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Far From BasYc by G.L. Lambert

You’re so different… There’s no one else out here for me but you… I never felt this way before…

Life Lesson You Should Have Learned As A Teenager: A man will smother you with love and affection, then suddenly take it all away as if he never fucking cared.

Why? Why? Why? Because you’re not compatible. You have this desperate need to correct something that isn't working or you feel like a failure. Men, on the other hand, have no problem breaking up, ghosting, or finding a new woman to take YOUR spot the moment they feel they can do better.

“She doesn’t listen. She doesn’t get me. She always has something to say. I can’t wait to find a woman who can get me and NEVER switch up,” says every single man who has ever suffered through a woman with basic bitch traits. There is no loyalty to STICK IT OUT, because males are selfish. Guess what? You should be selfish to! But you'd rather set your self on fire to keep a man who doesn't want you warm.

"But, G.L. what we had was real and real love doesn't just give up," Silly Basica, second chances are for romantic comedies and you're not Carrie, you're not even a fucking Charlotte. You're stuck on a happy ending that isn't meant to be because you don't understand the power of "move the fuck on."

Once a man has made his mind up, he’s not coming back. Sure... bro may come back physically to fuck you a few more times, or he may come back out of boredom to waste a few more months with you, but once he’s done with you emotionally, even if he STILL has love for you, he’ll never TRULY love you the way he used to when it was young and new.

“How do I fix this and make him want me like he used to…” Why are you all so fucking hard headed? The goal isn’t to fix what’s already broken. The goal is to understand how to cultivate a loving relationship that doesn’t break in the FIRST place.

Think of a relationship like a car. You got in, drove it, and never changed the oil, and now you’re wondering why the fuck it keeps breaking down. You never learned how to maintain love. You met someone and hit the gas— and thought you were going to end up with his last name. WRONG. Now here you are, single and alone or stuck in a degrading situationship because you never studied how to drive a man. Any woman can make a man fall in lust and thirst for her pussy, but pussy has never kept a man faithful and locked in. Can you deal with his moods, maintain his respect, and give him that deeper connection that will have him glued to you?

You're cool, but you're not wifey. You have 70% of what he's looking for, but not that full 30% that will make him see you as irreplaceable. You're comfortable, but you are not special. This is how these men think about you and talk about you in private. Really let that sink in... you've given up Coochie, Head, and Time to men who knew after a matter of weeks you were not enough.

I rebuild women into Spartans who recognize that they're the prize! Love isn’t hard—it truly isn’t. The key to love has always boiled down to one thing: communication. Can you communicate, or are you just another woman who doesn’t express herself, shuts down, fusses, complains, gets clingy, feels jealous, and ruins a good thing by becoming another Placeholder? Healthy communication is a given especially when your parents probably didn't have the best relationship or you're carrying trauma that hasn't been healed.

You don't have time for years and years of therapy, so how do you communicate properly so you don’t end up old and alone? A shortcut for this kind of communication is to label complex emotions into Five simple “Love Languages.” that help you easily get on the same page with the person you're dating or in a relationship with.

The Five Love Languages... Are they real, or are they just another dating gimmick that will have you out here looking stupid on a date?

This is Sparta; we don’t deal in gimmicks. We deal in anti-bullshit, no sugar coating, straight-to-the-point tactics that actually work if you’re strong enough to do the work.

On today’s show, we’re going to break down the REAL Spartan love languages and how to create a healthy relationship that doesn’t need fixing. Plus! We answer your questions on dating with kids, how to use dating apps to find a trick or sponsor, and much more! If you want your question read on our next show, email [email protected].

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Far From BasYc by G.L. Lambert

It’s tough out here for women… and men. Pick Me’s love to cry about, “I’m not a gold diggers or scammer, I’m loyal and take care of my man…” okay Basica, pipe down. Women who want money aren’t the problem, those women who put on masks when dating, are! The mask I’m talking about is about DAMAGE. Deep child hood trauma or past relationship baggage that only comes out months into dating or a relationship. Ladies, a lot of you have red flags that you refuse to see because you think being “nice, loyal, and employed” is all you need to bring to the table. Accountability, emotional intelligence, and a lack of anxious attachment is what will make you Spartan up and STAND OUT. Raise your hand if you’re in therapy and can directly name why you act the way you act… I’ll wait.

Attitude issues, passive aggressive, she wants you to be a mind reader, she’s treating you like the last guy who hurt her, always suspicious, constantly in need of comfort because she’s way too fucking insecure, and the list goes on… men date these kinds of damaged woman because most of the time the best pussy is toxic pussy!

Months of dealing with a woman who hasn’t worked on herself, will never work on herself, and always wants to point the finger is exhausting. No matter how good the sex, any man who deals with “Tina Trauma” will run out of patience.

