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E-Book With Step-by-Step Examples.Hours of Video Lectures Breaking Down The GameplanOne on One Personal Advice IncludedDating & Relationship Scripts. Provider Checklist. Long-Term Commitment Strategy.Guaranteed Results: You can’t Lose With This Course Because I Will Be There At The End To Help You!ENROLL IN THE COURSE BELOW

In my book, Ho Tactics, I wrote about how easily your life could change once you recognize your value, understand your power over men, and have the courage to mindfuck these men into chasing what you have based on that value. This time around, I’m going to show you how to have it all…

Finding a trick is easy, but what about true love from a provider? Can you find a loyal husband who will sponsor your life in all the ways you really want? Can a nice girl who isn’t a Ho really get that kind of happy ending? YES. It’s time to stop feeling guilty, stop trying to freestyle your dating life on your own, stop asking questions about “where do you find those kinds of men,” and get guaranteed results.

Over five weeks, this course will go beyond my books to create an entirely new way of dating that will show you step by step how to attract and hook a provider with words, not sex. Most of these things I’ve only shared in private. How to break down a man mentally, how to push a man’s buttons to keep him chasing, sexting triggers, and most importantly, how to test him so you know that he’s the type to give gifts and provide before you waste your time or open your legs.

This course is not about lying, deceiving, or prostitution; it’s about the power of self-confidence. I’m going to hold your hand and take you step by step, so you can see how easy it is to go from dating mediocre men to high-value providers. You’ve been brainwashed for far too long to think you can’t have both love and money or that women who achieve these things have a certain look, live in a certain city, or have an advantage you don’t. False. There is nothing stopping you from living this lifestyle.

The Four Pillars of Abundance:If a man has it to spend, he has it to provide.You are not limited to your city, the world is your playground.Sex isn’t needed to make a man fall in love, but intelligence is.A man’s wallet follows his heart—never date at a discount.

Why would you entertain, let alone sleep with any man who says, “I love you,” but never offers to help you out? Any man who’s serious about you will make sure you’re all the way good!

Love includes provision. There is no such thing as a man who loves you but won’t provide for you. The level of providing depends on what that man has to his name. But the fact remains that his love will include wanting to give you the world as best he can, without wanting anything in return or throwing it back in your face. Real Men want their women to be happy and see their ultimate job as providing that happiness. Period.

“But… but… but…” echoes the Pick-Me and Bum Ass Men who want to keep you locked in a world where you have to budget and pay for your own birthday parties. Fuck that. This is a Spartan revolution where I’ll take you step by step to show you how actual women have been courted by High-Value Men. The script, the questions, the places you need to go, and more.

This is NOT a world where you keep your mouth shut, act shy, and try to “nice girl” your way into marrying up. You need to take matters into your own hands and learn this strategy that I have seen work for years with my top students.

My job with this course is to get you to the finish line in terms of a husband who provides for you and leads to generational wealth, not to date a guy who buys a Chanel bag, fucks you for half a year, and then it’s all over. We’re beyond shallow luxury gifts; it’s time to get your name on property by knowing how to push the right buttons in the male mind.

The days of dating Broke Brandon with potential but nothing to show for it are over. You’re getting too old to be having sex, falling in love, or committing years to men who can’t provide anything other than conversation. You don’t need to be around men with money, you need to be around men who spend that money—on you!

The name of the game is to fall in love with someone who not only respects you but who has the financial health to ensure that you are always taken care of, no matter what. That’s what you call a husband, that’s who your future kids should want to call “daddy”, and that’s the person you pour your love into.

No more roommate treatment, no more holding someone down, no more being loyal to a fault, and regretting it later. Stand in your power and get what you deserve!

If you’ve ever felt like you were giving too much and getting too little, this is your chance to transform your love life into one that feels abundant, intentional, and worthy of the woman you’ve worked hard to become. Love is not going to fall into your lap. Things will not magically ‘get better.’

The women who win are the women who act ! Be able to look back on life and show that you ATE instead of fumbled your love life. Take the course, get real results, and claim the life you deserve.

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Watch & ReWatch The Video Lectures or Read The Course Book At Your Own Pace. No Need To Rush!

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Men play games. Why? To flex their power and gain control until it satisfies their egos. The basic rule of that game is this: Date her. Win her over by going above and beyond… at first. Understand her life story, including her trauma and her specific needs. Now that you know how to push her buttons, YANK her chain. Grow distant, grow annoyed, change up and withhold your affection, and lie about the reason why you’re cooling off, and you will mind fuck even the so-called smarter women.

At this point, she will reveal one of two things: She will do anything to get you back. Or she doesn’t need you and isn’t affected by your sneaky manipulation. 8 out of 10 women are “why is he acting that way, how can I fix this,” not “Fuck him. Next man up.” Spartans don’t cry over dick. Spartans don’t overthink a man’s actions. Spartans don’t settle, EVER.

Your actions define your success—always. Not the words you spew to your friends, not the quotes you post online, and not the thoughts in your head. When life throws people or situations at you, everything you pretend to be about goes out the window, and you make rookie mistake after rookie mistake because there is still a disconnect between what you SAY you’ll do and what you physically do in real life!

I’ll never date a man who can’t bring anything to the table…

I’ll never have sex unless I get certain treatment first…

I’m not stupid, I can always spot a liar…

I’m not easy, I’ll make a man jump through hoops…

Once I’m done, I’m done…

Lie after lie after lie… Look at the receipts of your life, you’ve done foolish and embarrassing things that you’ll take to the grave over a man.  When the right guy’s in front of you, gassing you up or dangling the right kind of carrot, you have proven time and time again that you will break your word, bend your standards, and don’t take your own boundaries seriously.

Your actions define your success. You keep going in circles when it comes to love because you give up your power, crumble under pressure, and put HE over She. You aren’t selfish, you aren’t savage, and you aren’t high maintenance— you’re still a little girl praying for love, mislabeling his lust as genuine interest, and treating men like they’re the prize.

Men respond to actions, not words, and there you are telling him what you won’t accept, what you won’t do, and who he has you confused with… only to go chasing after him when he calls your bluff. He heard you bark, bark, bark, then shatter into a love-thirsty coward the moment he took his attention away. Then you scratch your head, confused as to why your constant contradiction keeps attracting predators instead of providers.

Dating isn’t hard; you make the process difficult by lowering the bar to make certain people you deem as “special” fit. You heard that lie, you saw their true colors slip out, but you looked away and kept dealing with them because you’re tired and just want something to work out. You’re playing the love game willfully blindfolded, then have the nerve to cry, “This is hard!” Aren’t you sick of being THIS disgustingly basic?

“Dear God, just send me a man that will love me so I can love him back  and show him how amazing I am…”

YAWN. No one wants you because you’re not ready. You’re not strong. You’re not selective. You’re not honest. AND you’re not healed. A broken soul can’t manifest a soul mate; they will only succeed in manifesting endless lessons until they figure it out.

Why are you reading these words? What sign is flashing in front of you? What has led you to this exact moment? The power of your TRUE self, the God in you, has manifested me to get you over that hump. You’re not broken, but you’re bruised, and I’m going to carve that weakness out of you and turn you into a Spartan.

How can I ensure results? Make sure you get it. And then test you to see if you are being truthful about using the things I write in the outside world? A course was the only way.

Many of my fans discover my work through other dating coaches who have incorporated parts of my work into their books, courses, or videos, as well as those who have openly acknowledged my influence on their philosophy. In the past few years, as courses have become nearly as popular as books, I’ve been asked to make one.

One woman found me after her dating coach, whom she paid over $8,000 to, got tired of answering her questions and simply emailed her a copy of Men Don’t Love Women Like You. Think about that, you go through an entire course and coaching session for thousands of dollars, and when you’re done, she dismisses you with a book from another person… fuck that.

I’m happy to know that other dating coaches appreciate my work and utilize it as a tool, but I’m focused on results, not misleading people. I’m sure some of you discover TikTok or YouTube videos that go viral and think those people have all the answers, but real change can only come from going to the source, not the plug.

I decided to do a course, but it had to guarantee results, because I don’t want any of you coming back feeling like you wasted your time or money. That’s why, at the end, you’ll get to email me so nothing slips through the cracks. In addition to being of high quality, this course needed to offer something different from my books. I can’t just give you Date Like a Sparta, Unicorn Delusion, or Solving Single, reworded in course form. That doesn’t teach anything new. Instead, I decided to explore a path that many of my recent Zoom coaching calls have centered on: dating for love and money.

My top request is how to merge Ho Tactics value with Men Don’t Love Women Like You in terms of finding love. This course is the solution. A complex topic too big for a book, so here we are, with the ultimate guide to dating up for love: Real Men Don’t Split Bills – How To Date A Provider, Not A Project.

Throughout the 5 weeks, you will not only listen, read, and learn, but also be tested on everything I lay out. At the end of the five weeks, you will be required to take a test and go on a date. This is a course that will work if you’re willing to give it your all. Unlike some of these online courses that charge thousands of dollars and force you to buy package after package, everything you will ever need is included here.

