Ken Poirot's Blog - Posts Tagged "personal-growth"
"Mentor Me" Review...
"Mentor Me" Review:
"For anyone who follows my reviews, my obsession with self-help books is not really a secret, but I'll share it again here: I have this thing about personal growth and read a lot of self help books. Now, I know what you're thinking - so many of them are all the same. That's true, but there are a lot of them that are different, or at the very least share things in a different way.
I think this book falls under the latter. I found this book to be very motivational - not only does it tell you what you can do to transform your life and the steps you need to take, but it gives you activities to do, encourages you to do them, and each activity empowers you. I actually felt like Ken was standing there, tapping his foot with his arms crossed over his chest, waiting for me to do what he told me to do. And I'm thankful for that. Sometimes you need a gentle push, other times you need a shove ... and he's there when both are needed.
I read the book through in it's entirety, highlighting some interesting things along the way, then came back and did half of the activities so far and I have to say - I feel better for it. This is a self help book that I suggest others read.
'I have found we can learn something from just about anyone, if
we approach others with an open mind, take the time to get to
know them, seek out, and listen to what they can teach us.'"
http://the-gal-in-the-blue-mask.blogs...
Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement
Ken Poirot
"For anyone who follows my reviews, my obsession with self-help books is not really a secret, but I'll share it again here: I have this thing about personal growth and read a lot of self help books. Now, I know what you're thinking - so many of them are all the same. That's true, but there are a lot of them that are different, or at the very least share things in a different way.
I think this book falls under the latter. I found this book to be very motivational - not only does it tell you what you can do to transform your life and the steps you need to take, but it gives you activities to do, encourages you to do them, and each activity empowers you. I actually felt like Ken was standing there, tapping his foot with his arms crossed over his chest, waiting for me to do what he told me to do. And I'm thankful for that. Sometimes you need a gentle push, other times you need a shove ... and he's there when both are needed.
I read the book through in it's entirety, highlighting some interesting things along the way, then came back and did half of the activities so far and I have to say - I feel better for it. This is a self help book that I suggest others read.
'I have found we can learn something from just about anyone, if
we approach others with an open mind, take the time to get to
know them, seek out, and listen to what they can teach us.'"
http://the-gal-in-the-blue-mask.blogs...
Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement
Ken Poirot
IMPORTANT: My most important epiphany and message for others...
Epiphany: What Makes Someone Successful?
I had an epiphany last night that will transform your life...
I discovered the most important reason some people are successful and some people are not successful.
There is one fundamental difference, one simple distinction between the most important, successful leaders and historical figures in the world compared to the average person...one common characteristic that made them successful.
The good news is...once you have the answer, you will be well on your path to achieving the success in life you dream about.
Additionally, this answer is simple to implement and act upon. I will walk you through that step, taking action, later here in this blog.
I am even willing to say, this is the one piece of information that will be the reason you finally find success in life, once you take action on it.
Additional 1.5 Years of Thought
It has been almost a year since I published (almost 1.5 years since I completed writing), Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement.
Mentor Me was written to provide a real-world, practical (not just theoretical like so many books) guide for people to take positive action in life. It delivers tools to help people achieve their definition of ultimate success, in a concise, easy-to-read, and easy-to-implement package.
Many deeper themes are also written into Mentor Me in order to stimulate profound thoughts about life...some of these themes are subtle and some are not-so-subtle.
Within its pages are the mindset, exercises, and useful tools to help people on their journey to fulfill their Greatest Achievement (GA).
The Thought Process to The Answer
First a few questions, then I will provide the answer to what makes someone successful.
You deserve to have the answer and to achieve the success you dream of in life.
I will ask you for something in return...share this blog and this information with others.
Please help someone else achieve their dreams and their definition of success in life.
My Question for You
Who are you and what is most important to you in life?
In other words, how do you define yourself and your life?
This seems like a very fundamental question. Yet, if I asked you this question in person right now, could you communicate your answer succinctly and effectively?
Try it right now. Please write down...how do you define yourself and your life?
I am guessing you are just like most of the people to whom I have posed that question...you are struggling with a concise definition of you.
The Answer
Having a deep-rooted knowledge, conviction, and belief of yourself, who you are and what is important to you, is the fundamental basis of focusing your life for success.
This is the biggest difference between those who are successful in life and those who are not.
Think of the most successful person you know...either someone personally or someone you admire; a contemporary or someone from history.
Think of the qualities that person exhibits or exhibited in history. They have a "presence" when they enter a room. People are naturally attracted to them, want to follow them, and to be a part of their lives. Why?
...because this person knows who they are, they can define themselves, and concisely, effectively communicate that definition to others.
They have a direction in life and people want to follow them because it is our human nature to want to be a part of something bigger than us.
We all want to be in the presence of success, greatness, and inspirational leadership. It is our innate constitution to want to achieve, or be a part of something remarkable, earth-shattering, and truly great.
Everyone wants to have a greater purpose in life. Exceptional, charismatic leaders exude confidence and attract followers who believe in them. Their followers believe they will be taken to a place of greatest achievement in life, well above what they could have achieved on their own.
It all starts with defining yourself, having a solid, foundational belief in who you are, what is important to you, and the ability to communicate that effectively to others.