Eventually the choice becomes: Walk away from a good woman who just can’t get her mental health together… or stick it out with her and hope things improve. No one can FIX another person. Change comes from within, and all you can do is support that change. Too often, that change doesn’t stick and staying with the wrong person for too long or having children with them can destroy your entire future. Understand that love isn’t enough, you need to be on the same page to grow. You can love a person but fall out of love. You can have a soul tie with a person, but they’re not the right ones for you this lifetime…

It’s hard for a man to abandon a woman he has conflicted feelings about… that’s why we usually wait until we meet a new girl who helps us make that choice. It’s why we usually wait until there’s a small argument to say how we really feel and sabotage the relationship. On the other side of the coin are men who stay loyal, who stay down, and try to make it work for too long. Why? Love + Ego = Delusion. “I can fix her, bro…” yeah okay.

toxic women see pain as love…

The point is we’re attracted to all kinds of women that we would never take home to mom, but egotistically we still think we can make it work. We can save her, teach her, show her the way… Nah, bro. Every man knows a man or is a man that’s chosen the wrong woman and it turns their heart cold. Today I’m going to break down a few examples of women to look out for so you or someone you care about won’t make the mistake of chasing these Broken Basicas.

With maturity comes the power to understand negative attraction, and the wisdom to avoid it. The problem is most men have the maturity of a High School senior and egos that keep them choosing girlfriends the same way they choose favorite porn stars. A dishonest dude will sit and tell you that a good women is worth a thousand hoes, but it’s been proven that one hoe will get deeper in his heart than a thousand good women will. So what’s really at the heart of these bad choices? What do men crave more than new pussy? Control of that pussy. Shorty doesn’t act right, so we want to make her submit and act right. It’s that simple! Bad girls, damaged girls, insecure girls they don’t play by the rules of your average “please love me” chick who submits without much effort.

There are so many of these, “Let me cook you dinner and suck your dick after a month of exchanging texts,” Relationship Girls whose only goal in life is to play wifey to a dude. There’s nothing wrong with that… but it’s boring. Bro, you know that after 2-3 months with a girl that’s super submissive and boring you start to open your heart back up to new women. Don’t feel guilty. Understand WHY you grow bored so fast…

 To run up against a woman that doesn’t give up that control easily is like putting blood in a shark tank, it’s that mouthwatering excitement that he’s been waiting for: Finally a woman that isn’t impressed! That’s the Unicorn men want, not the fake “it takes a lot to win me over” chick that talks a good game but who you smash in less than a month without ever dating. Those girls are a dime a dozen, which is why those girls will always struggle to get a man to take them serious, they’re all talk. However, the real Unicorns, or those that act atypical are the ones we men have trouble with, because they go left where other girls go right.

I’ve always known that women who can act indifferent were supremely powerful, and when I was researching Ho Tactics, all the girls I interviewed confirmed that the foundation of their power was built on that same egotistical need men have to conquer the impossible. Date a girl for weeks, drop mad money, and she falls back with no explanation—I need her! She fucked me, but didn’t want to fuck me again afterwards—I love her. I asked her to be my girlfriend and she said, “I’m cool”—I want to marry her! Show a man a mountain he can’t climb, he’ll die trying to climb it. That’s how women game men, playing on that ego. The problem for the Bros, is that they don’t recognize that they’re trying to conquer a woman who will ALWAYS want a new man. There’s nothing you can do to make her have only eyes for you. The goal is to recognize these kinds of women early so you don’t fall victim.

Let me address the ladies for a moment, most of you ladies have that one platonic male friend who has his pick of women, yet always ends up with these Ain’t Shit birds no matter how much you say, “You can do better than her.” It’s not that men are attracted to emotionally available women, it’s not about the woman at all, it’s about a man’s ego. The challenge of taming a woman that reacts to your dick game with a shrug or reacts to you spilling your heart out with a, “You done yet? Scandal about to come on,” lights a fire that only someone with a penis could understand fully. A woman that’s hard to get is Viagra for the male soul. And when I say “hard to get” I’m not talking about a girl that makes him wait three months to fuck, those 90 Day hoes are a dime a dozen, I mean emotionally hard to get.

Ladies, when you break up with a guy and you really put your foot down as if it’s over, you tend to see a completely new side of a man you thought you knew. He shows attributes that make you fall in love all over again. Why? When a man is told he can’t have something, he may bitch and moan, but the more you push away, the harder he pulls forward with a new bag of tricks to win you back. Most of you fall for those tricks, give in, and then watch as he goes back to not giving a fuck. Ex-boyfriends usually have temporary quests to win you back because it’s not YOU that they want back, it was just the high of trying to prove that he could get you back. Men want what they can’t have, and then once they get it, they look for the next challenge. To be a woman that he never truly gains control of will keep him sniffing around, keep him in his feelings, keep him tricking, and keep him obsessed because the joy of a good woman that just wants to love him makes him restless, while the idea of taming that which can’t be tamed makes him feel alive.

I know a guy who had a longtime girlfriend, I actually met him through her, and one night he got Thotnotized by this girl we met at Jillian’s. A month later I see his now ex-girlfriend and find out that homeboy had broken up with her for the Jillian Thot. Where the story gets interesting is that he never actually got the Jillian Thot to commit to him. For the next TWO years this dude chased and even proposed marriage to her. His ex-girlfriend became the “stupid nice girl” who was there to pick up the pieces every time he needed an ego stroke. Mind you this was a woman that owned a home, had a great career, but NEVER got proposed to like the Jillian Thot. Years later she finally talked to me about how she played the Bottom Bitch for dude, and I’ll never forget her words, “Y’all would rather trade a diamond for dirt, and we’re the ones left feeling guilty.” She was half right, men do feel guilt and regret, but it takes them an insane amount of time before they swallow pride and admit where they went wrong.