I’m not doing this just to do it; I’m committed to helping everyone who signs up for this course actually get long-lasting results. I’m not going to pass this off on you and hope you do it right. By the end of these five weeks, I will guarantee success by correcting any issues you’re still experiencing. This is it, my final, in-depth exploration of dating, as my newer books will be taking other exciting directions. So, if you haven’t been able to crack the code to dating and commitment, and are ready to graduate to Spartanhood, then this is your best shot.

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Far From BasYc by G.L. Lambert

I have a friend who hates that I give women advice. He’s the type that will randomly text me something from my books late at night and say, “These bitches aren’t this smart, but go off and keep trying to save them.”

It’s funny to me, but it’s sad at the same time because men don’t think you all are capable. I’ll admit, even when I tell women what to look for, how to move, and share proof of success… There will STILL be those who will always choose to be dumb over dick rather than play this game from a position of power. I don’t get mad, I get motivated. For every woman who lives up to the “chase a dick” stereotype, I need to see ten Spartans rise up!

Here are a few things that most of you have forgotten that will keep you honest… read, don’t skim, because I want to live in a world where men respect a woman’s intelligence, not play in your face and refer to you as “dumb bitches”.

Things Women Forget About Sex

As a woman, you will always be objectified. Men don’t “like” you, nor do they think you’re “cool”. Every compliment a man lays at your feet is meant to disarm you, drop your guard, and allow him to get closer to you. Why? So he can fuck you.

A man will try to press you fast to fuck you quick. A man may wait and pretend to be your friend so he can fuck you later. It doesn’t matter how he moves and what tactics he’s using to win you over. Understand that your ONLY VALUE is your pussy. 99% of straight men are NOT nice to women just because… they have agendas that most of you miss until it’s too late. Go ahead. Think about it and stop me when I’m telling lies.

You know this stuff; you’ve known it since you were at least 22 years old. But you forget this when a man checks your boxes of attraction: Funny. Handsome. Charismatic. Successful.

When you meet a man who is your type, you believe that he respects you, likes you, and wants you for who you are, not what’s between your legs. You lie to yourself in order to let the idea of love blossom. You become delusional in order to allow romance to take hold. Disney fantasy takes over a grown woman’s intelligence, and guess what happens?

The moment a man attacks you with romance and you forget about the nature of men, you lose your power over him and are now trying to hold on to him because he’s convinced you that he’s “rare”. He will fuck you. He will act differently. Maybe not at first, but just wait for it… and then you’re left starting back over, feeling stupid.

In the end, a man didn’t outsmart you; he just played along as if he liked you, and because you have this huge hole in you that needs validation, you allowed that man to outwit you until you were just another notch in his belt.

“I could never” became “I can’t believe I fell for his lies” because you got dick whipped and mentally manipulated into believing this man could give you the happy ending you always wanted and the love you crave. Sometimes “I love you” means I want to bust a nut in you for a few months. BUT. Eventually, that lust wears off, and he falls back. You don’t lower your head and accept that, beloved, you learn to avoid it by being smarter than he is…

Why did he have to lie if he only wanted sex? Why have all of those deep conversations? Why plan things? Why would anyone do the most just to have sex?

Because sex is domination, sex is the ego winning, sex is the chase that only turns into love if there is a foundation of respect already in place. Do you hear me? RESPECT in place. You can’t fuck him and then think he’s going to see you as wifey; it’s too late. The moment a man figures out you’re easy to have, he will double down on disrespect. They don’t want your love, they don’t want to hear your opinions, they don’t even want to see you unless you’re ready to exchange sex. They will use you as a PLACEHOLDER until they find a woman smart enough to check him.

“Why won’t he text me, doesn’t he miss me?”

“Why doesn’t he take me out anymore, doesn’t he want to spend time?”

“Why does he tell me he loves me, then act distant?”

Look at his actions, not his words! HE DOES NOT FUCK WITH YOU WHEN YOUR CLOTHES ARE ON. Everything he does is to set up sex, never about quality time with you and your brain. He texts his friends, he opens up to his friends, he moves his schedule around for his friends. You are not his friend, you’re pussy. And if you don’t recognize that and think it’s deeper, then the joke will always be on you.

Smart women don’t fuck because a man is cute.Smart women don’t fuck because a man is kind.Smart women don’t fuck because a man keeps her laughing.Smart women don’t fuck because a man has money and success.

Smart women get what they want during the chase, take a man’s power, and then make him desperate for attention. Can you do that? Most of you have done that. But it was with men you didn’t like as much, men who you saw as weak betas. You’re unhappy in your dating life, because you can’t wield that same power over Alpha men.

Here’s a secret… all men are the same.

Things Women Forget About Men

There are a few types of men I break down in my books. But let’s zero in on the three you need to understand to instantly raise your Relationship IQ.

The Popular Man: He has always gotten attention from both men and women. He’s seen as special because of what he does: an athlete, a musician, or a natural leader. Because he has inflated confidence and an unchecked ego, he moves in on women, and they rarely say “no” because they already know he’s important. Every woman wants a man whom other people look up to. So they get easy pussy without having to work hard for it.

This is the man you all want. This is the “needle in the haystack” that only shows up once a month of a dating app. This is the “god sent” man you randomly run into and think you’ve been blessed. When most women dream of a happy ending, it’s with the Popular Man.

Spoiler Alert: The Popular Man doesn’t want 99% of you, because these kinds of men have a deep desire to chase, not catch, and can never be with a woman like you who puts his dick on a pedestal and lets him get away with murder.

Still, you will try to “love him into submission” because that’s what basic women do.

The Unpopular Man: These are the “ugly-cute” guys you’re used to dealing with. They’re kinda corny, pretty boring, don’t have much, their opinions are usually formed by the ideas of stronger men whom they follow.

These are the guys who didn’t get any play in school, and had to “nice” their way to pussy. As adults, they’re the ones following random Red Pill misogynistic YouTubers and Reddit Bros because they’re angry that the girls they want all want the popular guys.

This is the man you don’t want, but it’s the man with whom most of you have been in relationships. The popular guys fuck you, traumatize you, and send you back to the streets. These unpopular lames are the ones who stick with you, always pop back up, and whom you settle for when lonely.

Spoiler Alert: You don’t want a man who follows after other men, who isn’t exciting, and who is low-key not that smart. But if you keep playing it safe, this is the kind of man you will marry and have kids with, and then wake up one day crying because you are the lame chick who fell for the lame ass man no one else wanted.

The Recently Popular Man: What happens when an Unpopular Man comes into money, fame, or success? He becomes more desirable… but he’s still lame. Why are certain women on OnlyFans generating millions? Because they know how to talk to this brand of clown. These are the “new money” low self-esteem, yet cocky, assholes who will pull you in, push you away, only to pull you back, all because women hurt them in the past.

Men who never received attention when they were younger, then get clout later in life, will spend years trying to get revenge on women. They will love bomb you with money, then verbally abuse you. They will try to manipulate you into doing all kinds of sexual things, just so they can hold it over your head and call you a slut. Psychology, these men always wanted the pretty cheerleader; now they’re going to do everything they can to dirty her up for never reciprocating. They literally hate women.

Me (Sees attractive girl at an event): Damn, she’s pretty.Actor Who I Won’t Name: She ain’t shit, bro. I shot ropes on this bitch’s face who looked just like her.

Why do men take satisfaction in disrespecting women and dwindling down to the lowest sexual domination, in this case, cumming on her face? Because of jealousy and resentment! Men want the power that you ladies possess naturally. These types of men smile in your face, text you sweet shit, then secretly plot a way to dehumanize you. …the signs are always there, but you don’t want to open your eyes to the fact that “new bae” is secretly a predator.

Spoiler Alert: These are the men that most of you get played and ghosted by as you get older. They’re the truck drivers with money, the new business owners, the corporate nerds who dangle their success and money in your face, and you dance right along because you think they’re your last shot at finding someone who isn’t paycheck to paycheck.

Things Women Forget About Power

Popular Men want your pussy, but not giving it to them until they jump through hoop after hoop and bend the knee will humble their ego and form respect. Only through that respect, and fear that you may leave them, will they be a dog that can now be properly put on your leash.

Unpopular men want your pussy, but not giving it to them and instead forming a friendship where they do favors and things for you, makes them a useful follower. He’ll be the “male bestie” who would die to eat your pussy, but you keep him around because he’s useful when you need something fixed, need to be treated on your birthday, and he can always introduce you to men who are better than he is.

Recently Popular men want your pussy, but not giving it to them, and pretending to stroke their egos will satisfy their thirst to be loved. They want to win you because, unlike the Basicas, you aren’t impressed with their newfound money or status. You tease like you may give in, then show him he’s still not good enough, which doesn’t push him away; it makes him want you that much more. This man will become your bitch, your bank account, even a husband who signs over his net worth to you if that’s what your end goal is.

Women are smarter than men. Women are powerful. So why isn’t womenkind women? Why are you all out here looking dumb over dick on the interenet? “Don’t blame me I’m the victim, G.L.” Know you’re the sucker!

The problem with modern dating is that most of you know, accept, and embrace what I just wrote… only to forget it all the next day because you overthink the process… get tired… and just want love at any cost.

