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April 8, 2014

Leadership: Challenges Can Help Us Learn and Grow

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She decided to grow a flower garden, and went about it as methodically as she did most things: studying the soil, choosing and planting the seeds with care, nourishing the ground, watering and tending week after week.


When her garden started to bloom, she had the beautiful flowers she’d dreamed of—but along with them were sprouting dandelions.


She went to the books to study on how to get rid of them, but after trying the techniques, the dandelions were still there.


She signed up for gardening courses and learned even more things to try, but the dandelions didn’t give an inch.


Now she was getting angry.


She sought out experts and brought her problem to them. Some recommended new methods, some old-fashioned remedies. She tried them all, but at the end of her efforts the dandelions were still there.


Frustrated beyond belief, she went out to her garden and sat there for a long time in silence.


She looked at the garden, and she thought of all the hard work, all that she’d learned, all the people she’d connected with, all the new ideas she had been able to incorporate.


She saw a garden of beauty, and she said to herself, "I can look at this as a challenge that I am not able to overcome, or I can see that I have learned a lot and I can learn to love it."


And so it was.


Where are the stubborn weeds in your life, the challenges that are causing frustration?


What are the unwanted situations that make you feel things are out of control?


Which challenging person has planted themselves firmly in your life, that is making you feel ungrounded?


The weeds in our lives—the things that give us a hard time and make us feel frustrated—have a significant value. They show us that our frustrations are self-induced—the outside world can invite us to become upset, but we can ultimately decline the invitation. They are among our best teachers.


Our unwanted situations are lessons in learning to control the things within our reach and let go of the rest.  Incredible change can happens in life when we decide to take control of the things we actually do have power over instead of craving control over the rest.


The people in our lives who have planted themselves firmly and constantly threaten to disrupt our lives and leadership? They are opportunities for us to learn, and to grow by embracing them for who they are—just as we would want others to embrace us.


The challenges in our lives are our wake-up calls, our lessons to be learned.

 


Life is tough but so are we.


Difficult people will be challenging until we learn what we need to learn for ourselves. Challenging situations will be frustrating until we grow what we need to grow for ourselves.


Everything and everyone that comes our way is going to teach us a lesson. All of life is here to teach us, and the lesson they bring is about ourselves.


The sweetest pleasure arises from the challenges we overcome, even when overcoming takes the form of acceptance. In time, our weeds can even come to seem like friendly warmhearted companions.


Lead from within: The beauty of life is this: While we can’t control everything, we can see it, we can understand, it we can learn from it, and we can grow from it.






Lolly Daskal is the president and founder of Lead From Within a coaching and consultant firm that manages large scale corporate coaching and custom made leadership programs. Connect with Lolly Daskal



 



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Published on April 08, 2014 03:00

April 1, 2014

The Portrait of a Leader Must Be Painted in Genuine Strokes

Screen Shot 2014-03-31 at 9.03.59 AMA genuine portrait is critical for your leadership brand as well as your professional success.


It portrays your image as perceived by others, the impression you make on them. Your personality, style, behavior, body language, words, and attitude all contribute.


In today’s world, a five-minute interaction, whether in person, through e-mail or via social media, can define a leader for years to come.


It may seem superficial and therefore unimportant, but as a leader you will greatly benefit from knowing how you come across to others, because then you can make the necessary improvements.


Not manipulative or dishonest improvements, but in making a genuine investments in our skills and craft.


Here are some of the elements to pay attention to in your portrait:


Statesmanship: People are constantly judging our behavior and forming theories about our competence, character, and commitment. Your actions are how people get to know you. Make sure everyone knows what you stand for and why. Be open.


Craftsmanship. People are constantly listening to what we say our image speaks louder than we do, our words, our actions and manner need to be congruent, and otherwise we will be doubted.  Everything we say and do is interpreted in the context of who we are and what people think of us. Be honest.


Courtship. People seek personal connections, and impressions are always interpreted through the lens of personal preference and identification. True leadership reflects the trustworthiness, caring, and capabilities of your character. Be real.


Citizenship. People have high expectations, they want leaders to be likeable, they want them to be personable and to be regular people. At the same time they want them to be above reproach, better than average, and demonstrative of their high standards Make sure people know you are human and that you live by your values, which are not compromised under any means. Be genuine.