Once you can define yourself, radiate the confidence and belief in who you are, where you are going in life, and concisely, effectively communicate this to others...people will follow you and help you achieve your definition of success.
The X Factor
Last night I realized, that is the difference between great leaders throughout history and the rest of the population.
Some call it the "X Factor." Yet, to my knowledge, no one has succinctly defined the "X Factor" and told you how to construct your own "X Factor"...until today.
Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Alexander the Great, George Washington, Mohatma Gahndi, Mother Teresa, Jesus Christ, etc... all the great and historically relevant leaders in the world:
If you asked any of them, they could answer that question, how do you define yourself and your life?
Any one of them could readily define themselves, radiate confidence in their belief of that definition, and concisely communicate that definition effectively to others.
Deliberately I used diverse names from varied backgrounds, such as, innovative business leaders, nation or empire builders, names synonymous with peace and love, and religious leaders in my example above to make a point...you define you.
Whatever defines you and is most important to you is up to you.
Your definition may be with respect to your profession, your business, your community, your family, your religion, etc...
...it can be anything as long as it is yours and you define it. Your definition of you and your purpose of being is yours to decide and yours alone, which leads me to my next point:
Define Yourself; Do Not Let Others Define You
Once you have constructed your definition of you, you believe it with conviction, and you can communicate it effectively to others...then nothing anyone else says can truly harm you.
Your definition of you is like a suit of armor protecting you in the battles of every day life.
Once you have this deep-rooted belief and understanding of who you are and what is most important to you, then anything anyone else says to you outside of this definition cannot penetrate the emotional armor you have donned.
Anything anyone says will bounce off and be discarded by your conscious and subconscious mind if it is not congruent, or in alignment with, your deep-rooted conviction of your definition of you.
As I wrote in Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement, there is constructive and destructive criticism.
When you have a firm belief and definition of yourself, you can easily shrug off any destructive criticism of you, with the true knowledge and belief it is not accurate, or worthy of a second thought from you.
Your definition of you is like an impenetrable tank, protecting you every second of each day from words of jealousy, hatred, bullying, or abuse.
You Will Be Unstoppable In Achieving Success
By establishing your definition of you, you will attract people to you who will reinforce your positive self image.
People will want to help, nurture, and follow you, while you ward off and repel those who want to harm you, or feed you destructive criticism.
Furthermore, your definition of you will provide you the confidence, direction, and focus in life to achieve your greatest accomplishments.
It will be the guiding principal for your life, directing you to success and making course corrections to your targeted goals like an unstoppable, guided missile.
Some people define themselves through their profession, career, family, relationships, affiliation with groups, church, religion, etc... your definition is completely individualized and it will encompass all that is most important to you.
So how do you physically, concisely, and effectively do this? How do you define yourself and your life? How do you write this down in a way that is easily communicated to others?
Define You: The IBT Model
Last night I came up with a model, or framework, to help people define themselves, write it down, and concisely, effectively communicate this definition to others; I call it the IBT Model.
Write down on a piece of paper the following three words, leaving space between them so you can fill in the blanks.
Write:
I
By
Through
Then think about how you will define you and what is most important to you:
"I" is who you are.
"By" states how you accomplish who you are and your life purpose in relation to you.
"Through" states what medium you use to accomplish your life purpose.
So take some time right now, think about you, your life, and what is most important to you.
As I wrote in Mentor Me, "Something magical happens when we put down what we want on a piece of paper, verbalize it, visualize it, define it, and allow ourselves to experience it…We can program ourselves to have it!"
Your Definition of You in Writing
Write it down, believe it with conviction, and communicate it effectively to others.
I will share what I wrote last night as my definition of me as an example:
"I help people define and achieve their definition of success by providing information, motivation, and inspiration through writing books and coaching."
The people I help can be friends, family, a member of a group I am affiliated with, someone in my community, etc...anyone. It is an all encompassing definition of me.
In order to easily share this with others, I created a photo quote which is located here:
https://www.goodreads.com/photo/autho...
Once you write down your definition of you, refer to it each day. It will be the guiding force for your life, your being, and drive you toward success.
Having this written statement, your deeply-rooted definition of you, is the difference between the greatest leaders and historical figures of all time versus the average person.
You now have the foundation to truly achieve your definition of success.
Help Others and Continue Your Journey
Share this blog with others, help them define themselves, and take the next step...map out your blueprint to achieve your dreams.
In Mentor Me, I assemble the exercises and tools to help people define and achieve their lifelong goal(s), their Greatest Achievement (GA).
After all, you have seen my definition of me:
"I help people define and achieve their definition of success by providing information, motivation, and inspiration through writing books and coaching."
Now that you have your definition of you, pick up a copy of Mentor Me and continue your journey:
http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00KPGM28C
Continue on your path to achieving your definition of success...your Greatest Achievement (GA).
Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement
Ken Poirot
Warmly,
Ken Poirot
I had an epiphany last night that will transform your life...
I discovered the most important reason some people are successful and some people are not successful.
There is one fundamental difference, one simple distinction between the most important, successful leaders and historical figures in the world compared to the average person...one common characteristic that made them successful.
The good news is...once you have the answer, you will be well on your path to achieving the success in life you dream about.
Additionally, this answer is simple to implement and act upon. I will walk you through that step, taking action, later here in this blog.
I am even willing to say, this is the one piece of information that will be the reason you finally find success in life, once you take action on it.