“I’ll just keep being genuine and sweet because I don’t want to miss out on this guy who really likes me,” moans Tina Typical.“It’s hard to find a good man in my city,” laments BBL Brenda.“The right man will find me one day, if that’s God’s plan,” preaches Sister Sarah.

Fuck all of that noise.

99% of men will need to be trained to respect you and see you as more than an object. Why? Because men aren’t raised right. They’re raised by other mysoginistic men or by basic mothers who were never “girl’s girls”. Do you understand the world you live in?

You can’t pray for change. Get a new butt. Or suck his dick until he falls in love! There is no amount of religion, no amount of being submissive, nor amount of body enhancements that will do that work for you. Power comes from not being afraid to challenge men in all the ways I’ve been writing about for years. Stand up these men, and show them that you are built differently from the rest of these dummies!

Make Them Simp For You

You should be the one making him send paragraphs because he misses you and can’t see you on his terms.

You should be the one smutting him out in the bedroom, making him do things that he would never admit to his boys.

You should be the Goddess whom he stops seeing as an OBJECT and starts seeing as a PARTNER.

Love exists, but it’s earned, ladies. Know how they see you. Know how to make them chase. Know how to vet them. Know how to keep them thirsty without giving a crumb of coochie.

Only then will they be obsessed with your brain, in love with your aura, and see you as a Game Changer they can’t live without. Quality men love powerful women, but the key is to mask that power so they don’t know until it’s too late that they just ran into a Spartan.

Come back and read this anytime you need a reminder…

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Far From BasYc by G.L. Lambert

Hey, G.L. I hope this email finds you well. I am a plus sized woman, have been since my mid-20s. I recently reconnected online with a guy from high school and felt really insecure because I’m not the size that he remembers. Despite this, I pushed forward with the date. We’ve been inseparable since and we are currently in a relationship. The issue is I’m in my own head every damn day. He wants to go out, I would rather stay in. He likes to hang with old classmates, I don’t speak to any of those people for fear of being judged. Last week we had “the talk” where he told me that he feels it isn’t working out and we both need to change things. This destroyed me.

I know I can create positive manifestations in life, but also negative ones based on my feelings. I’ve done a lot of work to be able to have such a loving and handsome boyfriend, but I feel my inner Basica dragging me down, G.L. My anxiety has pushed him away, and we’re basically on a break while I get therapy. My therapists talks in circles, so I need something more practical. You’ve helped my best friend in the past, so maybe you can help me? Any tips to right this ship not just for the sake of my relationship but for the sake of finally living in power and not being hung up on my insecurities and what others think?

Too many of you are smart but fragile, confident in one breath, then weak as fuck the next moment. You can’t control your emotions, you can’t silence your fears, and you never learned to check your anxiety, so here you are, living life one trigger moment away from shattering. You’re a weak bitch. Just another typical girl who will find love and then lose it the moment a man realizes how broken you are… but it doesn’t have to stay that way. There is nothing inside of you that can’t be corrected, the problem is do you want to remain weak or are you going to actually do the fucking work I list below?

The biggest lie you’ve been told is, “It all works out in the end,” HA! Look at the news; look at your own family tree—no, the fuck it doesn’t! There are people who get what they want out of life and then there are people that die with regret. Pick the fucking pill you want to take and stop going back and forth, unsure of which way is right.

Do you want to become that old woman who fumbled her chance to be happy because of her own weak ass thoughts, or do you want to become the kind of woman that didn’t break, didn’t settle, and met her goals in terms of love, career, and life? Look at that email above. It’s from a woman at her breaking point because she’s looked for validation in a realtionship, got it, then realized that her problems weren’t the lack of man it was her own self-hate.

Stressful situations that pop up aren’t coincidences, karma, or bad luck. It’s all YOU. Once your mind drifts into thoughts of “Maybe I’m not enough,” your world shifts into a mirror reflecting that negativity. If you want to attract happiness, STAY out of your own way. Setbacks are temporary. Heartbreak heals. The ability to bounce back better is power. Master it!

The good news is that no matter if you’re in a relationship like the woman above who wrote to me or someone who’s single, it only takes ONE fucking day to change the direction of your thoughts and set yourself up to attract and manifest the things you feel you aren’t worthy of having. Today, I’m going to break down the weak bitch thoughts, the toxic self-critiques, and the invasive imposter syndrome thoughts that are keeping you stuck, depressed, and sabotaging your wins and how to stop being so damn basic!

Curating Your World View

You are what you think, but what is it that you think? Let’s cut through the bullshit and look at the world you inhabit. You are a goddess having a human experience. You possess a curious mind that’s constantly racing and craving new things. Your brain is a sponge that wants a creative outlet and needs to be fed daily or you’re going to spiral into boredom.

…so, what is it that you feed your mind each day?

-You wake up and think about bullshit from the day before.-You worry about problems that haven’t even happened,-You fixate on what other people think about you.-You are consumed with your future and rarely live in the NOW.

Why is your phone in your hand all the time? Because you’re only happy when you’re distracted. Laughing at silly shit online, sucking up gossip, nodding along to plagirized affirmation videos, and of course, shopping for shit you don’t even need. When you do actually get away from the screen and go somewhere, you search for your phone so you can let everyone know that you’re out somewhere.

Your mind is stuck in this loop of always needing something to do, yet you don’t actually do shit.. You’ve lost the ability to be alone with your thoughts because facing yourself is scary. You were put here to rule, instead you’ve made yourself into a peasant! The high vibrational thoughts that come when you’re focused prove that you’re special, but you let those slip away and go back to drifting into anxiety and frustration. Let’s look at the “why”.

Impatience + Regret = Self Sabotage.

You want to win right now and you’re sick of waiting, so how do you solve it, not with enlightenment, but with ignorance. You look at others with this “Why Can’t That Be Me…” envy. At the same time, you look at your past, attempting to shrug accountability by placing blame with a “What If I Would Have Done XYZ Differently.” You want to be more than what you’ve shown, but you’re also afraid to fail. You build yourself up with positive talk, then tear yourself back down with negative thoughts only to end up right back in bed at the end of the day, the same basic, unevolved human who isn’t living life but wasting it.

This is not who you are. Your True self isn’t this basic ass creature chained by fear. You’ve allowed this to happen because you’ve brainwashed yourself with a world filled with low vibrational influences.

It’s time to throw out the distractions and stop hiding behind your phone. Other people have more influence on your life than you do. That’s why they’re called influencers. Filtered pictures of other women on social media make you envious, thus making you seek out the beauty products that they use or the clothes that they wear. You want to take the same style of photos, use the same filters, and work that same angle so you can join along and feel pretty. Why?

Because you crave attention from the very world that you should have control over. You’re not running the matrix the matrix is running you! “Look at me, make me feel like I’m wanted,” is how a low vibrational person moves. Wasting money and time to gain validation from people who wouldn’t care if you died tomorrow.

If it’s not social media, it’s mainstream media that lowers your vibration. Too many of you binge so-called reality TV shows about women who fight each other over gossip or men, shows about getting married in the 90 days, or how love is blind… but not really. You gobble up media that doesn’t expand your mind but stunts it like a kid drinking coffee.

You can’t grow if your world is filled with basic bitch propaganda.

What are you going to talk about on a date? TV show plot lines? Celebrity news?  How are you going to talk on a date? Using too much profanity and calling everyone “bro” like you’re 17?  How are you going to keep a new relationship from dying out after the honeymoon lust stage is over? After he gets your pussy by telling your basic ass what you want to hear, he’s gone because no man wants a woman whose only value is laughing at his jokes and sharing Spotify Playlists…

“I’m goofy and funny who wouldn’t want to be with me,” well let’s add them up because a lot of people have passed on you. Wonder why men ghost you or fall back into the arms of another woman after too much time with you? Because you’re giving dry, repressed, and vapid. You’re a parody of what you see online because you don’t know how to be yourself, only how to be what you think other people want to see from you, and that’s tragic!

Look at what you consume and how it consumes you. Going around thinking you’re a catch and someone fumbled you is easy. Actually looking in the mirror at how your personality turns people off is hard. Self-awareness will change your life overnight, but you’re not ready to go that deep.

Your worldview is the starting point of everything you will ever dare to manifest, negative and positive. Why the fuck do you think every great person that’s ever lived has preached the importance of meditation and isolation? You can’t stay plugged into the world of peasants and stay royalty. If you lay in the mud with the low people, you become one of them. It doesn’t matter how high your IQ is, what your job is, or what you‘re capable of. Brainwashing yourself to be low vibrational ends with the same results, you give away your power and become just another typical mediocre woman who talks about the same vapid shit, posts the same shallow captions, and spends way too much time in front of a screen seeking validation.

Inner work: This week, I want you to unplug from everything that isn’t mandatory. Meaning that if it’s not going to work or answering a message that’s work related, don’t engage. Once unplugged, meditate on who the fuck you are. Not what you want, not where you want to go, not the relationship you’re in, nor the relationship you want to be in. Just be. When the noise of the distractions goes silent, the overthinking will cease. The anxiety will slow to a crawl. There is no worry to be had when you’re in the now of just—breath in and breath out. Get to that place this week. That’s the first step.