Hardship. People look at leaders on how they are under crisis, who you are in hardship expresses who you are in your leadership. Leaders need to show that they understand the context—including challenges. Use those  challenges to motivate others and show confidence in the outcome. Be fearless.


Great leadership and long careers, demand that we invest in ourselves. We invest in ourselves, with education, training, networking, experience, and we must continue to do so by refining the messages we convey in our behavior, words, and attitudes.


The picture you paint, the portrait you convey, the image you sketch, must and always be a true representation of who you are in everything you do.


Do not allow others to leave their impressions for you. Make sure you present yourself in a manner that is always believable, favorable and valuable.


The portrait of a leader must always be painted in the genuine strokes of their heart.

 

Lead From Within: Just as you develop technical expertise and interpersonal skills, you should paint your portrait in a way that serves you as a leader.




Lolly Daskal is the president and founder of Lead From Within a coaching and consultant firm that manages large scale corporate coaching and custom made leadership programs. Connect with Lolly Daskal


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March 25, 2014

A Wise Leader Does Not Think So Much

Screen Shot 2014-03-25 at 7.29.57 AMAll of us are guilty of getting caught up in too much thinking, too much analysis, too much data. By nature leaders tend to be overthinkers, and we can become victims of staying too much in our head. A wise leader brings to bear not only knowledge but wisdom, and sometimes wisdom tells us not to think too much.


Thinking is good, but when does too much mind become a hurdle?


When it creates “analysis paralysis.” The start to solving any problem is seeking information, but faced with an overabundance of data, background, facts, and numbers, it’s easy to freeze up under the weight of your thoughts.


Wise leaders use data to guide decisions but don’t get bogged down by it.


When it keeps you in a knowledge trap. Trying to weigh every bit of information against all possible outcomes leads to exhaustion and burnout. Learn to trust your instincts—after all, they’re grounded in your knowledge and experience.


Wise leaders understand the difference between knowing everything and knowing what to do. They grasp the key issues of the moment and act on them decisively.


When it keeps you from moving forward. Leaders have visions, dreams, and bright ideas. Building forward momentum takes an enormous amount of effort, and it will never happen if your mind holds you back waiting for perfection.


Wise leaders know to take a leap forward in imperfect circumstances. They know that thinking can’t replace action.


When it keeps you fearful. Fear is a natural emotion and is useful in its place, but fear that keeps you stuck, playing small and avoiding risk, is bad for your leadership and devastating to those you lead. In the grip of fear, it’s easy to define yourself by mistakes and failures—your own or others’—and allow your past to remain their destiny.


Wise leaders listen to their fears but are not led by them. They find ways to be courageous and prevent emotional complications from affecting their judgment.


When it keeps from being honest with yourself. We all have ideas about who we are and what we are about. When thinking feeds that ego, it keeps us from understanding and learning new things about ourselves.


Wise leaders understand that to grow is to listen and to develop is to learn.


In short, wise leaders know when thinking gets in their way of leading, and they allow what they know in their heart to lead the way.


To become a wise leader yourself, you need to master the skills that moderate your thinking—from examining situations to interpreting information—learn to apply your wisdom to your leadership, and keep growing.


Our thoughts are not just containers for our thinking, they are impressions that should be fired up and ignited.

 

 

Lead From Within: A wise leader quickly senses what lies behind a situation and decides on the needed action. Practical wisdom enables leaders to intuitively understand the nature and meaning of people, things, and events.



Lolly Daskal is the president and founder of Lead From Within a coaching and consultant firm that manages large scale corporate coaching and custom made leadership programs. Connect with Lolly Daskal

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March 18, 2014

Be Distinct: Find The Hero Within

Screen Shot 2014-03-16 at 6.28.52 PMA 50-year-old Navy veteran and construction worker named Wesley Autrey was at a New York subway station waiting for a train with his daughters when a nearby man collapsed and fell onto the tracks, where a train was already approaching.


While others watched in horror, Autrey took action. He jumped onto the tracks and lay on top of the victim, who seemed to be having a seizure, keeping them both pressed between the tracks. Five cars passed over them before the train was able to come to a stop. Miraculously, neither was seriously injured.


Autrey later told the New York Times, “I don’t feel like I did something spectacular; I just saw someone who needed help. I did what I felt was right”


To find inspiration, just look for ordinary people with extraordinary stories of heroism. They’re all around us.