Additional 1.5 Years of Thought
It has been almost a year since I published (almost 1.5 years since I completed writing), Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement.
Mentor Me was written to provide a real-world, practical (not just theoretical like so many books) guide for people to take positive action in life. It delivers tools to help people achieve their definition of ultimate success, in a concise, easy-to-read, and easy-to-implement package.
Many deeper themes are also written into Mentor Me in order to stimulate profound thoughts about life...some of these themes are subtle and some are not-so-subtle.
Within its pages are the mindset, exercises, and useful tools to help people on their journey to fulfill their Greatest Achievement (GA).
The Thought Process to The Answer
First a few questions, then I will provide the answer to what makes someone successful.
You deserve to have the answer and to achieve the success you dream of in life.
I will ask you for something in return...share this blog and this information with others.
Please help someone else achieve their dreams and their definition of success in life.
My Question for You
Who are you and what is most important to you in life?
In other words, how do you define yourself and your life?
This seems like a very fundamental question. Yet, if I asked you this question in person right now, could you communicate your answer succinctly and effectively?
Try it right now. Please write down...how do you define yourself and your life?
I am guessing you are just like most of the people to whom I have posed that question...you are struggling with a concise definition of you.
The Answer
Having a deep-rooted knowledge, conviction, and belief of yourself, who you are and what is important to you, is the fundamental basis of focusing your life for success.
This is the biggest difference between those who are successful in life and those who are not.
Think of the most successful person you know...either someone personally or someone you admire; a contemporary or someone from history.
Think of the qualities that person exhibits or exhibited in history. They have a "presence" when they enter a room. People are naturally attracted to them, want to follow them, and to be a part of their lives. Why?
...because this person knows who they are, they can define themselves, and concisely, effectively communicate that definition to others.
They have a direction in life and people want to follow them because it is our human nature to want to be a part of something bigger than us.
We all want to be in the presence of success, greatness, and inspirational leadership. It is our innate constitution to want to achieve, or be a part of something remarkable, earth-shattering, and truly great.
Everyone wants to have a greater purpose in life. Exceptional, charismatic leaders exude confidence and attract followers who believe in them. Their followers believe they will be taken to a place of greatest achievement in life, well above what they could have achieved on their own.
It all starts with defining yourself, having a solid, foundational belief in who you are, what is important to you, and the ability to communicate that effectively to others.
Once you can define yourself, radiate the confidence and belief in who you are, where you are going in life, and concisely, effectively communicate this to others...people will follow you and help you achieve your definition of success.
The X Factor
Last night I realized, that is the difference between great leaders throughout history and the rest of the population.
Some call it the "X Factor." Yet, to my knowledge, no one has succinctly defined the "X Factor" and told you how to construct your own "X Factor"...until today.
Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Alexander the Great, George Washington, Mohatma Gahndi, Mother Teresa, Jesus Christ, etc... all the great and historically relevant leaders in the world:
If you asked any of them, they could answer that question, how do you define yourself and your life?
Any one of them could readily define themselves, radiate confidence in their belief of that definition, and concisely communicate that definition effectively to others.
Deliberately I used diverse names from varied backgrounds, such as, innovative business leaders, nation or empire builders, names synonymous with peace and love, and religious leaders in my example above to make a point...you define you.
Whatever defines you and is most important to you is up to you.
Your definition may be with respect to your profession, your business, your community, your family, your religion, etc...
...it can be anything as long as it is yours and you define it. Your definition of you and your purpose of being is yours to decide and yours alone, which leads me to my next point:
Define Yourself; Do Not Let Others Define You
Once you have constructed your definition of you, you believe it with conviction, and you can communicate it effectively to others...then nothing anyone else says can truly harm you.
Your definition of you is like a suit of armor protecting you in the battles of every day life.
Once you have this deep-rooted belief and understanding of who you are and what is most important to you, then anything anyone else says to you outside of this definition cannot penetrate the emotional armor you have donned.
Anything anyone says will bounce off and be discarded by your conscious and subconscious mind if it is not congruent, or in alignment with, your deep-rooted conviction of your definition of you.
As I wrote in Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement, there is constructive and destructive criticism.
When you have a firm belief and definition of yourself, you can easily shrug off any destructive criticism of you, with the true knowledge and belief it is not accurate, or worthy of a second thought from you.
Your definition of you is like an impenetrable tank, protecting you every second of each day from words of jealousy, hatred, bullying, or abuse.
You Will Be Unstoppable In Achieving Success
By establishing your definition of you, you will attract people to you who will reinforce your positive self image.
People will want to help, nurture, and follow you, while you ward off and repel those who want to harm you, or feed you destructive criticism.
Furthermore, your definition of you will provide you the confidence, direction, and focus in life to achieve your greatest accomplishments.
It will be the guiding principal for your life, directing you to success and making course corrections to your targeted goals like an unstoppable, guided missile.
Some people define themselves through their profession, career, family, relationships, affiliation with groups, church, religion, etc... your definition is completely individualized and it will encompass all that is most important to you.
So how do you physically, concisely, and effectively do this? How do you define yourself and your life? How do you write this down in a way that is easily communicated to others?
Define You: The IBT Model
Last night I came up with a model, or framework, to help people define themselves, write it down, and concisely, effectively communicate this definition to others; I call it the IBT Model.