Controlling Invasive Thoughts

Everyone has invasive thoughts. Those things your inner voice pops up with, that don’t mesh at all with who you are. This can be racist thoughts, sexist thoughts, suicidal thoughts, homicidal thoughts, and taboo shit that you would never say to even your best friends. This “dark place” is where your mind goes multiple times throughout the day. Unlike your normal running commentary about what to eat or why your mother hasn’t called you yet, these thoughts aren’t your normal internal dialogue, they’re random and scary. They’re so frightening that you even wonder, “Is this the real me? Is this who I am, some crazy stalker woman who wants to drown puppies?”

Shadow Self. Inner demon. Dark side. These are negative terms that make you feel guilty. Most of you are religious or grew up in the church and still have those “sin traumas” inside of you that hold you back from exploring the unplesant parts of your mind. The truth is, it’s not the devil inside you, nor is there some shadowy subconscious. These terms are just a fancy way of saying “unfiltered emotional thoughts”. Your logical self is a mask that you put on daily. It’s the avatar that you hold together as you play your part as a human living life. Your emotional side, the true subconscious, is pushed down and buried all day long while you pretend to be this “character”. The thoughts from your metaphorical dark side, or shadow self, is what happens when you don’t go inside and explore who you are.

Fuck that job. Fuck your family members. Everything is stupid. And I’m stupid too, for caring so much about a bunch of dumb shit. This is where your mind wants to go because all day long, you play this fake game of “I’m happy and having fun living this boring life!” Embrace that shit; you can’t control your subconscious, but when it bubbles to the surface, let it out. Don’t turn the thoughts off. Let that faucet of shit talking, hate, frustration, and violence run its course. Never tell yourself “Don’t think that,” or “That’s not nice,” or try to pray away what your mind is telling you. If it doesn’t get out, it builds to the point where that little voice inside your head gets taken over by that chaos. Sprialing happens when you can no longer seperate the intrusive from the rational thoughts.

Stop driving yourself crazy trying to break down and control wild thoughts, and recognize that your mind is a factory that produces too much fucking product, and some of that product is absolutely insane, but it’s still apart of you, so it has to find its way out before it clogs up the machine. The reason I bring this up is that when your normal mental thoughts begin to intersect with your invasive thoughts, that spiral can cause permanent truama, including a chain reaction that will trap you inside a dark place of depression, anxiety, or even self-harm.

TRIGGER EVENTS: When your invasive thoughts, aka your emotional shadow side, breakthrough, it’s because you experienced a triggering event. A guy rejected you. Friends didn’t include you. Someone at work passed you over. These things crack that mask you walk around with, and because you never let these thoughts out, they rush through and overwhelm you with negative things that can break you mentally:

“He didn’t call me back because I don’t look like my dating app picture. I’m fat and ugly, and worthless, and he’s disgusted by the thought of me, so I should just die and stop trying.” That’s an example of your inner voice being corrupted by the worst thing that pops into your mind. Because your thought is tied to a real-life incident, in this example, being ghosted or someone not responding to you romantically the way you wanted, you can’t simply brush those thoughts off; you give into them and begin to drown. The key is to strengthen your mind so that nothing in the future can trigger you at this level.

Inner work: Exercising gets tension out, and scream therapy can let anger out, but what lets invasive thoughts out? Honesty. The second step I want you to take this week is to have a conversation with yourself about everything and anything that pops into your head and be honest.

If your 3rd grade teacher randomly pops up, and your feelings are harsh, let it out because that’s your subconscious telling you that you have raw feelings towards them that you never got out, and even though they aren’t a part of your current life, it’s hurting you. If you randomly think about Beyonce, and consciously you’re like, “I love her,” but your thoughts are like, “fuck her, she’s not all that,” go with that contradiction.

There are thoughts about your family members, exes, even traumatizing events that you blacked out but need to face. “I just get in my moood, don’t know what’s bothering me…” Everything! You keep piling pain on top of pain and wonder why you push positive situations away and self sabotage happiness. A mind filled with chaos can’t rest. A mind harboring guilt or hatred can’t find peace. You’re not bipolar; you’re complex, and you need to let all sides out, not just the nice parts. Go inside, play word association, and let the thoughts, no matter how invasive, go to war. This is the first step in doing true Shadow Work.

Managing Your Manifestations

I don’t care if you believe in manifesting your reality or if you think it’s bullshit. The way your world works isn’t the point, creating a better world is. The fact that you can literally see cause and effect every single day is what I need you to focus on. You do something and something good happens, you do something and something bad happens. That’s not what’s going on beneath the surface. You’re either walking around miserable, repressed, and frustrated or you’re walking around confident and free. Bad situations or good situations still happen regardless of the mindset you have, but only one of those mindsets can see past the trees.

A person gets fired from their job, gets their engagement called off, and loses their Grandfather all in the same year. Is that a punishment for negative thoughts? That’s not how this game works. When your mind is properly attuned, you don’t give into the misery, you go inside and quiet your mind, you talk to yourself good and bad, and you get back out there with the mindset that you’re going to find a better job, fiancé, and make your Grandfather’s memory proud. Those who break, stop. Those who rise above, go beyond.

The Universe isn’t out to hurt you, it’s advancing you. It’s your mind that decides to trust in that or run from that. In your daily life, no matter what’s thrown at you, the only thing stopping you from manifesting a better experience is an overactive mind that panics. Panic leads to anxiety, anxiety leads to fear. Fear cripples you. Calm the fuck down. This statement needs to become your best friend.

There will always be thoughts that you can’t fully control, situations that upset you, and emotions that cause you to have a hissy fit. Why is this happening, fuck this, I hate life… You done? Calm the fuck down. Stop being a bratty little Basica and fully embrace the truth that I’m about to lay out.

You are divine. You are God herself. You are the embodiment of power. Why don’t you feel that? That’s a trick question, you do feel that when you actually quiet the noise and breathe in and out. You do feel that when something goes your way or when someone recognizes you. The real question is, why is there a disconnect?  You are living a human experience. Every day, you wake up in a world that is messy and chaotic but also funny and exciting, and you get caught up in the details of being human. You’re playing a game that feels real, but there is no Apple Pro headset to take off and stop it, so you confuse the game character with the controlling character.

You hate that your character is fat and can’t lose weight, so you go get surgery or hire a professional to help you. Okay. Nothing’s changed. You’re now picking on other stuff about your body. Why? Because changing the fucking character, AKA making Sonic the Hedgehog green and not blue, doesn’t change the fucking game! The surface doesn’t matter!

In order to stop the negative thoughts which, create the negative manifestations that reinforce more negative thoughts, you have to—Calm the fuck down.

Whenever you’re going through something and feel the human character overpowering your Goddess side, remind yourself that you are not this avatar, you are not that situation, and that the things that are happening, while uncomfortable and unwanted, are not defining. Meaning, that as a master manifestor, with the power to shape her world, all you need to do is pump the breaks, calm down, and be at peace with what the game is giving you in that moment, then make the conscious choice to no longer give into the fear, hate, or frustration.

Inner work: Instead of being mad, being afraid, and creating this world of “I’m fat, my boyfriend is going to one day leave me,” like that woman who wrote that email above. Calm the fuck down and play the game on God Mode. You are who you are for a reason, and positive things happen when you stop hating the game and start playing it the way you want to. Hiding out at home because you don’t want people to see you, being too shy to shoot your shot because you don’t want to be rejected, holding on to people who hurt you because you don’t think anyone else would want you… weak little women do that because they have convinced themselves that they’re low when, in reality, they are the most high.

Three steps… Calm The Fuck Down. Unplug the things that influence your thoughts and cause you to drift into a peasant state of low vibrations. While unplugged, let in those invasive thoughts until they no longer have power over you. Remind yourself that this is an experience. This is a world built for you to learn, grow, have fun, and thrive. Hold on to that knowledge of self, of power, and put it into practice by playing the game you called life with one last invasive thought always being chanted in your head: I Am A Fucking Spartan, and these people are my subjects. I fear nothing.

Setting the bar with the men who you allow in your world….

Stop pretending that you’re okay with doing everything on your own.

There’s no cookie for struggling in the name of being independent! There’s no red carpet for women who pour everything into a man and get nothing in return.

Shying away from your power because you hate to ask men for things, because you want to seem STRONG and put together, because you think a closed mouth will get you picked– is a JOKE.

There are women who get the world handed to them… and then there are women who Window Shop like, “Wow, how did she get him to do that?” Which one are you going to be?

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Far From BasYc by G.L. Lambert

“Hey, G. Hopefully you can answer this on your podcast or write me back directly, either way is fine, but I desperately need guidance. About three months into our relationship, I paid $800 to make my boyfriend take a polygraph test. He had no problem with it and said, whatever it took because he wanted to make me feel safe. He passed the test. All was good.

A month later, he sent me a series of texts saying I’m jealous, paranoid, and that I have bipolar tendencies. Leaving out the things he’s done that have made me feel jealous and insecure.