When we follow a code of what is right, we can become a hero in our own life. When we live with compassion, we can become a hero in lives of others.


Someone needs to sacrifice, someone needs to inspire, someone needs to be a hero. Why not me? Why not you?


Here’s what it takes:


Strong value system. Heroes live by their values, and they are willing to endure personal hardship and take potential risks to protect those values. They know that within their deepest values lies their highest purpose.


Secure confidence. Heroes believe in themselves, with a strong sense of their abilities that takes over when most others feel fear.  Faced with a crisis, they believe they are capable of handling the challenge and achieving success whatever the odds.


Commitment to doing what’s right. Heroes are about doing the right thing. There is power within good deeds, shining moments when the impossible becomes possible. Heroes seek out opportunities to unleash that power.


Persistence. Heroes have a high tolerance for risk. Where most would walk or even run away, they stay focused on how they can best make a difference.


Positive attitude. Heroes are positive thinkers by nature, which contributes to their ability to look past the immediate danger of a situation and see a more optimistic outcome. They have learned to put a positive spin on negative events.


Deep caring. Heroes care about others and genuinely want to make a difference.   The most powerful force on earth is a caring heart.


A calling. Heroes are ordinary people called to do extraordinary things. Faced with an everyday situation or a once-in-a-lifetime challenge, they stay in tune with that calling.


 

A hero is not only a brave individual, but a brave individual who dares to be distinct.

 


  We are all ordinary and we are all extraordinary


We are all timid and we are all bold.


We are all weak and we are all strong.


We are all scared and we are all fearless


We are all helpless and we are all heroes.


At every given moment we can choose what we will be.


If you honor the moments by not wasting them, they will honor you back with a calling as a hero.


LEAD FROM WITHIN Heroes are people who are flawed, have fail and fall, but win out in the end because they have stayed true to their values, confidence and calling—no matter what.


Lolly Daskal is the president and founder of Lead From Within a coaching and consultant firm that manages large scale corporate coaching and custom made leadership programs. Connect with Lolly Daskal

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March 11, 2014

The Resilient Leader

Screen Shot 2014-03-10 at 10.39.27 PMJames Stockdale, best known as a 1992 independent candidate for vice president of the US, was a highly decorated veteran and former prisoner of war.


In 1960 a Stanford philosophy professor, a military veteran himself, gave Stockdale a copy of Enchiridion, a manual for the combat officer written in AD 50 by the Greek Stoic philosopher Epictetus, saying “I think you might find this useful.”


Through the years Stockton studied Enchiridion and tried to practice the many messages about discipline, self-control, endurance and perseverance, virtue and moral character.


However, Stockdale did not fully appreciate its value until September 9, 1965, when his plane was shot down over Vietnam.


He recalls, “When I ejected from that airplane in 1965, I left my world of technology and entered into the world of Epictetus.


I was alone and crippled; self-reliance was the basis for daily life. The system of values I carried with me into this realm was to be tested by my captors.


The payoff was my self-respect. I would keep it or it would be torn from me and used as leverage against my senses of purpose and stability.”


“Epictetus” helped Stockdael develop a set of rules that supplemented the military code of conduct in addressing the torture and other realities he faced daily.


He expected the prisoners under his command to resist to the best of their physical and moral capacity, to endure torture before divulging information, to tell their fellow prisoners how they had been tortured and what information they had revealed, and to make their torturers “begin all over again the next day.”


Stockdale’s story is one of resiliency and courage.


Most of us, thankfully, will never face literal prison or torture. But we may feel imprisoned in a situation, or tortured by circumstances—and as a resilient leader with a backbone, we will live and lead by our convictions.


Resiliency requires courage.


Morality requires strength.


Living from one’s deepest values takes tenacity.

How we handle our fear will be the factor that makes or breaks us.


Coping and courage. Resilient leaders view difficulties as a challenge, not as a paralyzing event. They look at their failures and mistakes as lessons to be learned from and opportunities for growth.


Moral compass and core convictions. Resilient leaders develop a set of core beliefs that very few things can shatter. An inner moral compass is especially helpful when hard decisions are afoot, but is a trusted guide every day.


Flexibility and tenacity. Resilient leaders don’t wallow or dwell on failures and fear; they acknowledge the situation, understand their fear and learn from their mistakes.