Write down on a piece of paper the following three words, leaving space between them so you can fill in the blanks.
Write:
I
By
Through
Then think about how you will define you and what is most important to you:
"I" is who you are.
"By" states how you accomplish who you are and your life purpose in relation to you.
"Through" states what medium you use to accomplish your life purpose.
So take some time right now, think about you, your life, and what is most important to you.
As I wrote in Mentor Me, "Something magical happens when we put down what we want on a piece of paper, verbalize it, visualize it, define it, and allow ourselves to experience it…We can program ourselves to have it!"
Your Definition of You in Writing
Write it down, believe it with conviction, and communicate it effectively to others.
I will share what I wrote last night as my definition of me as an example:
"I help people define and achieve their definition of success by providing information, motivation, and inspiration through writing books and coaching."
The people I help can be friends, family, a member of a group I am affiliated with, someone in my community, etc...anyone. It is an all encompassing definition of me.
In order to easily share this with others, I created a photo quote which is located here:
https://www.goodreads.com/photo/autho...
Once you write down your definition of you, refer to it each day. It will be the guiding force for your life, your being, and drive you toward success.
Having this written statement, your deeply-rooted definition of you, is the difference between the greatest leaders and historical figures of all time versus the average person.
You now have the foundation to truly achieve your definition of success.
Help Others and Continue Your Journey
Share this blog with others, help them define themselves, and take the next step...map out your blueprint to achieve your dreams.
In Mentor Me, I assemble the exercises and tools to help people define and achieve their lifelong goal(s), their Greatest Achievement (GA).
After all, you have seen my definition of me:
"I help people define and achieve their definition of success by providing information, motivation, and inspiration through writing books and coaching."
Now that you have your definition of you, pick up a copy of Mentor Me and continue your journey:
http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00KPGM28C
Continue on your path to achieving your definition of success...your Greatest Achievement (GA).
Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement
Ken Poirot
Warmly,
Ken Poirot
Relationships, Happiness, and True Love: Take Out the Garbage...
No One is Free From Hurt or Pain
As I think about many of my past conversations with others in life, there is one universal commonality everyone shares...
Each one of us has hurt and pain in our lives...every one of us. No one is immune or free from hurt or pain from time to time.
Throughout life, painful events happen and hurtful situations transpire. Friendships are formed; some of these friendships are enduring and stalwart, while others are fleeting and filled with drama.
Lovers and partners come into and out of our lives...some wound us deeply in ways we may not fully understand at the time; sometimes people betray us or hurt us.
Closure in relationships is rare; often we find ourselves wondering what went wrong, what we could have done differently, or why our relationships ended so tragically.
This lack of closure can cause us to ponder away for lengths of time, without any objective, concrete answers or tidy conclusion.
Hurt and Pain Comes with Living
As I often say, "There is a cost of doing business in life," meaning when we trust someone...when we open up and get close, sometimes we get hurt.
Yet, to never open up or take the risk in a relationship means to never have the closeness we crave, or the love we desire (and deserve) in our lives.
I know so many people who jump from relationship to relationship to relationship, just because they feel the need to always have someone in their lives.
Yes, having someone can make us feel better short-term, but it is only a temporary solution. It is a way to briefly avoid the real problem...our own feelings of unhappiness, loneliness, hurt, pain, and/or insecurity.
For no one can give us happiness and joy (not true long-term happiness and joy), they can only supply a "quick fix" euphoria from the novelty of something new, and our sense of feeling loved and wanted again.
Impossible Expectations Lead to Relationship Sabotage
We cannot expect someone else to fill us up inside or make us whole. This is a terrible and impossible responsibility with which to appoint another person (a task they cannot possibly accomplish because only we can make ourselves whole).
Having this expectation, (and carrying it into any relationship) will only ensure the relationship will not work out, or live up to these impossible expectations we place on the relationship and the other person.
We are setting the relationship, and the poor soul we are involved with (and ourselves), up for disappointment.
These expectations result in a weak relationship that folds at the first sign of trouble, or "red flag," we feel inside.
Our first reaction to this feeling is to shut down, close up, distance ourselves, or walk away for fear of getting hurt again.
Ignored Past Hurt and Pain Destroys New Relationships
Ultimately the past pain and hurt creeps in again, typically in the form of putting up barriers to true closeness in our relationship.
Predictably, this behavior causes problems and destroys our current relationship. Typically (without even realizing it), we allow the past hurt and pain from which we originally tried to flee to victimize our new relationship.
These are all destructive behaviors in any relationship. We end up sabotaging our new relationship all because we are too afraid to get hurt again (which ironically, causes us to get hurt again by keeping us from having a close, open, and fulfilling relationship in the first place).
This in turn causes even more hurt and pain, which is then added to our ever-expanding, existing pile of emotional baggage, which we carry into our next relationship.
It's a vicious cycle we repeat over and over and over again. So what is the solution to this vicious cycle?
Grieve and Then Find Happiness Within You
The best solution is to take a break; to allocate the time to work on ourselves.
Instead of jumping into the next relationship in order to run from the pain we feel inside (which we cannot truly escape anyway), a healthier long-term solution is to grieve (confront the pain of past events and relationships).
