fail, fight "epic battles never told," never commemorated, or even whispered.
That average person, the farmer in Northport who died protecting his cow from the British, just happened to be memorialized by an historical marker. How many other average people died giving their lives for freedom during The Revolutionary War, whose stories, and "epic battles" we will never know?
What about your story? What about your "epic battles?"
It is better to give everything of yourself for your dreams, even if you fail in the end, versus not giving your all.
Live monumentally!
For if you toil, strive, and still fail in the end...it is better than not having the courage to give all of yourself completely, to lay all of yourself and your being on the line in order to achieve your dreams.
It is better to never have to ask, "What if?" about your life.
"What if" I had given it my all? What would have happened? How would it have changed my life if I had only had the courage to give all of myself completely to achieving my dreams or my goals? "What if" I had the courage to get up after being knocked down just one more time?
Courage is not lack of fear (a fear that paralyzes most people into lack of action); true courage is being afraid and taking action anyway.
Have the courage to never have to ask "What if?" about your life.
Live monumentally!
Give of yourself completely for your dreams. Invest all of yourself for what you want and what is most important to you.
Like George Washington, don't make excuses, hold back, or let any obstacle(s) defeat you!
Can you imagine if George Washington had just admitted the Continental Army could not win against the British due to the lack of funding, lack of resources, lack of supplies, back stabbing and betrayal by his generals, defeats in battle, and seemingly insurmountable odds against his better-trained and equipped British superpower opponent?
Never give up or surrender...no matter what the odds against you!
If you fail...fail monumentally by giving your dreams everything you have. If you get knocked down...get up again and fail on your feet.
It is better to be the "epic battle never told," to be the person who everyone can say never gave up or lost sight of their ultimate vision. Much better than just giving in or surrendering to defeat: being too afraid to fight an "epic battle" in the first place.
Never have to ask "What if?" about your life!
Engage your "epic battle." Confront the road blocks on your way to victory head-on. Have the courage to give of yourself completely to all that you do and set out to achieve.
When you succeed they may build monuments in your honor. At least live the "epic battle never told" and have the courage to never, ever give up or have to ask "What if?"
So I ask you...what are your obstacles? What are your insurmountable odds in the way of your success and your dreams?
When you feel defeated on the way to achieving your goals or dreams, think of that iconic image of George Washington crossing the Delaware River.
Yes, you may fail and you may be an "epic battle never told," or you may have monuments erected in your honor for your success in the face of insurmountable odds like George Washington.
Never, ever, ever give up! Never stay down after being knocked down in pursuit of your goals or dreams! Never surrender and never succumb to defeat!
Give it your all...give of yourself completely to the pursuit and achievement of your dreams! Never have to ask "What if? about your life!
"Be Courageous: Succeed or Fail Monumentally!"
http://www.goodreads.com/photo/author...
Warmly,
Ken
Ken Poirot
Relationships, Happiness, and True Love: Take Out the Garbage...
No One is Free From Hurt or Pain
As I think about many of my past conversations with others in life, there is one universal commonality everyone shares...
Each one of us has hurt and pain in our lives...every one of us. No one is immune or free from hurt or pain from time to time.
Throughout life, painful events happen and hurtful situations transpire. Friendships are formed; some of these friendships are enduring and stalwart, while others are fleeting and filled with drama.
Lovers and partners come into and out of our lives...some wound us deeply in ways we may not fully understand at the time; sometimes people betray us or hurt us.
Closure in relationships is rare; often we find ourselves wondering what went wrong, what we could have done differently, or why our relationships ended so tragically.
This lack of closure can cause us to ponder away for lengths of time, without any objective, concrete answers or tidy conclusion.
Hurt and Pain Comes with Living
As I often say, "There is a cost of doing business in life," meaning when we trust someone...when we open up and get close, sometimes we get hurt.
Yet, to never open up or take the risk in a relationship means to never have the closeness we crave, or the love we desire (and deserve) in our lives.
I know so many people who jump from relationship to relationship to relationship, just because they feel the need to always have someone in their lives.
Yes, having someone can make us feel better short-term, but it is only a temporary solution. It is a way to briefly avoid the real problem...our own feelings of unhappiness, loneliness, hurt, pain, and/or insecurity.
For no one can give us happiness and joy (not true long-term happiness and joy), they can only supply a "quick fix" euphoria from the novelty of something new, and our sense of feeling loved and wanted again.
Impossible Expectations Lead to Relationship Sabotage
We cannot expect someone else to fill us up inside or make us whole. This is a terrible and impossible responsibility with which to appoint another person (a task they cannot possibly accomplish because only we can make ourselves whole).
Having this expectation, (and carrying it into any relationship) will only ensure the relationship will not work out, or live up to these impossible expectations we place on the relationship and the other person.
We are setting the relationship, and the poor soul we are involved with (and ourselves), up for disappointment.
These expectations result in a weak relationship that folds at the first sign of trouble, or "red flag," we feel inside.