Commitment and confidence. Resilient leaders are committed to their lives and confident in their goals, and they have a compelling reason to lead. Commitment isn’t just restricted to their work—they commit to everything in their lives.


Resilience is the endurance of the heart when the soul is breaking.

 


Lead From Within: Resilience serves as the backbone for all our great virtues. Without fear there is no courage, without values there are no convictions, without resiliency there is no strength.


When should we start training for resiliency?


Right now.


Lolly Daskal is the president and founder of Lead From Within a coaching and consultant firm that manages large scale corporate coaching and custom made leadership programs. Connect with Lolly Daskal

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March 4, 2014

Live and Lead Without Regrets

Screen Shot 2014-03-02 at 11.15.55 AMI walked into his office for our coaching session, and I knew something was very wrong. He was often upset over issues with his company, his board, his shareholders—but this was profoundly different.


I could barely understand his words. “I have so many regrets,” he sobbed, “and now it’s too late.”


In the flash of an instant, life has a way of causing us to rethink everything. What if that happened to you, right now? How would you respond?


Would you spend more time in the office or would identify what you value most?


As leaders we are constantly busy with deadlines and responsibilities and people who rely on us, but we have little time for ourselves. What if we stopped doing what keeps us so busy and started doing what matters most? In the end, we will never look back with regret if we are being true to what we value most in life.


Take time to fill the gaps between the person you are and the person you want to become.

 

   

Would you keep doing what others expect of you, or would you find the courage to be more true to who you are?

For leaders, social pressures are an inescapable reality. How can we develop the courage to differentiate ourselves from the masses? How can we follow our heart and pursue our passion? In the end, what truly matters is that we find our voice and unleash our true potential.


 Make each day matter and live at being the best version of you.

 

   

Would you continue to wear your mask, or would you fearlessly express your deepest feelings?

As leaders we have this idea that we must not show our feelings. We are afraid of expressing our feelings for fear of being seen as vulnerable or weak. Although we have the capacity to express ourselves, we hold back. How can we learn to be more authentic about what we feel? It’s a great legacy for those around us to know we spoke from our heart and we stood up for what we believed in.


We can freeze up our feelings or we can learn to thaw out our heart.

 

   

Would you continue to be too busy for the people who matter to you, or would you boldly show them how much you care?

As leaders, we know that our trusted relationships are our anchors. But it’s easy to get caught up in day-to-day busy-ness and lose track of the people who ground us.They are the ones who boost our confidence, who are there when we are challenged, who lift our spirits when we are stuck in a rut.  Take nothing for granted and keep those precious relationships active -make the time- in turn, those relationships will let us know we can make a difference.


Live your life without regrets and make unconditional love the way of your leadership.

 

   

Would you stay angry with someone who has wronged you, or learn to forgive and give them a second chance?

When someone wrongs or hurts us, we have a choice: To stay in pain or to forgive with compassion. To stay angry will keep the circumstance unresolved. It will only end up causing us more pain. But while someone has wronged us once, we may give them the gift of a second chance, for this time, they might just make things right.


Each moment spent in regret is a moment lost.

 

   

Lead From Within: Life will have a way of causing all of us to pause, but we don’t have to wait for that day to make the most of our life. Commit RIGHT NOW to make the most of your moments, and to begin building a life that is free of regret and reflects how you want to be remembered.
Lolly Daskal is the president and founder of Lead From Within a coaching and consultant firm that manages large scale corporate coaching and custom made leadership programs. Connect with Lolly Daskal

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February 25, 2014

An Appetite For Leadership

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A man was walking through the forest and saw a fox that had lost its legs. He couldn’t help wondering how it was able to survive.


A few minutes later he saw a tiger come by with some game in its mouth.


The tiger sat down to eat his game. Then, when he was full, he left the rest of his game for the fox.


The next day, and the day after, the same thing happened. The tiger brought his catch, had his share, and left the remainder for the fox.


The man began to wonder Why do I need to work so hard? Why not just sit back and trust that everything I need will come to me?  Why don’t I live like the fox and trust that my needs will be taken care of?


And so the next day, the man came back to the forest and sat himself down at the trunk of a tree and did nothing.  He placed all his trust in the fact that his needs would be met.


But as days went by, nothing happened—except that the man grew weaker and weaker.


By the end of the week he was near death, and in his delirium he heard a clear voice:


Why did you choose to imitate the disabled fox and not follow the lead of the tiger?