Only by acknowledging this hurt and pain, allowing ourselves to experience it, taking the necessary time to work through it (heal), can we truly become ready for future strong, healthy, and fulfilling relationships.
The fact is, true long-term happiness and true joy comes from within us...not from outside of us.
It is up to us to find this happiness and joy within ourselves. No one can supply us with happiness and joy permanently from outside of us; no one can make us whole.
We can't place such unreasonable expectations on others to complete us for only we can complete ourselves.
So I will ask you, what makes you happy?
Maybe it is spending time with family and friends, being more involved in your community, an organization, or church. Or maybe it is a hobby, an activity, a setting like the beach or mountains, music, sports, going to the gym, writing, etc...
Regardless of what makes you happy and gives you joy, we all need to take the time to build ourselves up again...make ourselves whole again after the trauma of hurt and pain enters our lives.
Take out the Garbage
I liken it to taking out the garbage; if we travel from one relationship to another to another, without first taking the time to make ourselves whole inside, finding the true long-term happiness and joy within us, then we are just adding to the piles and piles of garbage (emotional baggage) in our lives.
Harboring this ever-increasing mound of garbage burdens us, creates emotional exhaustion, and causes fear (the fear of getting hurt).
If we let it continue to expand, it takes up residence as a landfill burying our hearts and souls, preventing us from having the love and closeness we want (and all deserve) in life.
While working through this past hurt and pain (taking out the garbage), spend time doing the things you enjoy the most.
Take out the garbage...true happiness comes from within not from without!
Completely and solely within you is the capacity for true happiness...it is already within you!
Once you feel the true happiness and joy inside you...then you can give all of yourself to someone else.
Then you will be ready and able to experience and realize a strong, healthy, fulfilling relationship; the true love you deserve!
https://www.goodreads.com/photo/autho...
Ken Poirot
Warmly,
Ken Poirot
As I think about many of my past conversations with others in life, there is one universal commonality everyone shares...
Each one of us has hurt and pain in our lives...every one of us. No one is immune or free from hurt or pain from time to time.
Throughout life, painful events happen and hurtful situations transpire. Friendships are formed; some of these friendships are enduring and stalwart, while others are fleeting and filled with drama.
Lovers and partners come into and out of our lives...some wound us deeply in ways we may not fully understand at the time; sometimes people betray us or hurt us.
Closure in relationships is rare; often we find ourselves wondering what went wrong, what we could have done differently, or why our relationships ended so tragically.
This lack of closure can cause us to ponder away for lengths of time, without any objective, concrete answers or tidy conclusion.
Hurt and Pain Comes with Living
As I often say, "There is a cost of doing business in life," meaning when we trust someone...when we open up and get close, sometimes we get hurt.
Yet, to never open up or take the risk in a relationship means to never have the closeness we crave, or the love we desire (and deserve) in our lives.
I know so many people who jump from relationship to relationship to relationship, just because they feel the need to always have someone in their lives.
Yes, having someone can make us feel better short-term, but it is only a temporary solution. It is a way to briefly avoid the real problem...our own feelings of unhappiness, loneliness, hurt, pain, and/or insecurity.
For no one can give us happiness and joy (not true long-term happiness and joy), they can only supply a "quick fix" euphoria from the novelty of something new, and our sense of feeling loved and wanted again.
Impossible Expectations Lead to Relationship Sabotage
We cannot expect someone else to fill us up inside or make us whole. This is a terrible and impossible responsibility with which to appoint another person (a task they cannot possibly accomplish because only we can make ourselves whole).
Having this expectation, (and carrying it into any relationship) will only ensure the relationship will not work out, or live up to these impossible expectations we place on the relationship and the other person.
We are setting the relationship, and the poor soul we are involved with (and ourselves), up for disappointment.
These expectations result in a weak relationship that folds at the first sign of trouble, or "red flag," we feel inside.
Our first reaction to this feeling is to shut down, close up, distance ourselves, or walk away for fear of getting hurt again.
Ignored Past Hurt and Pain Destroys New Relationships
Ultimately the past pain and hurt creeps in again, typically in the form of putting up barriers to true closeness in our relationship.
Predictably, this behavior causes problems and destroys our current relationship. Typically (without even realizing it), we allow the past hurt and pain from which we originally tried to flee to victimize our new relationship.
These are all destructive behaviors in any relationship. We end up sabotaging our new relationship all because we are too afraid to get hurt again (which ironically, causes us to get hurt again by keeping us from having a close, open, and fulfilling relationship in the first place).
This in turn causes even more hurt and pain, which is then added to our ever-expanding, existing pile of emotional baggage, which we carry into our next relationship.
It's a vicious cycle we repeat over and over and over again. So what is the solution to this vicious cycle?
Grieve and Then Find Happiness Within You
The best solution is to take a break; to allocate the time to work on ourselves.
Instead of jumping into the next relationship in order to run from the pain we feel inside (which we cannot truly escape anyway), a healthier long-term solution is to grieve (confront the pain of past events and relationships).
Only by acknowledging this hurt and pain, allowing ourselves to experience it, taking the necessary time to work through it (heal), can we truly become ready for future strong, healthy, and fulfilling relationships.
The fact is, true long-term happiness and true joy comes from within us...not from outside of us.
It is up to us to find this happiness and joy within ourselves. No one can supply us with happiness and joy permanently from outside of us; no one can make us whole.