My mother took up for him and said that I’m too old to still be running around treating people like they’re going to hurt me before they even hurt me. She literally told me I made this bed and that’s why I’m going to die alone. She’s a horrible person. G, I’m 32 years old, and my mother knew that shit would hurt my feelings, as my sister is 26 and married.

Can you please help out, because I feel that, yes, I have trust issues. Yes, I can get jealous but only when provoked, but I feel that a man who sees my value will work with me to heal these things, not attack me. Am I wrong?”

The person meant for you, can be missed. You can fuck up, and blow it by acting crazy, being too afraid to open up, or even by second-guessing their intentions to the point where you push them into the arms of someone else. I’m not going to sugarcoat the way the world works. If you’re mentally not ready for a relationship, no matter how compatible that other person is, it’s not going to work.

If I know my value as a man, and I meet a woman who is great during that initial lust stage, then we start to bring out the worst in each other for the next three months, it’s a dub. Why would I waste my time knowing that there are other women out there who are more compatible?

Life is about options. When you know what you bring to the table, then you know that ANYONE is replaceable; therefore, you don’t deal with crazy, you don’t deal with sneaky, and you don’t deal with stress. There isn’t ONE person, ONE soul mate, ONE destined love. This is your world, and you can manifest the love of your life at 20, manifest another one at 35, be a widow at 73, and meet yet another true love.

Your “person” is the one you end up buried next to, not the regret you had during your 20s.

Two people can be in love and not belong together. If you’ve lived and loved, you’ve learned this harsh truth. If you still buy into the Hollywood movie version of love where it conquers all, then brace yourself because you’re in for a rude awakening sooner or later. You can’t control how compatible a person remains or if they change over time, but you can ensure that you aren’t the catalyst that pushes someone away by taking self-inventory of the things you may be doing wrong.

Are you good at dating? Are you good at communicating? Are you truly a good girlfriend, or is it just hype and ego? “I know I have issues, but I’m loyal” doesn’t cut it. “I need to work on my attitude, but…” sounds like an excuse to point fingers. “Love me, flaws and all” is hypocritical. You can’t rage against toxic behavior in one breath, then turn around and demand that a person embraces all the insecurities you refuse to work on just because it sounds romantic.

This guy once told me how a girl texted him over sixty times while he was out playing basketball. He thought she was dying. When he finally called her back, she wanted to know why she heard a FEMALE’S VOICE in the background of an Instagram story. This woman was literally upset over hearing a child’s voice at a playground. She called her friends and wanted to go look for him. It proved to him that no matter how much fun she was at first, she had deeper issues that he couldn’t fix.

Men can’t fix you. Men can’t dignose you. Men can only react. That reaction is either to keep putting up with your shit, or call you out on it. Either way, the longer you go without seeking to heal your own hurt, the more likely it is that you will never find lasting love.

If all of your relationships keep falling apart, it’s not bad luck; it’s time to explore if you’re as amazing as you say or guilty of ignoring your own massive faults. You want to be loved, but when was the last time you asked yourself, “Do I make it hard for people to love me?”

You will meet quality men and you will meet men who don’t measure up. We focus so much on what to do in order to protect against trash ass men, but rarely talk about how to let down your guard and open up to the good men you come across. You say you know how to date, you want to be in a loving relationship, but you end up treating the good men worst than you treat the manipulators because you’re so used to being in a shell.

This is honesty hour, if you blindly date, ignorant to your problems or unwilling to fix them, you will fuck up a good thing. You will chase away guys who you’ve prayed for. You will dismiss someone who really likes you. You will act so basic or so jealous due to your past trauma that you push Mr. Right into the arms of another woman. I write a lot about the bullshit that a lot of males do. Today I’m going to address the other side.

Are You Crash Out Crazy?

There are far too many women who constantly ruin their chance at happiness because they date with a chip on their shoulder, rush into relationships with fresh wounds, and overthink everything a man does for fear he’s out to hurt her. Not every man has a toxic agenda, not every male action you don’t understand is meant to be scrutinized to the point of paranoia, and sometimes a misunderstanding is just that, not proof that you should fall back. You want to be in control so bad because you’re scared of being played or abandoned. That fear doesn’t protect you from users, the irony is that your closed off persona scares off decent men and pulls in the ones you’re running from.

Manipulative men love to chase defensive and damaged women because they see through the front as a want to be loved. The quality men you want aren’t going to put up with your energy because they can tell from the moment you start talking you have trust issues, you make assumptions, and you haven’t dealt with your baggage. They run the other way, not because they aren’t “man enough” but because you come off with the emotional maturity of a 19-year-old. A trait of being a mature minded male is knowing how to avoid those women who aren’t on the same page. It’s time to stop pointing the finger and open your mind to the possibility that you’re still alone or struggling in your relationship because you don’t know yourself enough to fix what’s broken.

Stop Overthinking Him

You’re not crazy, you’re not dramatic, you have a “gut feeling,” and you know something about this new guy doesn’t feel right, so the first moment he does something you don’t like, you fall back. Earth to Basica—your gut instincts are so poorly calibrated from years of hyper-paranoia that you’re ruining a good thing!

He doesn’t text you back as fast as he did before your last date—I’m going to block him! He’s having a busy week and doesn’t know if he can still see you as planned—This is why I don’t open my heart to boys! He liked a girl’s picture on IG, and you think she’s prettier than you are—See, all I attract are fuckboys! Calm your ass down and stop being so extra. All this big talk women do about working on self and having a positive mindset, yet the moment they start dating, all that work goes out the window, and they are back to having anxiety and anger issues.

Why are you so weak mentally? Why are you so ready to scream fire before you even smell smoke?

A man who is up to no good will show you, via real actions, that he’s up to no good. This website is filled with examples of how to figure out the real from the fake. What you’re doing isn’t vetting, it’s taking something small like a missed call, a weird text response, or something he did on social media and using it as an excuse to raise your guard back up and move on to the next man… only to do the same exact thing. You’re a coward who wants to swim in the ocean but sees something floating and runs back to the safety of the shore. You must stop living your life in neutral.

Everything in this world is a mental projection; your thoughts manifest your experiences, both positive and negative. The more you tell yourself, “he’s going to hurt me, men are all the same, why bother,” the more you attract situations that mirror those negative thoughts!

I have a friend who cut a guy off because he canceled their date so he could attend his friend’s birthday party. His story was that he forgot about the party when planning their date. Her reaction was “well fuck you then.” I know the real reason behind it was because she didn’t really want to be dating, she was still into another guy who didn’t want a relationship. This is the work you must do. Understand where this “quick to cut him off” attitude is really coming from. Is it because you aren’t into him anyway, is it that you’re too into him, or is it some other trauma you aren’t dealing with? To keep pushing men away because they don’t react the way you want is idiotic. Everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt at least once.

If you tell him you want to see a movie and he texts back, “It’s whatever,” don’t take that to mean he doesn’t care and shut down, have a conversation about where he’s coming from. If he says something came up, don’t take that to mean he’s off seeing another girl or would rather spend time with friends. If he’s not posting you or talking about you on social media, don’t take it to mean he’s hiding something. Get to know how a person moves before you rush to judgment.

You’re punishing a man based on a paragraph, not the entire page. If he flakes on you more than once, that’s proof that he’s full of shit. If he acts like going on dates is annoying to him more than once, that’s proof that he’s lazy. If he’s consistently doing anything that raises your yellow or red flag, then that’s proof that you should cut him off. When you act passive, block him, or start an argument based off ONE thing or come at his neck over something immature or basic like social media or who should text who first, you tell that man you’re far from the Game Changer he needs; you’re just a hurt little girl who still needs to work on her insecurities.

Trying To Turn A Boy Into A King

Women date down more than men. The average guy will put his dick in just about anything because their standards aren’t as high as they pretend when barbershop bragging. Women start with high standards in their heads from the time they’re in middle school. Height, money, overall looks, education, humor… a full sheet of qualifications. Reality hits, and more often than not, what she pictured herself with when she was a senior in high school isn’t what she ends up with by the time she’s 30.

My friend in Atlanta once told me, “I’m fucking so many chicks who would have never gave me ass in school.” His story is normal for many of you who are now in what I call “The Settling Stage.” What’s the most important thing to look for when choosing a life partner—ambition, success, finances. During the settling stage, some of you enter relationships with men who aren’t your type, then try to circle back and fix them into the kind of man you can brag about. You can’t make a 5 “9 man into 6 “3 but you can try to take a 40k a year man into a 100k a year man, or so you think…

Let’s say you dated a guy who didn’t make much money but had ambition and a potential to do more because you had those deep talks in his car before he tried to finger you. Fast forward a year he’s your boyfriend, and you live together. He still makes the same money, he still talks about the same ideas, but he hasn’t really made a move. You’re not a gold digger, you’re not shallow, you’re not looking to take from him, you just want a partner who can boss up and succeed. From there you set out to make him over like you’re Cher from Clueless. You push him to take a job you think he should have or go to his boss with an ultimatum like you would if in his position.