So many times in life and leadership we want to take the easy road. We feel entitled; we believe that good things should come our way whether or not we earn them.


But leadership is not about entitlement but hard work. To be our most effective, we should follow the lead of the tiger in the gifts we bring to those around us.


Tigers are a symbol of strength and power—courageous, active, and self-assured.


Lead with strength and self-assurance and you will bring the gift of fervent inspiration.


Tigers are fearless—they disregard danger and rush in where more cautious individuals would fear to tread.


Lead without fear and you will bring the gift of forceful courage.


Tigers are dynamic. Their energy and vitality are boundless.


Lead with enthusiasm and you will bring the gifts of intense creativity.


Tigers are independent, unconventional, and optimistic, daring fighters who are willing to stand up for what they think is right.


Lead with independence and tenderhearted tenacity and you will bring the gift of fierce commitment.


We always have a choice: we can sit idly by and wait for someone else’s leftovers, or we can go out and lead.


Lead From Within: No single trait of your leadership will be guaranteed to change the trajectory of your followers or company or relationships, but your leadership—in the sum of all its parts—will make a difference one person at a time. So make it as fierce as a tiger.


Lolly Daskal is the president and founder of Lead From Within a coaching and consultant firm that manages large scale corporate coaching and custom made leadership programs. Connect with Lolly Daskal

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February 18, 2014

Tough-minded Leadership with Tenderhearted Skills

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In business today, every leader, every boss, every chief executive officer, wants their company to be successful and so they advocate for tough-minded attitudes and strong-willed personalities.


And in doing so, they sometimes miss the mark of creating the success they are after. They forget that for leadership to work, for business to excel, you need a balance. It takes not only tough-mindedness but also tenderheartedness to make a business succeed and grow.


A great leader partners a tough mind with a tender heart.

 



A tough-minded leader needs to also advocate for tenderhearted skills.

To do so, you need to lead with these attributes:


Tough-minded on focus and tenderhearted in flexibility. Great leaders need focus to gain success, but they must be flexible and agile in all circumstances to be truly successful.


Tough-minded on values and tenderhearted in appreciation. Great leaders understand that their values are the stamp of their leadership, but they will go out of their way to show appreciation for others; for who they are and what matters to them.


Tough-minded about creativity and tenderhearted in imagination. Great leaders know that creativity is the essence of innovation, but they must be soft-hearted enough to engage and embrace the imagination of others if they want to fuel innovation.


Tough-minded toward vision and tenderhearted in valor. Great leaders know to be successful they must have a clear and succinct vision so others know the direction, but they must also encourage acts of courage, flexibility, and boldness to ensure that their vision is successfully achieved.


Tough-minded on standards and tenderhearted about purpose. Great leaders understand you must not compromise on standards, but they also recognize that each person has their own purpose, and they allow others to express their meaning.


Tough-minded on accountability and tenderhearted in admiration. Great leaders knows they must show results and be responsible, but an important aspect of their success is acknowledging and appreciating those who have helped them secure those results.


When we have confidence in our people,and we treat them with a tender heart, they trust us with the tough decisions and stick with us through even the toughest times.


Do not mistake a tender heart for a weakened mind, and do not confuse a tough mind for a heartless soul.

 


If you want to excel in business and transcend in leadership, allow your tough mind and tender heart to integrate.



Lead From Within: We must remember we cannot be too much of one thing and not enough of its complement. We must find the equilibrium in everything—in our personal life, in business, and especially in effective leadership.


Photo Art: In Japanese, kanji “kokoro” can also be pronounced as “shin“~  Shin means “heart” and can also mean “mind.”

We need the integration of heart and mind to make us whole.


Lolly Daskal is the president and founder of Lead From Within a coaching and consultant firm that manages large scale corporate coaching and custom made leadership programs. Connect with Lolly Daskal

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February 11, 2014

Leadership: The Fallacy of Intimacy

 


Screen Shot 2014-02-10 at 11.09.05 AMThe biggest fallacy that some leaders subscribe to is that intimacy has no place in leadership or business. They subscribe to this fallacy out of fear and a need to protect themselves.


They fear that if they become intimate—that is, if they allow their true selves to be revealed to others—they might lose respect, lose their importance, and lose their power.


The fallacy of intimacy is that if you don’t engage you won’t get hurt.