I have a few guys who are older than me who I give advice to, and they are sick with regret because they became obsessed with the chase. Just like there are great women that waste their prime years trying to keep the Wrong man happy, there are great men that waste their 20’s and even 30’s trying to put a saddle on women that can’t be saddled. In the end they end up settling for what they can get at 40 because it took them that long to figure out what they should have figured out at 25– you can’t turn a woman that’s happy being K. Michelle into a Michelle Obama.

Brothers of all ages, I want to talk to you today. I see too many of you hunting with your dicks and not your brains, and in the end you’re going to pay the price for trying to FIX a broken woman.The Girl Who’s Still In Love With Her Ex

So you think you can walk into a hurt girl’s life, sweep her off her feet, dick her down, and make the memory of her ex-boo fade like LeBron’s hairline—Ha! I don’t care how good looking you are, how much money you have, and what new pussy eating technique you developed, the only thing that can make a woman get over her last man is that woman. It’s not about what he does better than you or what you don’t’ do that he does, it’s about the heart wanting what the heart’s used to. As men we often create competition where there is none to be had, and there is nothing more competitive than being better than another man romantically or sexually. That lovesick girl you’re trying to court will add fuel to your egotistical fire by telling you all the ways you’re superior to her ex. C’mon son, you already know her game; she’s trying to convince herself that you’re better in order to feel good about moving on.

Miss Heartbreak is going to go out with you and compliment you on how you pick better restaurants than her last man. She’s going to inhale those good morning texts and tell you how more romantic you are than her last man. You two are going to sit up talking half the night, and shorty is going to confess how you understand her more than her last man. Before your ego breaks out in a fit of “Bobby Bitch!” Understand that her words are hollow. Hurt women have a nasty habit of faking contentment in order to deflect disappointment. I’ve had girls tell me, “I tried to make the new guy work, but it never felt the same,” more times than Bill Cosby’s slipped Ruthies in drinks. These women aren’t trying to play you against him, they’re trying to use you to take their mind off of the man that’s still in control of her heart.

Girls are told weeks after a breakup to go out and date because their insensitive ass friends don’t understand the healing process. They shave their coochie, get a new hairstyle, and go out ready to bounce back with a vengeance. They fake Spartan Up, and for one night only they aren’t shy or afraid, so they pull a guy like you: Someone that’s most likely better looking or more successful than their ex, in an attempt to say to the world, “See, I can do better!” Her ass doesn’t want to do better, she wants to go back. This entire “rebound” experiment with you is just an act. Miss Heartbreak will smile across from you at a fancy dinner wishing it was Lazy Donald, who used to make her split Chipotle because his check was short. She will close her eyes while she rides you, wishing it was Goon Greg’s dick, because even half limp it felt like home. She will spoon in the bed with you all night, and wish it was Cheating Calvin checking his Snapchat behind her back, because even though he wasn’t shit, he was the love of her life. It takes months for most women to get over love, if not years, and no matter what you do, you can’t rush that process.

Instead of trying to overcompensate for the pain he’s put her through by playing Superman, you need to do your homework. We as men are so full of lust that we forget to properly interview a woman. As you get older, you can’t go running into the pussy battlefield as if you can’t be hurt, you need to check your own emotions, and proceed with caution. It’s not about getting pussy that makes you happy for the night, it’s about connecting with a real person that can make you happy for life. I don’t care how fat her ass is sitting or how pretty that smile shines, you can’t lay it all on the line for the physical alone. A lot of younger dudes can’t tell Wifey from Pussy, and that’s okay for now, but at least be able to use the first two dates to tell if she’s fully healed or still healing.

For instance, a woman who talks more about her ex than about herself, is still healing. If you ask the chick about what she does for a living, and she says, “I’m working Customer Service for Comcast, but I had to take two weeks off because my ex kept calling my job…” Don’t call her ass No More! Any simple question that leads to a long ass story about her ex doing her wrong, her exes baby mama doing her wrong, or her exes mother doing her wrong, is not a red flag… It’s a fucking nuclear mushroom cloud—Run! The argument in your mind will be, “Oh, I’ve been through a bad breakup too, I can help her get over it.” No. You. Can’t! Only she can get over it. Sure you can assist, but true healing only happens when she is ready to move on.

All the great things you do, she appreciates… but she wishes it was her Ex doing those things you did, and if she could swap who he is with how you act, that would be the perfect life, because she isn’t in a the right space to see that you are the right man. I’m not saying give up immediately, if she seems like she’s close to being healed and the relationship was six months ago, then give it a shot, but only if she’s showing effort. However, don’t do it for your own sense of accomplishment. Pride will make it less about her, and more about you having to prove to her that you are better than the last guy, and that’s not the kind of pressure any relationship should start with. Next thing you know you’re finding text messages from a number that’s supposed to blocked, “Had a good time last night, hit me when he ain’t around.” That kind of hurt will turn you into the old you, and you can only blame yourself for pushing for someone that was never going to be right for you.

The Girl Who Has Trust Issues

I remember I told a female friend that I was going to call her back, and her response was, “Are you really going to call me back?” In my mind it was like, you’re not my girl, why would I have to lie if I didn’t want to call you back… but I was reminded how most women operate—they don’t trust shit ANY man says, no matter the relationship. Fellas, we take for granted what game has done to women in general. Their fathers have lied to them, saying they would come take them to the park, but his ass never showed up. Their male friends have lied to them, saying they would go to the movies, but canceled because real pussy popped up. The biggest hurt however has been from their boyfriends who have made huge promises that never came true.