You get on him about sleeping in too late and not working on his side hustle or business plan. You comment on the things he buys, the number of times he eats out, or the money he splurges on his hobbies. You’re coming from a good place. You’re trying to be the Michelle to his Barack… but you forget one thing—this motherfucker ain’t Obama, he’s not even Ted Cruz. Your boyfriend has no hustle, no real ambition, and no matter what big shit he talks, he’s content with his mediocre existence. Argument after argument you get on him, and he comes after you, and then you make up, only to do this dance again the next time you realize you’re with a below average man.

Women invest in the potential of a man to a fault. This willingness to support him until he gets on his feet is a weakness most of you don’t deal with because you don’t see anything wrong with it until you find yourself feeling used and unappreciated. You agree to be the girlfriend of a man who has big dreams and even bigger debt. You make the excuse that your dating pool is filled with Struggle Dick and declare what’s yours is his because that’s what love is. His lack of ambition weighs on you over time, and in the end you realize that there was nothing you can do to fix his life, that there is no such things as King Building.

“I just want a good man who loves me,” okay, Basica, but you can’t BUY LOVE or mother a man into becoming a winner. Stop being so guilt-ridden that you take on these fix-a-dick projects. If you want a man who makes a certain amount, get that. If you want a man who has his life goals in order, get that. Believe in your ability to attract bigger and better.

Neglect

Good relationships don’t just happen, they take time and patience. No matter how much they want to be with you, and you want to be with them, there comes a time when you get used to a person and take them for granted. Love isn’t daily butterflies, once you’re deep into a relationship love becomes that silent engine that needs constant tune-ups. No one says this, there isn’t a check engine light for relationships, and over time effort and attention begins to fade. There’s no greater realization that it’s no longer working or worth working on than that lonely feeling of being neglected.

A lot of you are in the deep dating stage or are in relationships where you make the crucial mistake of neglecting your men. Men court women, many pamper, spoil, and shower attention especially in the early stage. As women, you can lose track that love, and affection is a two-way street. You tell him “I love you” and give him pussy when he goes for it, so you think he’s satisfied, but let’s not forget that men are still little boys at heart, they CRAVE love and attention. You’re on your phone and he’s on your phone more often then you’re in each other’s face have discussions. You’re binge watching TV, he’s playing video games. Why are you even together if you don’t actually spend time together?

You tell your timeline things quicker than you tell your man because you want social media attention. You tell your girlfriends your problem quicker than you tell your man because you know he’s going to see the situation differently than those who kiss your ass. No one teaches you how to be a good girlfriend during the “boring” times you have to learn on the job. Put the phone down, shut the laptop, take a day off work, and show him some attention, and stop thinking romance is a one way street.

How often are you having sex? Sex in relationships is a huge source of frustration that no one talks about. You go from all the lust and marathon sessions of the honeymoon stage to barely having sex or having the same kind of sex every time out. EVERY male that emails me brings up the lack of sex with his girlfriend or wife as a reason that he’s having doubts. One of my good friends told me how, for the first time in his life, he has a girlfriend who complements his sex game, who goes for sex without him trying, and who texts him freaky things first. Juxtapose that with his last girlfriend, who he had to initiate sex with, who called him “nasty” anytime he tried to sext, and who was as quiet as a mouse pissing on cotton in the bedroom.

He loved her, but the sex, even though it was consistent, didn’t make him feel appreciated. My advice to men is to light a fire, be more romantic, try something different in the bedroom, and I shit you not—most of them write back saying they have, but it doesn’t make the women switch it up going forward. She just goes back to being boring.

Maybe it’s your boyfriend, he’s not as attractive as he once was, maybe you have kids now, or maybe other relationship issues make you not want to give him the kind of nasty sex you used to have. Regardless, this is something you must be on top of and communicate sooner than later because a man who isn’t satisfied isn’t waiting for your reasoning, he’s going to be waiting for someone who can scratch his itch in ways you don’t.

The other form of neglect is spending time. You’re both boring, you both work, you get out when you can and eat in front of each other—wooo so fun. I push for men to be creative on dates, but the same applies to women. He’s your man, you can plan a bomb date, you can buy tickets to something fun, you can get off your phone and just talk, you can come up with a couple’s hobby.

To sit around and let your relationship crumble because you feel that a man should do all the work is a quick way to find yourself single, cheated on, or in an unhealthy relationship where you both secretly hate each other but pretend it’s all good. If your boyfriend or husband is acting differently it isn’t always because he’s out there looking for new pussy or trying to do something sneaky, it could be the realization that he’s in a thankless relationship. Men don’t stay in uncomfortable situations long, he will find a way out before he even talks about what’s bothering him. Stop ignoring and ask yourself how much energy you’re putting into your relationship.

Limited Value

You’re in the dating stage and you’re treating him like a boyfriend. You’re in the early parts of a relationship and you’re assuming everything he does is in response to you. Where’s your chill? Women have a nasty habit of moving too fast emotionally before anything’s been established. He’s telling you good morning every night. He’s fucking you like he’s trying to make his dick touch your spine. He’s inviting over to his place, telling friendsabout you, and the list goes on.

“GL, he’s treating me like I’m a Game Changer that means I am one.” Nah, he’s treating you like a man treats any woman he’s infatuated with during that first 1-3 months honeymoon phase. You’re not stupid, you’re just delusional.

Your place in a man’s life is as “girlfriend potential” or “just pussy” but you assume you’re “wifey” because you are overselling the role you play in his life. Pump your breaks. Take it slow. Stop dishing out pussy so fast. Stop assuming that you’re on his mind 24-7. Stop worrying about what happens next. Get to know him, earn a place in his world as he should earn one in yours, and grow into that role organically.

There are so many strong women who lay back and make men prove themselves through actions, and here you are crying and overthinking every thing he does because you’re desperate for love. Stop making the rest of the culture look bad by trying to force yourself on a guy who sees you as “just okay”.

One of One

Things Dick Whipped Women Don’t Want To Hear: Just let him go, you’ll find someone better. You know he’s just going to mess up again. He’s not even worth all of this stress.

Many of you are currently trying to hit reset with someone who keeps fucking you over. This is is the result of feeling that there is no other man that can compare to him. He looks good, has an amazing dick game, has things going for himself career wise, and in your city that’s hard to come by. He’s a One of One, so regardless of what’s causing the rift or drama in your relationship you hold on because the dating pool outside of him is trash. Guess what? He’s trash too! I’ve gotten so many “how do I win him back emails” where the man’s faults are so blatant, yet because that woman is convinced no other man in the city compares she plays herself time and time again. I don’t give a fuck what city you live in, how much money he has, or if his dick is dipped in Infinity Gems, the moment you show a man that’s he’s irreplaceable he will treat you like a groupie.

I know a famous athlete who ran through so many of these IG girls people gush over. None of those women were ever more than good time girls. Then he ended up settling with a school teacher who he randomly met. He told me, “I’ve never met a woman who made me chase her like she made me chase her.” The difference between being a Spartan and being a Typical ass Basica is that Spartans always challenge men like they’re replaceable, they aren’t trying to hold on or grading him on a curve.

You all don’t stand up to these men, because you need them way more then you think they need you. Sure, you curse him out when he hurts you or get in your feelings when he ignores you, but that’s teenager shit. How do you challenge him on a daily basis? What are you showing him that separates you from the pack? The moment you meet a man, no matter who he is, treat him like he’s as normal as the rest of them. Talk to him like he’s a guy at work, make him fit into your schedule, and if he does try to play games or becomes inconsistent check him like a grown ass woman. Men love powerful females. So stop worrying about “but what if I lose him” and Spartan the fuck up!

You Don’t Think You Deserve To Win

What happens when they find out about your past, your family, your relationships, the down years, the anxiety, the depression, and all the messy parts that you try hard to cover up during those first few months of dating? Will they run, will they play along just to be nice, will they treat you the way you’ve always been treatedl? The ultimate dating mistake is underselling who you are and what you can attract. The ultimate relationship mistake is believing that despite being showed love, you hold on to this idea that it’s too good to be true and self-sabotage.

Do you know what a healthy relationship feels like? No, but you know the struggle to the point where you enjoy it. People argue people disappoint, people leave, and you try to hold it together as they pop in and out of your life. That’s not the life you deserve nor is it the way things have to be. I get it, you don’t want to try, you don’t want to put yourself out there. You take what comes your way and try to be the best “friend” you can be to a man hoping he wants more.  Sometimes he just fucks you and ghosts, other times he hangs around and toys with your emotions. Neither is ideal, but at it’s better than feeling lonely and unwanted.

Every so often you may meet a man who is everything you hoped for, genuine, transparent, and a positive force. The problem with those men is that they don’t need you like the users needed you. They don’t ask for favors, they don’t run hot and cold, they’re chill as fuck, and that makes you even more nervous because you can’t figure out their agenda. You won’t admit this, but you like the arguments, you like breaking up to make up, you like the stalking, you like coming to their rescue, and you love forgiving men for treating you like shit because that’s what you know love to be—a series of lows and highs.

A man with no drama is too soft, too boring, too happy… and you’ve learned that happiness doesn’t last when it comes to you. Push him away, show him how crazy you are, how broken you’ve become, and save him from wasting his time so you don’t get swept up in some fairy tale that will only break your heart. You keep choosing the same types because they’re comfort food for your ratchet soul. You want the drama and the tears, you need the struggle and inconsistency, you’re numb to healthy emotions, and addicted to the painful chase of male validation.