But life has a way of exposing us, even if we don’t want to be revealed.


Every day, in a thousand ways, we disclose ourselves to the people around us—in our teams and organizations, among our peers, and even with our partners.


Everything we say and everything we do reveals something about who we are. Even the things we don’t say and the things we don’t do tell others something about us.


If you are the kind of leader who is busy building walls and hiding behind masks so you can feel protected, your thinking has one terrible flaw: the things that you feel will protect – will also be what walls you off.


Any leader who has not had their heart touched is leading from a hidden heart.


To bring intimacy into your leadership, you have to be:


Aware. When we allow ourselves to be aware, we have no need to look to others to validate our feelings. We are the first to listen to our heart, then our leadership becomes anchored in self appreciation.


Vulnerable. When we allow others to see our vulnerability we are accepting all of who we are, our entire selves, then our leadership becomes more truthful.


Committed. When we allow others to see what we are committed to, we show them what is deeply important to us, then our leadership becomes more responsible.


Honest. When we speak from the truth, and we say only what we mean and  keep our actions aligned with our words then our leadership becomes deeply rooted in integrity.


Connected. When we allow others to see who we are really are, we can connect on a deeper level, and our leadership becomes focused on people and relationships—then our leadership becomes one of loyalty.


Trustworthy. When we allow others to see our authentic selves, we become trustworthy. Trust then allows our leadership to be honest about ourselves even if it makes us uncomfortable.


Only after we open ourselves can we intimately lead others.

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The truth about intimacy is that it allows others to relate to us on a more worthwhile level. It gives us permission to care more, it entitles us to be more,  it grows more connections and deeper relationships, it builds more resilient teams, it fosters a positive culture in our business, and it leads to a more purposeful leadership.


Lead From Within: Intimacy is not a leadership responsibility. But it should be. And when you treat it as a responsibility, it benefits everyone.


Lolly Daskal is the president and founder of Lead From Within a coaching and consultant firm that manages large scale corporate coaching and custom made leadership programs. Connect with Lolly Daskal

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February 4, 2014

Reputation Matters But Character Leads The Way

Screen Shot 2014-02-03 at 8.48.00 AMReputation is the basis of leadership, no matter the job. It is built over many years, one word at a time, one action at a time, one deed at time. In leadership, few things matter more.


Reputation is among the most treasured and powerful assets. It is what others think of us, and it’s at the foundation of how we distinguish ourselves.


Our reputation is ours, very personal but also very easy to lose.


 

Reputations are earned slowly and are lost quickly.

 



We must guard our reputation like a precious gift; we must nurture it and nourish it daily.

Character. The key goal in shaping your reputation by having your personal character stand as a driving force for everything you do and say. If you want to discover the true reputation of a person, you have only to observe what their character is all about.


Code. To make the right decisions you need the right moral compass and the right grounding to tell you what is right and what is important. At times, it may take every fiber of determination to behave in keeping with the values you hold dear, but doing so will allow your moral code to reveal itself in your actions.


Connection. Every person you encounter is looking to see if you are genuine, if you’re in sync, if you’re open to connection. Your reputation grows best among people you have seen, heard, and valued.


Communication. When you communicate, your goal should always be the alignment of perception and reality. Your reputation stems from what you say as well as what you do.


Caring. When you care you make people feel respected and valued. Caring is not a sign of weakness; it is a sign of strength. It is the framework of your leadership, and it develops your thinking, being and doing.


Commitment. Reputation is created through a sense of ownership and accountability. You can’t build a reputation on what you are going to do, but you can build a solid reputation on doing what you say you will do.


Credibility. There is a strong link between credibility and a great reputation. We know that the presence of trust leads to a strong reputation. You always want to be proud of what you do and make sure it reflects your values and principles. To be credible you want must be true to yourself and others at all times.


Sad but true, reputation boils down to what others think of us and how they judge us. If we get caught up with everyone, we will lose out on everything.  We will miss out on what we are here to achieve, and what we want to accomplish.


It will be our character demonstrated over and over again, that will let others know who we are. And how our skills to our responsibilities and our passions for excellence leads in everything we do.


At the end of the day, we serve our reputation best by leading with our best self and letting our character speak for itself.


If we have character, our reputation will take care of itself.

 



Lead from Within: Reputation matters, but character will always lead the way.



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