By the time a woman reaches the age of 25, 80% of the men she’s dealt with will have lied to her in some fashion. As an honest man you can go at these Trust Issue girls and say, “I’m not like the rest,” but guess what? All those past men have said the exact same things. “I swear. I promise. Please trust me.” When a woman’s mind is made up that ALL MEN LIE, you can’t win her over by not lying. Her trust issues are deeper than your actions. Convincing her that you are different is a process of being patient enough to let her address her insecurity while also being understanding enough not to be offended when she accuses you of being dishonest. At the same time you have to know when you’ve spent enough time trying to Oliver Queen her ass, and understand when it’s time to leave her problems for the next man to deal with.

Have you ever tried to prove to a woman that she can trust you? She will give you the benefit of the doubt that ONE time, and once you come through and prove you are a man of your words, she’ll be happy… but proving yourself will never end. Wait a week, and let you have to cancel a plan or get held up somewhere, and her insecurity will roar back. Let’s say you were supposed to spend the night with her and drive to Six Flags in the morning. Your brother needed your help, so you tell Miss Trust Issues that you won’t be able to spend the night, but will pick her up in the morning. In a male’s mind, that’s you trying to be there for someone in need, yet still making sure you honor your first commitment. In a male’s mind, you did the right thing… BUT! In the mind of a woman who has been hurt before, it’s all bullshit. Lies are the norm in her world, so although you proved yourself last week, her paranoia had already kept those defenses armed like, “Wait for it, he’s just like the rest!”

An overactive mind will feed that woman toxic thoughts: He didn’t have to help his brother, he was fucking some other girl that his brother probably hooked him up with. He didn’t want to spend the night because he doesn’t like having sex with you anymore. He wants to come in the morning because he doesn’t want to spend too much time with a girl he’s only using for sex. All of these psychotic thoughts run through her mind, and there is nothing as a man you can say on the phone to make it better, because at that moment when her fear takes hold, you aren’t the guy who has been showing love, you become every man that has let her down!

By the time you get there in the morning, she doesn’t want to go anywhere. Here’s the real crazy thing, as men we know how to defuse crazy chicks, because all we do is either kiss their ass or bark back at them, then follow it up with sex. Now she’s apologizing about not trusting you, and you think it’s all good… until next week when she sees the cousin of your ex-girlfriend like your Instagram picture and then it becomes another fight.

Bro, I don’t care how good of a woman she has the potential to become, if you two are going through the argue-explain-fuck-forgive cycle every month then that relationship will never work. I don’t care how sexy Harley Quinn looks, Batman’s smart enough not to put his dick in her, because it will never end well! I talk a lot about women addressing their issues, but one big thing I always leave out is the men that condone their insecure and nutty behavior by continuing to date and fuck them as if they are normal. These women are not normal, and if you don’t have the balls to talk to her like a man that wants her to get over those past issues, then do that girl a favor and leave her waiting for someone that has the patience and know how to help her want to do better.

The Girl Who Just Wants To Fuck & Be Seen

When Jay-Z said, “Goddamn she’s fine but she parties all the time,” he put into words what a lot of men were thinking, and that line is especially relevant in today’s world where insecure women feel as if they’re one filter and ass shot away from being the next Erica Mena. I think a woman has the right to be as trashy or as classy as she wants, it’s her body so she can show it off in the manner she feels. However, what this “Look at me” attention based society has done to men is create a growing animosity towards girls who just want to have fun. Take to twitter or any of these gossip site message boards and you will see grown ass men bitter as fuck, talking about how a girl wears her weave or how much makeup she has on… when did we start being experts on foundation and edges???

Males bashing women is on the rise and it’s not about women wearing certain clothes, twerking, or doing the most online… it’s about the hurt felt by the men that want to love these types of women, but suddenly feel as if they can’t compete with internet “likes.”

If a woman’s too popular online, you have competition. Competition drives you crazy because you’re afraid you can’t give that woman the things the wealthy men or famous men can give her, and she’s going to hop off your dick and onto the next best thing. It’s not about Ho Culture, it’s about Male Insecurity. You have to learn to handle your own personal demons, not blame it on female rap or IG THOTS culture. A woman who is really for you isn’t going to turn her head like it’s Love Island. I woman for you, isn’t going to risk it all to go to Dubai and be ran through. A woman who is for you, rides for you, always. So let her do her, and allow her to prove what kind of woman she is regardless of who is coming at her with attention.

As men, we want to control things—the remote control, the car radio, the outcome of football games, we just can’t stand leaving shit out of our hands. However, as we get deeper into the 21st century, there is one thing we won’t be able to control the same way we controlled in the 20th century—women. There are women who don’t want your last name, just your dick—you mad or nah? A young homie who I was talking to made it seem like it wasn’t fair that he was trying to commit to a girl that would rather hit the clubs with her hoeish friends. I had to break it down to him like I’m going to break it down to all of you guys: The same way we as men can fall back when a girl wants too much and we just want to enjoy life, women also have the right to fall back when you try to handcuff them and all they want is fun.