Happiness begins with you. If you can’t love yourself enough to want the best out of life, then how can anyone else hope to fill that void? Maybe you don’t know where to start. Your mother let your father get away with murder, or maybe she’s still chasing after men to this day, and that’s the only blueprint you have in terms of a female role model. Your mom didn’t teach you there was more to life than male attention, but I’m telling you right now, you are more than an object! Look beyond the frustration, push past the negative thoughts and get to know who you Truly are. You have a Spartan Force inside you that will always guide you back to where you need to be if you dare to embrace it. Men aren’t the prize, you don’t have to strive to be likable, or put up with what’s given to you.

When you constantly put others first, all you teach them is that you come last. This is your world! The bar doesn’t exist until you set it. The past only weighs you down if you allow it. The fear that holds you back is make-believe. Be selfish, be greedy, be free, and know that all it takes to change your results is to change your mindset.

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Far From BasYc by G.L. Lambert

Last month, I did two Zoom sessions with a girl whose Hinge profile was in shambles and whose social media was being used to stalk Kiara Sky deals instead of making a connection with quality men. She spent twenty minutes making excuses until I finally told her she was lying to me and lying to herself about why she was still single. Either your phone’s dry or it’s filled with bums, which means you don’t know how to get chosen, and you don’t know how to choose.

There was no sugarcoating with me. I’m not your therapist here to hold space and protect your feelings.  Don’t cry about “there’s no one out here” when you’re not making it easy for people to meet you. A fear of rejection manifests MORE rejection. "My city's boring, men are cheap, everyone knows everyone..." Are you done, Basica? It's time to stop complaining and start conquering!

Girl X: Good morning, G.L. Here’s the top four men on my roster, which include (insert athlete, musician, and two business owners)

Girl Z: Men today don’t date. They just keep it on the app or just want to text you to death.

Girl X isn’t magical; she moved with confidence and strategy while Girl Z was mentally defeated!

When I see positive results with my own eyes, I can’t have sympathy for single women who think simply having a dating profile or posting a selfie on IG should be enough to get taken to Nobu. Men are easy to seduce and simple to hypnotize, but how can you use anything I wrote in Ho Tactics or Date Like a Spartan if you’re not going hard and shying away from your power?

A lot of you are on these apps and don’t know how to come across as interesting. You don’t know how to lead with the right pictures. And even when you do message these men, you don’t know how to engage in a way that will make guys thirsty enough to set up a creative date.

The name of the game is to build a roster, not have a pen pal.

If someone can text you all day, then they can use those same fingers to put in a dinner reservation. Attention through a screen is lazy and cheap, so why are they still giving responses instead of blocking them? You’re a fucking Queen, not the homie! The energy should be “spoil me,” not “meme me.”  

Are you so bored and unwanted that you don’t recognize the “keep her on the phone” hustle? A man will bond with you using low-effort attention, and then finally ask to see you when he feels he’s done enough work that you’ll be an easy fuck. Beloved, you’ve been “talking” for two months, and the first date you go on will be over to his house to fuck him. That’s not a coincidence; that’s the tactics that modern men use.

Your “friend” knows you don’t have any options. You don’t go anywhere you can run into new men, you’re too shy to shoot your shot at the guys you like, and your dating profile is mediocre at best, which is why you only match with weirdos. This tells your friend that he doesn’t have to work hard to make you fall for him; he just has to stick around long enough for you to catch feelings.  A man doesn’t play with a trophy, but he plays with you because he’s labeled you as low-hanging fruit.

Waiting for someone to fall in your lap is childish and proves that you’re a passive character in your own story. You should know how to turn heads when you go outside, even if it’s only to CVS, and you should know how to come off as a fucking trophy, no matter if it’s messages on the screen or words in person!

It's time to stop coming off as awkward, weird, and flaky, and understand what men are looking for and how to showcase traits that instantly win them over! You should know how to use dating apps to get real dates, not spend weeks chatting back and forth about a bunch of bullshit.  If you don’t know how to do these things, then this is a must-listen show.

On today’s episode, I’m going to break down the top things I did last month to transform that girl’s pathic Hinge app into a winner and how she went from having zero dates to having multiple dates in just a few weeks.

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Far From BasYc by G.L. Lambert

No one is a mind reader. No one understands how you need to be touched, cared for, or how to handle your personality quirks automatically. Yet here you are expecting someone to walk into your life and say the right things, do the right things, and give you that “happily ever after”.  That’s total bullshit.

I shouldn’t have to tell a man how to treat me— he should just know.

I shouldn’t have to ask a man for anything— he just gives.

I shouldn’t have to explain why I’m upset— it should be obvious.

Do you know who says shit like this? Teenagers, cowards, and Basicas who are afraid to express their needs for fear of rejection. You want someone to magically know what you want because you hate asking and you can't handle being told "no". It's time to stop living in fear and blaming it on bullshit.

"I'm an INFJ personality. I struggle with anxious attachment. My Cancer Rising/Aries Moon causes me to be avoidant." All that noise just to justify why you don't go for what you want in life. Stop diagnosing yourself with TikTok buzzwords and recognize that labels don't have power unless you give in to them. Who's in control of your mind? Who's the center of this fucking universe? YOU ARE. Everything you want in this world you can have, but you must have the heart to ask for it!

Closed mouths don't get Chanel! Weak bitches get played. Anxious minds manifest NOTHING.

“I shouldn’t have to train someone how to love me.” Tell me you’re on the spectrum without telling me you’re on the spectrum, Basica. Assuming that every person who dates you knows how to make you happy is why you all start off strong, only to argue and break up after a month. First dates are easy, it's superficial getting to know you bullshit, but the deeper you go, the more specific things need to become.

No woman is low maintenance. Each one of you reading this requires consistent effort that PROVES a man sees you, respects you, and cherishes you. Stop running from this fact just so you can get along with some dusty ass man, and start standing on business! Your heart requires work. If you don't believe you're special enough to get the type of men you like to put in that work, then you've already lost the war.

The first step in manifesting better relationships is understanding that you have to be a proactive Main Character in the story you call your life. This means getting out of your head and being vulnerable enough to open up about your core needs. You went on a few dates and text each other flirty shit... that's not deep, beloved. You're still strangers, so how is he supposed to know who you are and how to move in order to pour the proper love into you?

If a man’s ex was a homebody who didn’t want anything but quality time while sitting on the couch, how does he know that you require more if you don’t say these things during the dating stage?

EXAMPLE ON HOW TO MANIFEST REAL RESULTS: Last week, I gave this woman advice on how to deal with this guy she had been dating for nearly two months. I told her to test him out with a few simple demands that I scripted out for her (that script is below). This woman did exactly what I told her to do. Yesterday, she sent me a picture of a watch he purchased from Tiffany and updated me that he got tickets to the Hollywood Bowl. 

This woman wanted two things: She liked getting surprise gifts, and she loved music. Yet she never opened her mouth and told this man these things; she was waiting for him to just do it… Again, how the FUCK does he know what you like if you don’t open your mouth? I finally forced her to open her mouth, and SURPRISE SURPRISE, he did what she wanted. That’s not training a man; that’s called communicating your needs.

Every single one of you reading this should be doing that with the men you date, the men you’re in a relationship with, even the men you’re married to… but you don’t, instead you wait for the fairytale scenario of Mr. Mindreader. “G.L., I met a man who just speaks my language without me having to say a word,” and that’s because that man either was in a long relationship recently with a woman who was your exact same type, or he’s STILL in a relationship. ...oops, your "perfect mind reading man" knows what to do because he has other bitches on his roster who already taught him. Still feel special?

My homegirl always says, “you can’t find a better boyfriend than another woman’s husband,” and she’s right because married men are experts in reading a woman’s mind and anticipating their needs. But in the non-side chick world, you will always need to stop being shy, break that introverted shell, and be transparent about what you want from a relationship. No more waiting for him to figure it out. You're too old to be getting dinner, dick, and excuses as to why you're back on a dating app. Settle for more!

Most relationships never go beyond the lust stage because lust is easy, while love is effort. Don't think you're crazy for wanting someone to show up and show out for you. Don't let a lazy muthafucka convince you that the bare minimum should be enough. Real energy isn't telling you that they care, it's showing you. Value is everything. A person being obsessed with who you are, not what you can do for them, has to be the bar, or you’ll keep settling for fling after fling or end up stuck with a man who will always put his needs above yours.

The formula isn’t to go with HIS flow. It’s to stand up and let it be known what you need from the jump, so there’s never any confusion that you have needs that must be met if he's to win your heart. This is Sparta. There is no room for hints, beating around the bush, or any little girl games born out of a fear of being rejected. Know what you want, say what you want, and get it every time out. That’s what I’m about to break down…

HOW TO BE LOVED IN THE WAY YOU NEED

Words of Affirmation: You like to be uplifted. You want to be told how someone feels about you, that you’re doing a good job, and you need constant reassurance verbally.