We can't place such unreasonable expectations on others to complete us for only we can complete ourselves.
So I will ask you, what makes you happy?
Maybe it is spending time with family and friends, being more involved in your community, an organization, or church. Or maybe it is a hobby, an activity, a setting like the beach or mountains, music, sports, going to the gym, writing, etc...
Regardless of what makes you happy and gives you joy, we all need to take the time to build ourselves up again...make ourselves whole again after the trauma of hurt and pain enters our lives.
Take out the Garbage
I liken it to taking out the garbage; if we travel from one relationship to another to another, without first taking the time to make ourselves whole inside, finding the true long-term happiness and joy within us, then we are just adding to the piles and piles of garbage (emotional baggage) in our lives.
Harboring this ever-increasing mound of garbage burdens us, creates emotional exhaustion, and causes fear (the fear of getting hurt).
If we let it continue to expand, it takes up residence as a landfill burying our hearts and souls, preventing us from having the love and closeness we want (and all deserve) in life.
While working through this past hurt and pain (taking out the garbage), spend time doing the things you enjoy the most.
Take out the garbage...true happiness comes from within not from without!
Completely and solely within you is the capacity for true happiness...it is already within you!
Once you feel the true happiness and joy inside you...then you can give all of yourself to someone else.
Then you will be ready and able to experience and realize a strong, healthy, fulfilling relationship; the true love you deserve!
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Ken Poirot
Warmly,
Ken Poirot
Radio Interview: Upcoming Appearance on The Author Show...
Today: Radio Interview Broadcast on The Authors Show!
You can listen to the interview here by going to the link and then scrolling up to the top interview:
http://www.wnbnetworkwest.com/WnbAuth...
The following is the press release which announced this appearance:
http://www.freepublicitygroup.com/new...
Warmly,
Ken Poirot
Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement
Ken Poirot
You can listen to the interview here by going to the link and then scrolling up to the top interview:
http://www.wnbnetworkwest.com/WnbAuth...
The following is the press release which announced this appearance:
http://www.freepublicitygroup.com/new...
Warmly,
Ken Poirot
Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement
Ken Poirot
Is a Self Help or Personal Development Book Ruining Your Life?
Self Help and Personal Development Books
First of all if you seek out self help and personal development in your life then I applaud you for taking responsibility for your life and for acting on your desire to improve yourself.
Unfortunately, not all information, self help, or personal development books are created equal and some can be downright damaging.
This may be a controversial topic by an author who has written a self help and personal development book, except when you realize that I wrote Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement to solve a problem I saw in the marketplace.
The problem is many self help and personal development books are just not that helpful; even worse, some could completely ruin your health and life.
Books Like The Secret Are Particularly Damaging
Now before many of you become defensive about the premise for the book above, namely, positive thinking and the Law of Attraction, I will say I am a great fan of the power of thinking positively.
Positive thinking can do a great deal to help lead the way towards a successful life, but one cannot simply think, dream, and wish for positive events to occur in life, therefore, spontaneously resulting in massive success.
It is a very sexy dream to do no work and expect the universe to deliver health, wealth, and happiness to your doorstep, just because you wish or believe it into your life.
There was an unfortunate case of this thought process documented on Oprah Winfrey and through the media shortly after Oprah Winfrey spotlighted The Secret by Rhonda Byrne on her show.
Kim Tinkham was diagnosed with stage three breast cancer and a month later appeared on Oprah Winfrey stating she was not going to seek medical treatment for her cancer counter to the urging of multiple doctors.
Instead, Kim Tinkham decided to follow the advice in The Secret and "heal herself."
Kim Tinkham later succumbed to her cancer and died.
Yes, following the advice of The Secret instead of her doctor's advice resulted in Kim Tinkham having no chance to prolong her life, versus some chance by undergoing the surgery her doctor's recommended.
Furthermore, if you stringently adhere to the teachings of The Secret one would have to believe we all, including Kim, bring bad things on ourselves strictly due to our thoughts.
Although positive thinking can cause some positive results. a plan is required to channel the positive thoughts putting them into action towards ultimate goal achievement.
However, positive thoughts alone cannot cure cancer, create wealth, and lasting happiness...these things take actual work. Also, bad things do happen to good, positive people and it is not their fault!
Sure, it is very enticing to think one can have everything you want in life without having to work for it, just by sitting home and thinking about it as well as keeping all bad events out of our lives.
Yet, the reality is having the life you want requires devising a plan and taking the steps necessary to achieve that life you envision, by the execution of that plan.
The 4-Hour Workweek...Ferris Bueller's Day Off
Some of you younger folks may miss the comparison of Tim Ferriss' book, The 4-Hour Workweek, to the 1986 Matthew Broderick movie, Ferris Bueller's Day Off.
In the movie, the main character has a knack for cutting school and getting away with it. Similarly, in his book, Tim Ferriss expounds about hacking your life by outsourcing just about everything, including your job.
Now, if you ever tried to actually follow Tim Ferriss' advice you would be fired immediately from your present job and possibly never get another one.
Can you imagine dodging your boss all week using virtual assistants to do so and keeping your job?
I did like The 4-Hour Workweek for its entertainment value, but it is just that...entertainment!
It is a fun book, but if you ever tried to apply and follow Tim Ferriss' advice you would certainly ruin your life.
