It appears that as Bowlby speculated, attachment continues to play a major role throughout our entire lifespan. The difference is that adults are capable of a higher level of abstraction, so our need for the other person’s continuous
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“In eighteenth-century England, a fad swept the upper class. Several families felt their estate needed a hermit, and advertisements were placed in newspapers for “ornamental hermits” who were slack in grooming and willing to sleep in a cave.”
― The Stranger in the Woods: The Extraordinary Story of the Last True Hermit
― The Stranger in the Woods: The Extraordinary Story of the Last True Hermit
“and he held out his hand. Maurice took it, and they knew at that moment the greatest triumph an ordinary man can win. They saw now how natural it was that their abandonment to each other at Penge should have led to peril. They knew too little about each other—and too much. Hence fear.”
― Alec
― Alec

“Although Miss Peebles remained in charge of Princess Anne, she was aloof and seemed totally disinterested, and two years later she was found dead, alone in her room at Buckingham Palace. Charles was deeply distressed when she was discovered. Princess Anne said later that her only reaction was guilt because she didn't feel anything.”
― At Home with the Queen
― At Home with the Queen

“Numerous studies show that once we become attached to someone, the two of us form one physiological unit. Our partner regulates our blood pressure, our heart rate, our breathing, and the levels of hormones in our blood. We are no longer separate entities. The emphasis on differentiation that is held by most of today’s popular psychology approaches to adult relationships does not hold water from a biological perspective. Dependency is a fact; it is not a choice or a preference.”
― Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love
― Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

“Breakfast Club, and shared the same misimpression that it was a sign of sophistication to talk about how much you loved Eames chairs and the art of Mondrian.”
― The Social Animal: The Hidden Sources Of Love, Character, And Achievement
― The Social Animal: The Hidden Sources Of Love, Character, And Achievement
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