Womankind isn’t this generic box of emotionally sensitive, baby wanting, wedding planning, softies who wait around for a man to choose them. We are living in the age of the Spartan where these women will use you as a placeholder until she’s ready for premium dick. There are also women who for the first time feel pretty because of Instagram and they are no longer willing to settle for the best available man, they want to experience life dating multiple men.

This isn’t the year 1814, females can choose to just have sex, to just date, or to never get married at all! If she sees you as money, bro you’re money. If she sees you as sperm, bro you’re sperm. If she sees you as winter throwaway dick, you’re gone come April! If that makes you feel small or marginalized, then do what I tell these love sick women to do, move the fuck on. Again it’s male ego that makes you want to force the issue until you get what you want, hoping your effort breaks her down until she sees that you are the right man. Fucdatbitch! Don’t slut shame, don’t throw a fit, don’t take it out on the next woman, move the fuck on and find a woman that’s on the same page mentally!

The Girl That Turns Your Heart Cold

One of my homegirls was amazed that men actually go through so much internal drama with these Ms. Wrongs, because in her experience ex-boyfriends and associates never said anything about the past that pointed to real hurt. No shit! We as men can never be made to look weak, dumb, or foolish, so to the rest of the world, it’s “I Fuck hoes and get money.” That’s a mask, because nearly every man walking this earth has chased a whale that couldn’t be caught, attempted to climb a mountain that sent him crashing to the bottom, or to put it in ratchet terms, fucked with a bitch that wouldn’t reciprocate. It’s a normal part of life for a man, but males don’t want to talk about feelings.

You don’t have to open up to the outside world, but you must be honest with yourself. If you couldn’t get a girl to get over her last man and be the woman you wanted—that doesn’t mean you’re less of a man. If you’re in love with a woman that can’t let go of her issues enough to trust you based on your actions—that doesn’t mean you keep torturing yourself to make it work. You’re not a simp if you fall in love with a Hoe or you miss the signs that a girl has Daddy Issues, but you become a simp if you allow a woman to drop lemons in your arms daily and you keep making lemonade for the bitch. She’s not the one for you, she’s just the one you want for you—difference. It’s not about settling for lesser looking women, get what you want physically, but spend just as much time obsessing over her character.

Some bitter women love to suck their teeth with a “Men need to stop choosing hoes, it’s that simple,” but no man actually chooses a hoe consciously, they choose girls who are different from the typical moist coochie, yet dry conversation having Bae Chasers, and there is nothing wrong with going for these explosive personalities that blow you away, IF you’re smart about it. I’m not one of these clowns that will pander to women by telling his fellow man to go settle down with a “good and safe” woman that can raise a family and bake chicken, fuck that June Cleaver shit. “Good” is subjective and “Safe” is defeating.

I understand that an exciting woman can make time stand still and feels better emotionally than any boring yet sweet woman, but choose your roller-coaster wisely. She was special, she was beautiful, she felt like a once in a lifetime catch, but her positives will never outweigh her negatives. Men suffer in silence, but we still suffer. Know when to let go, not just physically, but emotionally. Don’t become a reflection of the person that breaks your heart, become a reflection of the lessons you learned from that person. You don’t suddenly discover Ms. Right at a certain age, you develop the ability to see who is truly Ms. Right by surviving all the Ms. Wrongs life throws at you.

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Far From BasYc by G.L. Lambert

Simp Boys let you walk all over them…

Secure Males challenge you…

Sassy Men compete with you…

On Today’s podcast episode, we’re going to break down several relationship topics, but one in particular is the rise of the “Sassy Man,” those heterosexual guys who bring feminine energy into a relationship instead of being confident, protective, and masculine.

A woman recently told me that she was on vacation with her boyfriend in Mexico, and she saw a side of him that was hidden for the first four months since they’ve been together:

While walking along a boardwalk area, her boyfriend walked in front of her. When a vendor flirted with her, then grabbed her arm, she loudly said, “I’m with him—” The Boyfriend was several feet in front of her by this point. He looked back, stopped, and waited like she was annoying him, never walking back to grab her or see what was going on.

The Girlfriend walked to her boyfriend and told him exactly what had happened. This dude sucked his teeth and said, “It’s Mexico! You’re the one being dumb for not keeping up with me. I told you we should have stayed inside the resort.”

Think about that. Do you want a man who sucks his teeth, blames you for enticing other men, and makes you feel like he doesn’t have your back if shit goes down?

Most of you are shaking your head. This isn’t something you want or would put up with no matter what… because that’s an extreme case of Sassiness. But let’s be real. Most of you reading this constantly deal with sassy men and turn the other cheek because it’s a slow build of little comments and small passive-aggressive actions that you don’t see as red flags at first.

He’s cute, so you don’t mind if he’s a little sassy. He’s spending money, so you don’t mind if he throws sassy fits. He brings more to the table than your last boyfriend, so you allow him to get away with body shaming you, talking shit about your makeup, and telling you what you should or shouldn’t wear… You allow these soft-ass men to slowly win you over, and the moment they get comfortable, you get the real him, the diva, the narcissist, the control freak who you now don’t know how to handle nor have the strength to break up with.

“Why do I always pick the wrong men…” This isn’t on you, beloved! Part of being “Sassified” is the ability to gaslight you into thinking that he’s not being sassy— you’re just being difficult. He’s not emotional, you’re the one pushing his buttons. He’s not hot and cold, you’re the one who always turns something petty into something big. He does so much for you, and you act like you don’t care… get the picture? It’s giving cunty, manipulative, and low vibrational! Sassy men point the finger, guilt you into confusion, and you end up back in his web, thinking it’s your fault for not being a better woman. It’s time to pay attention and stop feeding into these kinds of males.