The 7 Habits of Highly Ineffective Meandering Verbiage
Yes, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People has become a staple of the business world. Yet, I wonder how many people have actually read the book versus those who can quote Stephen Covey's "7 Habits?"
I ask that question because the book is filled with preaching, patting himself on the back for being a great parent, and a full 58 pages (depending on the version you read) of meandering stories until he even gets to the first habit.
The book is so impractical that a workbook had to be created just to tell people how they might be able to use the "7 Habits" in their lives (that is after you read the 100,000+ word original book).
Mentor Me is born
Having surveyed the landscape of available self help and personal development books, I was not satisfied people were getting what they were seeking.
Namely, a book that would be helpful, actionable, practical, and delivered in a succinct manner that anyone can follow to help affect a positive change in their life.
This is why I wrote Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement.
Along with the practical information, profound messages are scattered throughout for those who are seeking a higher life purpose, in addition to a guide for achieving their goals.
If you have not already read Mentor Me, then pick up your copy at Amazon here:
https://www.amazon.com/Mentor-Me-Form...
Find out why people have called it "practical," "succinct," and "helpful."
Also find out why Mentor Me has been quoted all over the globe and why I am quoted every single day in social media somewhere in the world!
Warmly,
Ken Poirot
First of all if you seek out self help and personal development in your life then I applaud you for taking responsibility for your life and for acting on your desire to improve yourself.
Unfortunately, not all information, self help, or personal development books are created equal and some can be downright damaging.
This may be a controversial topic by an author who has written a self help and personal development book, except when you realize that I wrote Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement to solve a problem I saw in the marketplace.
The problem is many self help and personal development books are just not that helpful; even worse, some could completely ruin your health and life.
Books Like The Secret Are Particularly Damaging
Now before many of you become defensive about the premise for the book above, namely, positive thinking and the Law of Attraction, I will say I am a great fan of the power of thinking positively.
Positive thinking can do a great deal to help lead the way towards a successful life, but one cannot simply think, dream, and wish for positive events to occur in life, therefore, spontaneously resulting in massive success.
It is a very sexy dream to do no work and expect the universe to deliver health, wealth, and happiness to your doorstep, just because you wish or believe it into your life.
There was an unfortunate case of this thought process documented on Oprah Winfrey and through the media shortly after Oprah Winfrey spotlighted The Secret by Rhonda Byrne on her show.
Kim Tinkham was diagnosed with stage three breast cancer and a month later appeared on Oprah Winfrey stating she was not going to seek medical treatment for her cancer counter to the urging of multiple doctors.
Instead, Kim Tinkham decided to follow the advice in The Secret and "heal herself."
Kim Tinkham later succumbed to her cancer and died.
Yes, following the advice of The Secret instead of her doctor's advice resulted in Kim Tinkham having no chance to prolong her life, versus some chance by undergoing the surgery her doctor's recommended.
Furthermore, if you stringently adhere to the teachings of The Secret one would have to believe we all, including Kim, bring bad things on ourselves strictly due to our thoughts.
Although positive thinking can cause some positive results. a plan is required to channel the positive thoughts putting them into action towards ultimate goal achievement.
However, positive thoughts alone cannot cure cancer, create wealth, and lasting happiness...these things take actual work. Also, bad things do happen to good, positive people and it is not their fault!
Sure, it is very enticing to think one can have everything you want in life without having to work for it, just by sitting home and thinking about it as well as keeping all bad events out of our lives.
Yet, the reality is having the life you want requires devising a plan and taking the steps necessary to achieve that life you envision, by the execution of that plan.
The 4-Hour Workweek...Ferris Bueller's Day Off
Some of you younger folks may miss the comparison of Tim Ferriss' book, The 4-Hour Workweek, to the 1986 Matthew Broderick movie, Ferris Bueller's Day Off.
In the movie, the main character has a knack for cutting school and getting away with it. Similarly, in his book, Tim Ferriss expounds about hacking your life by outsourcing just about everything, including your job.
Now, if you ever tried to actually follow Tim Ferriss' advice you would be fired immediately from your present job and possibly never get another one.
Can you imagine dodging your boss all week using virtual assistants to do so and keeping your job?
I did like The 4-Hour Workweek for its entertainment value, but it is just that...entertainment!
It is a fun book, but if you ever tried to apply and follow Tim Ferriss' advice you would certainly ruin your life.
The 7 Habits of Highly Ineffective Meandering Verbiage
Yes, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People has become a staple of the business world. Yet, I wonder how many people have actually read the book versus those who can quote Stephen Covey's "7 Habits?"
I ask that question because the book is filled with preaching, patting himself on the back for being a great parent, and a full 58 pages (depending on the version you read) of meandering stories until he even gets to the first habit.
The book is so impractical that a workbook had to be created just to tell people how they might be able to use the "7 Habits" in their lives (that is after you read the 100,000+ word original book).
Mentor Me is born
Having surveyed the landscape of available self help and personal development books, I was not satisfied people were getting what they were seeking.
Namely, a book that would be helpful, actionable, practical, and delivered in a succinct manner that anyone can follow to help affect a positive change in their life.
This is why I wrote Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement.
Along with the practical information, profound messages are scattered throughout for those who are seeking a higher life purpose, in addition to a guide for achieving their goals.