Does that make you weak and needy? No. Then why the fuck don’t you explain this to the people you’re dating? You don’t need to come out and say “My love language is” like you’re some idiot lounging near a Love Island fire pit. What you need to do is wait for this to come up in real life organically, then double down on that want.

Every conversation is an opportunity to train a man how to love you and separate yourself from his exes. For example, if you're on a date and someone compliments you, praises you, or tells you how they appreciate something you did for them. Don't giggle. Don't blush. Don't shy away. Pause! Thank them for that and let them in on your secret.

“It’s the small things, like you recognizing me, that make me feel seen. The more you can tell me I’m valued, the further that goes in showing me that you understand who I am as a person.” It’s that simple. You don’t need to tell someone daily; doing this once or twice will be enough for them to pick up on the hint that words matter to you.

Here's the secret thing about men: we are slaves to appreciation. In sports, we love it when the coach gives us a pat on the back. As kids, we liked it when the teacher singled us out as doing a good job. Aiming to please is how men get rewarded. To tell him what you like to hear is the first step. Next, you let him show you that he understands by doing it without being prompted. The final step is to then reward him for doing so with a thank you, kiss, praise, etc... which will positively reinforce how to treat you going forward.

This is the easiest three-step psychology trick on the planet, but you're not doing it. Start, and I promise you it'll solve 90% of your miscommunication problems overnight.

Receiving Gifts: You like tokens of love. It’s not material, these things are symbols that a person appreciates you. Never feel like you’re shallow or will be perceived as begging.

Every week, I help women receive the gifts they want, rather than simply sitting around and waiting to be spoiled. Just this year, I've seen two women get cars, one get her own bank account that a man fills up monthly, and last month, this woman got all of her loans paid off as a graduation gift. The reason why these women were able to listen to me and then go back and get what they wanted was...

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Far From BasYc by G.L. Lambert

On today's show, we're talking to a very special guest, the ICONIC Samantha Brooke (IG: MommyBaggYo GO here to connect), and how she went from struggling at a day job to discovering the power to manifest her current dream life.

If something is happening to you, it's happening FOR you!"

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Get ready to take notes on how to change your reality. This is the story of a real-life Alchemist who breaks down her blueprint for making the shift to financial abundance, peeling back the layers to heal past trauma, and how every woman can properly set power dynamics with men and become a magnet, not a Pick-Me.

Actionable steps, no-nonsense accountability, and the weapons to win the mental battle inside and romantic battles outside. Get ready for the most intriguing conversation of the season!

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Far From BasYc by G.L. Lambert

There are no life hacks… There are no cheat codes… But there are secrets that people keep to themselves in order to win at life. You work harder— other people work smarter. “How did they do that… how did they end up with that person?” There is no luck, no coincidence, they manifest real results because they understand how this world actually works.

A Life of Pick Me Hope = you date hoping a man picks you because you’re thirsty to be seen as special, and a male’s love validates that you’re not ugly, boring, or basic.

A Life of Spartan Queen Power = you date using psychology, understand the secrets of men, and the triggers that automatically signal that you’re not a Pick Me but a Must Have.

90% of you reading this don’t know how to date in power, you’re just hoping the next guy you fuck actually wants you for real this time and didn’t just want a turn like the rest of them. Why are you such a hopeless romantic? Where does this lack of self-esteem come from?

You're a perfectionist who keeps falling for imperfect people because, secretly, you don't think you deserve the best. This lie that you're not good enough is manifesting a life you don't want to live, and it's time to start affirming the truth: You are worthy of so much more.

Your nervous system is overloaded with all these conflicting rules on how to date and who to date, but you're forgetting the most important part: another person can't make you happy. The survival mode desperation of "someone please love me" is distracting you from what you lack the most: self-love. Don't fix your lips to say that you love yourself when your actions reveal the opposite. Every insecure person wears a mask. It's time to take yours off. You haven't been the woman you could be. That doesn't mean you can't become her now.

Imprinting On A Man >>> Impressing A Man

My job is to help you understand that it's better to value consistency over perfection. The only way to become a true Spartan is to work on YOURSELF daily. Why do you make the basic mistakes when it comes to men? Because you're moving too fast and not utilizing a man's mind against him. Today I'm going to break down a few of the biggest unsaid secrets when it comes to men and dating and transform you from a woman who tries hard to a woman who doesn’t even have to put in much effort to get what she wants.

Do you know what it means to imprint yourself on a man? The secret that women have known for centuries is that you don’t have to make a man like you; it’s about doing certain things that both bother him and blow him away. It’s damn near witchcraft, which is why certain men fear women with this power. Those women who can imprint themselves on a man, are typically those who can break his heart, and a man would rather play in the face of a weak bitch who is powerless than get hurt... and trust me every man has cried over a woman because certain women are that damn powerful. You need to be THAT kind of woman.

Despite being raised in the women's empowerment era, you’re not empowered AT ALL. You still see men as the prize, and the proof is in all things you do to appease men that don’t even belong to you: Buying him things. Fucking him raw. Never saying “no” because you’re so terrified of him not liking you anymore. You’re not empowered and every "men ain't shit" statement you make is CAP, because in real life you constantly do things to prove that you’re a slave to dick and thirsty for male love.

Half of you can’t even get to a second date, while the other half can’t get a commitment despite giving up all these girlfriend benefits.  What’s the disconnect? You stay in the dating stage for way too long. Text way too much. Get fucked. Fall in love. Obsess over that man, but you still don’t know the formula to make him look at you as something to keep versus something to keep him occupied.

Ladies, there’s nothing wrong with you! But there is something wrong with how you operate! I’m trying to drill in your head that the secret to getting what you want from these men is to do the opposite of what you’ve been doing. Stop going with his flow and make him follow your wave.

-He doesn't want to go out on dates or do anything you want to do.

-He doesn't want a relationship and is good as is.

-He wants to pick you up and put you down when he feels like it.

If another woman was being disrespected like this, you would call her a dumb bitch. But when you get disrespected like this, you make excuses for that man. That's what I mean by going with the flow. As men, we don't like women who tap dance for our approval; we like the power you're giving us, but we don't respect women who let us do what we want when we want nor will we ever fall in love with weak energy. You're the type of girl other men didn't want, and we can smell that, no competitive male wants a reject woman.

Have you ever talked to a woman who cursed a man out? That man she cursed out doesn't block her; he comes running back for more because men like to be challenged. The way you challenge a man femininely is to keep your bar high in terms of what you want and don't budge until you get it. No matter how handsome, how wealthy, or how charismatic he is, realize that you tower over them. Knowing that you are the trophy is the core of my Spartan teaching. Stop running away from these lessons and freestyling. Did you not read Chapter 10 of Solving Single??? Listen to it again and get it RIGHT this time. Again, it's not you as a woman, it's your inability to stop thinking with your weak bitch past mindset, and start operating like a Spartan!

Men Think You’re Stupid… stop proving them right

The biggest hustle a man uses is to treat you like a girlfriend but never make it official. “I’m not ready. It’s not you, it’s me,” these are things a man tells his placeholder so he doesn’t feel guilty when he cuts you off in favor of someone new.  A Placeholder is a woman whom a man sees short time value in. She’s cool enough to date, sleep with, and even love… FOR NOW. But a Placeholder isn’t the kind of woman he sees himself with forever.

A man openly tells you that he doesn’t want anything serious. You pretend not to want anything serious too— then he tells you how different you are, how much he likes spending time with you, and a bunch of hollow bullshit that makes you start to fall in love... Nothing has changed; despite what he says, he still doesn’t take you seriously. His words and actions are confusing your brain because you think it’s love, when in fact you’re STILL a bench warmer, not someone I want on my team for real.

He didn’t hold you hostage. He never promised you anything. He just let you assume that the relationship was going somewhere. As an adult, you chose to follow along, so when he ghosts, he will not lose a bit of sleep. There is no “bad karma” for a man because in his mind, you chase him, he didn't force you to waste your time... and he's right.

So why would that same man keep you as a placeholder, then turn around and make the next woman his official girlfriend within weeks? It wasn’t something you did. It wasn’t an argument. It wasn’t his fucking horoscope. That man knew after the first few dates with you what box he was going to put you in. No matter what he said, how much he chased you, or how vulnerable he was, every man labels a woman early on based on how she comes off. As a woman, you will never escape that Placeholder label unless you know the secret of what a man looks for in a wifey type and how to clearly imprint his brain.

What’s the secret between a girlfriend vibe and a wife vibe?

Can you make a man go from being “unsure” about you to being “sure” about you? Of course you can. Just as a Basketball coach can be ready to cut a player only to make him their starter, all it takes is a few good games to go from being on the outs to being the star of that team.

It’s time to discover the secret to this kind of effortless power. I’m not talking pussy, I’m not talking being submissive, I’m talking the real character traits that makes a man step back and realize that YOU ARE THE ONE. On today’s episode, we’re going to break down the 3 Steps to become the ultimate wife type quickly.

Plus, I answer your questions on how to date multiple men and not get a reputation in your city— my thoughts on the DDG generation of men. Victim Shaming. Realistic date questions. And a lot more on this all-new episode of G.L. Lambert Explains It All…

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