You deserve a man who is going to cuff you close and let people know that you are his and he is yours.

You deserve a man who can discuss a problem without raising his voice and talking over you because he always has to be right.

You deserve a man who is secure enough to give you your space and not cry when you don’t text back or can’t see him.

You deserve a man who is going to love you unconditionally, not throw the things he does back in your face as a means to control you.

Also, on today’s show, we talk about how to reconnect with an ex, dating app rules for plus-sized women, being mysterious versus telling a man too much, and, of course, the questions you’ve sent in! And if your question hasn’t been answered yet, email us at [email protected].

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90% of women are after the same 10% of men. First Layer: Attractive, funny, and aggressively masculine in a way that screams "big dick energy," minus the toxicity. This layer is what creates lust and sexual chemistry. Second Layer: Financially stable. Shared beliefs. Steps up without having to be told what to do.  This layer is what creates that deeper "we can build a family and thrive" connection.

90% of men only have 2 of those traits at once. The rest of them are okay looking, sarcastic not funny, overly feminine, don't make much money, or if they do make a good salary they don't spend it on you. An even larger portion of males don't really believe in the same religious or spiritual ideologies that you do, shit-- most don't believe in anything besides conspiracy theories. And the cherry on top is that the majority will treat you like a Queen once then stop, never remember the things you like, rarely go out of their way to do things just because, and always has to be reminded how to speak your love language.

Let's be real. Most of you will meet boys who you have to teach to be men, whose hands you have to hold like you're their mother, and who you pour way too much love and effort into only to realize that you're forcing love not being love. Relationships aren't a one way street, if you're the only one driving towards something, then chances are you're not headed towards a happy ending, you're speeding towards a dead end. 

The 10% male is who you need, the 90% male is who you settle for. He's frustrating because he's not meant for you. He's disrespectful because he wasn't created for you. He can't wait to chase other women because he's not and will never be the man for you. Clinging to whose in your life instead of choosing to be single and waiting for the right one is hard. Why?

Because no matter how much you lie and say you enjoy being by yourself you hate being lonely, you can't control the anxiety of "I'll never meet anyone decent," and at your core you truly do believe that love comes to good women. Again, this mindset is why you dated or are currently dating someone who had no business being in your phone let along in your vagina.

I want you to get the 10% man, those males who have top shelf qualities, embody high values, and who will show you, not tell you that you were put on this earth to be their happy ending. Many of you still struggle with my books, you can't put what I write into practice, so this is going to be a short but sweet blueprint on how to get what you want by using what you have-- feminine energy.

Do you have a MAN who makes sure your birthday feels epic and special?

Do you have a phone filled with options or a block list of regrets?

Do you know how to make a man realize what he has... or do you sit around waiting while he treats you like a Placeholder... just some girl he's wasting time with until something better comes along.

Spartans get lavish birthdays. Spartans always have options. Spartans can check any man and get proper treatment no matter how long they've been together. Are you a Spartan? Or are you just another basic Placeholder losing at love?

The Formula For Teasing:

Here's a secret... Most women don't know what the fuck they're doing. Awkward, weird, and unsexy. They mimic more powerful women, they stumble around, and they hope someone loves them. To be a woman who knows how to seduce, have a conversation, and tease puts you above 80% of modern women who don't know how to do shit but talk too much and rate makeup products...

Let's go through two types of men and how to connect: The First is The New Guy (a man you just met if you're single). The Second Is The Established Guy (the guy you've been dating or with).

Step 1:) What Do Men Want At The Core...

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-Good looking men never approach me...

-Guys on apps message but are inconsistent...

-I don't know what I'm doing wrong that no one chases me. Maybe I need to walk around with my boobs and butt out because clearly that's what men like...

Are you done crying? You don't need to walk around with your coochie out to get male attention. A lot of you go online and do THE MOST to get the men you secretly like to notice you, and in the end all you get is the wrong kind of attention from the type of men you don't want. You don't know how to thirst trap. You don't know how to spark conversation. You think "I'll just breath, and that's enough." How has being passive worked for you so far? How many missed opportunities are you going to let happen?

If a man who was a 10 out of a 10 walked into a room, what would make him walk over and talk to you? How could you get him to look up from his phone and notice that you're even there?

ANSWER:__________________________________________________________________________________________________________

...you don't have one because you aren't a fucking Spartan. There are women who can break a man with a stare, and then there's you who could be in a room filled with top shelf men and fumble. Today's episode is going to give you the gameplan you need to roster build for the summer!

You can get attention, online and off. But what are you currently manifesting, sis? Cornballs DM you. Men with girlfriends or wives want to use you as a side. Droves of men swipe you, message, and then fall all the way back... face facts, the kind of man you want isn't checking for you because you're making mistake after mistake. It's time you stopped complaining about "there's no men" there are plenty of them, but you get them to take notice by...

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-Good looking men never approach me...

-Guys on apps message but are inconsistent...

-I don't know what I'm doing wrong that no one chases me. Maybe I need to walk around with my boobs and butt out because clearly that's what men like...