If you have not already read Mentor Me, then pick up your copy at Amazon here:
https://www.amazon.com/Mentor-Me-Form...
Find out why people have called it "practical," "succinct," and "helpful."
Also find out why Mentor Me has been quoted all over the globe and why I am quoted every single day in social media somewhere in the world!
Warmly,
Ken Poirot
Best Book For The New Year
New Year, New You
We are quickly nearing the new year, that time of year when we reflect on the past and think about where we want to be in the future.
Many of us will make New Year's resolutions by setting a personal goal for achievement or vowing a change we will make in our lives for the new year.
Yet, studies have shown only about 8% of people actually keep their New Year's resolution.
Keep Your New Year's Resolution
Why is it that so few people keep their New Year's resolution?
It is simply because most people lack the discipline necessary to keep their commitment to change.
Specifically, most people fail in their desire for change because they lack the personal motivation or inspiration to maintain the discipline necessary to affect change in their lives.
Through my experience coaching professionals, I have found these same three elements of motivation, inspiration, and discipline were the difference between those who achieved their goals and those who fell short.
How do you motivate yourself?
From where do you find inspiration?
How do you measure and hold yourself accountable to maintain discipline?
Once you read Mentor Me and work through the exercises within, you will be able to answer these questions above.
All three of these elements were incorporated into the writing of Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement
Make This Your Year
Why not make this year your year?
Why can't this year be the year you finally achieve all you want in life?
Find out how the three elements of motivation, inspiration, and discipline are purposefully packaged inside Mentor Me to help you achieve your goals.
Pick up a copy of Mentor Me here and make this your year: https://www.amazon.com/Mentor-Me-Form...
Warmly,
Ken Poirot
We are quickly nearing the new year, that time of year when we reflect on the past and think about where we want to be in the future.
Many of us will make New Year's resolutions by setting a personal goal for achievement or vowing a change we will make in our lives for the new year.
Yet, studies have shown only about 8% of people actually keep their New Year's resolution.
Keep Your New Year's Resolution
Why is it that so few people keep their New Year's resolution?
It is simply because most people lack the discipline necessary to keep their commitment to change.
Specifically, most people fail in their desire for change because they lack the personal motivation or inspiration to maintain the discipline necessary to affect change in their lives.
Through my experience coaching professionals, I have found these same three elements of motivation, inspiration, and discipline were the difference between those who achieved their goals and those who fell short.
How do you motivate yourself?
From where do you find inspiration?
How do you measure and hold yourself accountable to maintain discipline?
Once you read Mentor Me and work through the exercises within, you will be able to answer these questions above.
All three of these elements were incorporated into the writing of Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement
Make This Your Year
Why not make this year your year?
Why can't this year be the year you finally achieve all you want in life?
Find out how the three elements of motivation, inspiration, and discipline are purposefully packaged inside Mentor Me to help you achieve your goals.
Pick up a copy of Mentor Me here and make this your year: https://www.amazon.com/Mentor-Me-Form...
Warmly,
Ken Poirot
Investments: My secret speculative investments for high return potential
My Recent Investments
From a new article with regard to my recent investments:
"I can now share my greatest secret: what investments I just purchased that I believe can turn $10,000 (or less) into millions of dollars in the future."
Find out how I am using Coinbase and Changelly (these are my referral/affiliate links so I am compensated if someone uses these links to make purchases) to invest for the future.
Read the full article here:
My Recent Investments
Disclaimer: This article is solely my opinion for informational purposes only; therefore, it should not be considered Financial or Legal Advice. Please consult with a financial professional before making any significant financial decisions.
Warmly,
Ken Poirot
From a new article with regard to my recent investments:
"I can now share my greatest secret: what investments I just purchased that I believe can turn $10,000 (or less) into millions of dollars in the future."
Find out how I am using Coinbase and Changelly (these are my referral/affiliate links so I am compensated if someone uses these links to make purchases) to invest for the future.
Read the full article here:
My Recent Investments
Disclaimer: This article is solely my opinion for informational purposes only; therefore, it should not be considered Financial or Legal Advice. Please consult with a financial professional before making any significant financial decisions.
Warmly,
Ken Poirot
US Economy: What Happens When The US Dollar Printing Press Stops?
Printing the US economy into oblivion and how to protect yourself
As per my new article:
"The US government is feverishly printing money and trying so desperately to hide it from the American people that they stopped publicly reporting it.
Like most Americans, if you were unaware our economy was in so much trouble, it is because you are being lulled into a false sense of security on purpose..."
Read more here: US Economy: What Happens When The US Dollar Printing Press Stops?
Disclaimer: This article is solely my opinion for informational purposes only; therefore, it should not be considered Financial or Legal Advice. Please consult with a financial professional before making any significant financial decisions.
Warmly,
Ken Poirot
As per my new article:
"The US government is feverishly printing money and trying so desperately to hide it from the American people that they stopped publicly reporting it.
Like most Americans, if you were unaware our economy was in so much trouble, it is because you are being lulled into a false sense of security on purpose..."
Read more here: US Economy: What Happens When The US Dollar Printing Press Stops?
Disclaimer: This article is solely my opinion for informational purposes only; therefore, it should not be considered Financial or Legal Advice. Please consult with a financial professional before making any significant financial decisions.
Warmly,
Ken Poirot