Our first reaction to this feeling is to shut down, close up, distance ourselves, or walk away for fear of getting hurt again.
Ignored Past Hurt and Pain Destroys New Relationships
Ultimately the past pain and hurt creeps in again, typically in the form of putting up barriers to true closeness in our relationship.
Predictably, this behavior causes problems and destroys our current relationship. Typically (without even realizing it), we allow the past hurt and pain from which we originally tried to flee to victimize our new relationship.
These are all destructive behaviors in any relationship. We end up sabotaging our new relationship all because we are too afraid to get hurt again (which ironically, causes us to get hurt again by keeping us from having a close, open, and fulfilling relationship in the first place).
This in turn causes even more hurt and pain, which is then added to our ever-expanding, existing pile of emotional baggage, which we carry into our next relationship.
It's a vicious cycle we repeat over and over and over again. So what is the solution to this vicious cycle?
Grieve and Then Find Happiness Within You
The best solution is to take a break; to allocate the time to work on ourselves.
Instead of jumping into the next relationship in order to run from the pain we feel inside (which we cannot truly escape anyway), a healthier long-term solution is to grieve (confront the pain of past events and relationships).
Only by acknowledging this hurt and pain, allowing ourselves to experience it, taking the necessary time to work through it (heal), can we truly become ready for future strong, healthy, and fulfilling relationships.
The fact is, true long-term happiness and true joy comes from within us...not from outside of us.
It is up to us to find this happiness and joy within ourselves. No one can supply us with happiness and joy permanently from outside of us; no one can make us whole.
We can't place such unreasonable expectations on others to complete us for only we can complete ourselves.
So I will ask you, what makes you happy?
Maybe it is spending time with family and friends, being more involved in your community, an organization, or church. Or maybe it is a hobby, an activity, a setting like the beach or mountains, music, sports, going to the gym, writing, etc...
Regardless of what makes you happy and gives you joy, we all need to take the time to build ourselves up again...make ourselves whole again after the trauma of hurt and pain enters our lives.
Take out the Garbage
I liken it to taking out the garbage; if we travel from one relationship to another to another, without first taking the time to make ourselves whole inside, finding the true long-term happiness and joy within us, then we are just adding to the piles and piles of garbage (emotional baggage) in our lives.
Harboring this ever-increasing mound of garbage burdens us, creates emotional exhaustion, and causes fear (the fear of getting hurt).
If we let it continue to expand, it takes up residence as a landfill burying our hearts and souls, preventing us from having the love and closeness we want (and all deserve) in life.
While working through this past hurt and pain (taking out the garbage), spend time doing the things you enjoy the most.
Take out the garbage...true happiness comes from within not from without!
Completely and solely within you is the capacity for true happiness...it is already within you!
Once you feel the true happiness and joy inside you...then you can give all of yourself to someone else.
Then you will be ready and able to experience and realize a strong, healthy, fulfilling relationship; the true love you deserve!
https://www.goodreads.com/photo/autho...
Ken Poirot
Warmly,
Ken Poirot
As I think about many of my past conversations with others in life, there is one universal commonality everyone shares...
Each one of us has hurt and pain in our lives...every one of us. No one is immune or free from hurt or pain from time to time.
Throughout life, painful events happen and hurtful situations transpire. Friendships are formed; some of these friendships are enduring and stalwart, while others are fleeting and filled with drama.
Lovers and partners come into and out of our lives...some wound us deeply in ways we may not fully understand at the time; sometimes people betray us or hurt us.
Closure in relationships is rare; often we find ourselves wondering what went wrong, what we could have done differently, or why our relationships ended so tragically.
This lack of closure can cause us to ponder away for lengths of time, without any objective, concrete answers or tidy conclusion.
Hurt and Pain Comes with Living
As I often say, "There is a cost of doing business in life," meaning when we trust someone...when we open up and get close, sometimes we get hurt.
Yet, to never open up or take the risk in a relationship means to never have the closeness we crave, or the love we desire (and deserve) in our lives.
I know so many people who jump from relationship to relationship to relationship, just because they feel the need to always have someone in their lives.
Yes, having someone can make us feel better short-term, but it is only a temporary solution. It is a way to briefly avoid the real problem...our own feelings of unhappiness, loneliness, hurt, pain, and/or insecurity.
For no one can give us happiness and joy (not true long-term happiness and joy), they can only supply a "quick fix" euphoria from the novelty of something new, and our sense of feeling loved and wanted again.
Impossible Expectations Lead to Relationship Sabotage
We cannot expect someone else to fill us up inside or make us whole. This is a terrible and impossible responsibility with which to appoint another person (a task they cannot possibly accomplish because only we can make ourselves whole).
Having this expectation, (and carrying it into any relationship) will only ensure the relationship will not work out, or live up to these impossible expectations we place on the relationship and the other person.
We are setting the relationship, and the poor soul we are involved with (and ourselves), up for disappointment.
These expectations result in a weak relationship that folds at the first sign of trouble, or "red flag," we feel inside.