Are you done crying? You don't need to walk around with your coochie out to get male attention. A lot of you go online and do THE MOST to get the men you secretly like to notice you, and in the end all you get is the wrong kind of attention from the type of men you don't want. You don't know how to thirst trap. You don't know how to spark conversation.

Cornballs DM you, but a man who isn't desperate isn't checking for you because your swag and sex appeal is about as basic as they come. It's time you stopped complaining about "there's no men" there are plenty of them, but you need to start getting them to take notice!

"But how, G.L.?" It's no secret in terms of what draws men to certain women and makes them avoid others! Today I'm going to talk about getting him to notice you no matter who you are, how you look, or where you live.

Men are always looking for the next best thing. Newly single - he's looking. Ready to break up with his girl - he's looking! Ready to divorce his wife - he's looking. Even men who say "I'm not looking for anything serious..." are still looking for something serious! But how are YOU taking advantage of this thirst that's inside of all men?

If a man who was a 10 out of a 10 walked into a room, what would make him walk over and talk to you? How could you get him to look up from his phone and notice that you're even there?

ANSWER:__________________________________________________________________________________________________________

...you don't have one because you aren't a fucking Spartan. There are women who can break a man with a stare, and then there's you who could be in a room filled with top shelf men and fumble.

Situational shyness: You become an introvert around men you find attractive. You don't really know what to say or how to come off as interesting. You watch opportunity slip away because you don't know how to give men the green light to approach and chase you.

Doesn't matter if it's a stranger, someone you see all the time and crush on, or if you need help standing out while in the dating stage, on today's podcast we're going to breakdown how to go from ignored to a MUST HAVE.

Plus we dive into questions on dating younger men, dealing with women who hate on you, getting your boyfriend to pay more attention to you and spoil you while in a relationship, and more of your questions!

If you want to have your question asked on the show be sure to email [email protected].

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How's dating one at a time working out for you? Meet him, start to like him, it doesn't work out (the last step happening AFTER you've already had sex with him). People from school thought you would be cuffed by now... rich husband, pampered, proof that you were always different, but instead of Carrie Bradshaw you're Basica Hell'nah because you don't know what you're doing! How many years will you CONTINUE to waste being a woman who falls fast, gets fucked, then gets sent back outside because her dating tactics are trash?

Year 1: You meet a a nice guy, you vibe, you go on three dates and now feel like he's THE ONE. All the other guys in your phone get ignored or receive dry responses, you're focused on HIM. ...a few months later you're still not in a relationship but this feels like true love.

He tells you that he loves you and you say it back. This is it, you've finally found your person. ...a month after this feeling he suddenly starts acting strange, not time for you, an attitude over nothing. What the fuck is his problem? You stop calling, he stops calling. You cave in and finally go see him-- get fucked, but it's not the same. He once again falls back. You NOW get the hint. It's over...

Year 2: You meet a nice guy, you vibe, you don't want to get hurt so you keep it at the talking stage, not wanting to move too fast. This makes him try HARDER. He's love bombing you, making promises, showing you all the ways he's different from that last guy. You give in, you LOVE that he's fighting to be with you. This feels like THE ONE.

...a few months later you catch him in a lie. He's not who you thought but you're falling for him, so you give him a second chance. ...a few months after that you're going crazy because you know you can't trust him. Lie on top of lie and you have to let go of the man you thought was special. It's over.

Year 3 - Year 5: You've been with an okay guy for two years. He's not someone you would typically date but he's always there for you, isn't a cheater or liar, but something is missing. He's not the best looking, doesn't have much money, and isn't that smart. But he's yours. So you hold on to it because at least he's willing to claim you unlike those last two.

Is this a man you would marry and have kids with? 16 year old you would be like "This guy? Nah. I'm too good for him." But you're older and less confident in what you can pull so you entertain the thought that you could make this man work because you're tired of starting over. Suddenly he's not acting the same. ...the next month he wants to "talk". He's not happy, he needs to work on himself, and he's been depressed for a long time and afraid to tell you. You try to salvage it, but you already know this feeling. It's over.

When a woman dates ONE at a time, trying to hit a home run instead of playing the percentages this is what happens. You strike out, and another year comes off your life. Every year you find one guy, who doesn't work out. Maybe you'll get into a 2 or 4 year relationship, but that doesn't work either. You went from being that vibrant woman in her 20s who literally wasted year after year on men who let you down. Now you're much older, not that much wiser, and still hoping that the next guy who takes you out doesn't waste your time. A woman with Too Much Hope + No Common Sense + A Hard Dick = A Dumb Ass

Ladies, it's time to wise the fuck up and recognize that there are too many inconsistent men to spend months only focused on one.

Category Single (And happy?): I'm talking to you, the one who has been hurt in the past, currently between men, and say you're happy, but the reality is you want a man, are waiting for love, but you haven't done the Spartan work to make yourself a magnet for good men and a deterrent for fuck boys.

Category Taken (And happy?): I'm talking to you, the one who has a guy but is going through drama right now. Hot and cold, not sure if this is going to work, or maybe you're already on a semi-break because of the last incident. You're the type that comes looking for dating advice because you want to "fix" a relationship you pretend isn't broken. You're no better than the single women who pretend to be happy. Both of you lack the mental fortitude to find real love.