Our first reaction to this feeling is to shut down, close up, distance ourselves, or walk away for fear of getting hurt again.
Ignored Past Hurt and Pain Destroys New Relationships
Ultimately the past pain and hurt creeps in again, typically in the form of putting up barriers to true closeness in our relationship.
Predictably, this behavior causes problems and destroys our current relationship. Typically (without even realizing it), we allow the past hurt and pain from which we originally tried to flee to victimize our new relationship.
These are all destructive behaviors in any relationship. We end up sabotaging our new relationship all because we are too afraid to get hurt again (which ironically, causes us to get hurt again by keeping us from having a close, open, and fulfilling relationship in the first place).
This in turn causes even more hurt and pain, which is then added to our ever-expanding, existing pile of emotional baggage, which we carry into our next relationship.
It's a vicious cycle we repeat over and over and over again. So what is the solution to this vicious cycle?
Grieve and Then Find Happiness Within You
The best solution is to take a break; to allocate the time to work on ourselves.
Instead of jumping into the next relationship in order to run from the pain we feel inside (which we cannot truly escape anyway), a healthier long-term solution is to grieve (confront the pain of past events and relationships).
Only by acknowledging this hurt and pain, allowing ourselves to experience it, taking the necessary time to work through it (heal), can we truly become ready for future strong, healthy, and fulfilling relationships.
The fact is, true long-term happiness and true joy comes from within us...not from outside of us.
It is up to us to find this happiness and joy within ourselves. No one can supply us with happiness and joy permanently from outside of us; no one can make us whole.
We can't place such unreasonable expectations on others to complete us for only we can complete ourselves.
So I will ask you, what makes you happy?
Maybe it is spending time with family and friends, being more involved in your community, an organization, or church. Or maybe it is a hobby, an activity, a setting like the beach or mountains, music, sports, going to the gym, writing, etc...
Regardless of what makes you happy and gives you joy, we all need to take the time to build ourselves up again...make ourselves whole again after the trauma of hurt and pain enters our lives.
Take out the Garbage
I liken it to taking out the garbage; if we travel from one relationship to another to another, without first taking the time to make ourselves whole inside, finding the true long-term happiness and joy within us, then we are just adding to the piles and piles of garbage (emotional baggage) in our lives.
Harboring this ever-increasing mound of garbage burdens us, creates emotional exhaustion, and causes fear (the fear of getting hurt).
If we let it continue to expand, it takes up residence as a landfill burying our hearts and souls, preventing us from having the love and closeness we want (and all deserve) in life.
While working through this past hurt and pain (taking out the garbage), spend time doing the things you enjoy the most.
Take out the garbage...true happiness comes from within not from without!
Completely and solely within you is the capacity for true happiness...it is already within you!
Once you feel the true happiness and joy inside you...then you can give all of yourself to someone else.
Then you will be ready and able to experience and realize a strong, healthy, fulfilling relationship; the true love you deserve!
https://www.goodreads.com/photo/autho...
Ken Poirot
Warmly,
Ken Poirot
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Warmly,
Ken Poirot
Quotations and Photos: Mentor Me: GA=T+E-A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement
Ken Poirot
Quoted all over the world! ...find out why!
NOW FREE on Amazon (Kindle) for a Limited Time...
Pick up your copy here today:
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00V...
Warmly,
Ken Poirot
Quotations and Photos: Mentor Me: GA=T+E-A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement
Ken Poirot
Fan Appreciation: Free Mentor Me Book Giveaway on Amazon and 99 Cents Kindle Version Limited Time Price
In honor of my fans I am hosting a new, 3rd, Amazon Giveaway (the first two ended in just hours)!
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Thank you to all my fans!
Warmly,
Ken Poirot
Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement
Ken Poirot
I want all my fans to have a chance to win, so this is a 3rd Fan Appreciation Amazon Giveaway using the same Goodreads Blog Posting (entry link changed to the 3rd Amazon "Mentor Me" Book Giveaway)!
Enter to win a free paperback copy of "Mentor Me: (the 11th free copy given away this weekend)!
Find out why "Mentor Me" by author Ken Poirot is being quoted around the world and has become a best seller!
For details of the Amazon Giveaway and for entry use the link below:
https://giveaway.amazon.com/p/be82690...
In addition, for those of you who enter and do not win a free paperback copy of "Mentor Me," the Kindle version is now available for only one more day at the fan appreciation price of 99 cents (regularly $9.99).
Win a free paperback book or pick up your discounted Kindle version of "Mentor Me" today!
Thank you to all my fans!
Warmly,
Ken Poirot
Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement
Ken Poirot
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Warmly,
Ken Poirot
Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement
Ken Poirot
Mentor Me by Ken Poirot.
See why Mentor Me is being quoted around the world!
Ends August 5th...so hurry!
For details and entry click on the link below:
https://giveaway.amazon.com/p/ac1e26a...
Warmly,
Ken Poirot
Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement
Ken Poirot