"G.L. I'm not dumb, I know he's being sneaky but I'm going to wait." Wait for what, Basica? Him to fuck another girl? For him to leave you? Nah, for him to change his ways so you can salvage that relationship. You're too busy to date multiple men, but you work overtime trying to keep a no good man housetrained. What's for you will be for ONLY you, so why are you chasing after a man who says he loves you but never shows it?

There are so many quality men in this world, every few months I get emails from readers or past women I coached who prove that it's not hard to find your match. But you have to recognize that even the quality men are bias and suspicious. No man wants to accidentally end up with a bird so they test you.

Understand that the game is rigged even before your first date. I don’t care how pretty, smart, or sophisticated you are, men mentally size you up, put you in a box based on other women they’ve known, and treat you a certain way—all based off assumptions. He can't afford to wife up the wrong woman, so he's willing to throw the right ones in the pile with the rest unless she proves she's different, not with words but with actions.

This is why it’s crucial to stand the fuck up, not shrink your personality, and show them exactly who you are, a Spartan who has read my books and knows how to shine her light! The women who imprint themselves as “I’m not like those other bitches,” instead of simply saying it, can’t be labeled, they come off as special, and men will automatically chase. Are you listening yet?

The Grass Is Greener!

Do you realize how many NEW men come onto the dating market each day? There was no one on the apps last week, now some guy who is finally ready to date after a breakup is on there today: Wealthy, handsome, and well trained by his ex to treat a woman the way a woman needs to be treated-- but you're missing out on him because you ONLY want to date "Marcus who took you bowling and made you laugh." Huh?

You're exclusive and loyal to a man that took you out ONCE. You delete your apps, stop eye fucking men in public, and won't answer your DMS because you went out ONCE? You're dicked whipped by potential, because you have a few good conversations with a man who has his own place and no kids. You're off the market while these men are still fucking 2 other women. Are you delusional, slow, or just uneducated in the ways of how a man thinks and operates?

I met a nurse last year who worked crazy shifts, and still found time to get taken out twice a week, and not by the same men. That same woman emailed me a picture of her engagement ring and a thank you. Why? Because I've been telling you all to date multiple men for 10 fucking years. You can't afford to be tired, frustrated, or delete an app just because it's not working. Persistence breeds results! Those of you who have read my books and followed them, not half way, not some times, but like a fucking Spartan-- win.

-Basicas Be Like all I need is nothing bae...

What Men Think Of Overly Loyal Women...

Little Mrs. Basic always thinking about what a man likes never about what's best for you. "I can't date multiple men cus may think I'm a Ho. Men want to see that you're down for them during the dating stage," Of course they do, Basica! They want to know that before they even give you an official title you're going to submit and show him that your pussy is his pussy unconditionally.

AMC popcorn and Facetime calls have calling him "Bae" way before he claims you. You're creaming on his dick as he asks you "who's pussy is this," meanwhile he still as a dating app installed on his phone. You see him as your soul mate. He sees you as seasonal. Pay fucking attention!

Placeholders fall into place based on basic attention, treatment, and words of affection. In the end, they get used up and abandoned with nothing to show for it but trust issues and a cold heart. Ask yourself right now are you a Placeholder still out here wasting her time or a Game Changer that currently has these men wrapped around her finger?

Here are the 3 things you have to know about any man you date and through these 3 things this is how you stay one step ahead: 1) We as men want...

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Far From BasYc by G.L. Lambert

Goddess Mindset = You Can Manifest At Will. The Universe Conspires To Give You What You Need. Life is Amazing.

Victim Mindset = You Have Bad Luck. Nothing Ever Works Out. Life Sucks…what’s the point?

Every time you step foot outside, you’re either in control or at the mercy of the world you’re living in. You either have the confidence to push through everything that comes your way, or you’re filled with anxiety because you know that you’re not built to be tested.

What's the difference between G.O.D Mode (GREATNESS OVER DOUBT) and Victim Mode? Winners believe in their powers, while losers wait for others to empower them. Are you triggered yet? Does looking at your life make you uncomfortable? Good! Because it's time to confront what's holding you back. Basic thoughts. Inconsistent results. A mountain of mistakes... and what the fuck are you doing to change these things besides repress and regress?

My books turn weak women into Goddesses, at least those who are open enough to follow what I write without fear, and it's not because of what I say, it's because I'm waking up what's inside of you. You are inherently powerful, but you refuse to honor that gift.

The biggest test I’m emailed about is: How do I find love, keep love, and not fuck it up.

Your dating life is mid and inconsistent. Why aren’t you dating men who are on your level? At least 2-3 times a month, you should be taken out by men who can actually bring something to YOUR table.

Your relationship is dry and unsatisfying: Why isn’t your relationship giving Happy Ending? Instead, you don’t go anywhere, you don’t get anything, and be honest-- you don’t feel special. It’s giving “be happy with mediocre love.” You don't think you can do better so you choose to be content instead of truly happy.

Your mindset is set to pick me and prove myself. Who taught you that a woman's job is to tap dance for dick? You trick on men, let them fuck you the moment they apply pressure, hold down guys who aren't even officially yours all because you don't believe just being yourself is enough for them to stay. You're so mentally broken that you think for an attractive man to actually want you, there must be some kind of exchange, sexual or materialistic. You talk empowerment online then pander for penis in real life because you don't believe you're worthy of unconditional love.

You're sad. You're lost. You're on a fast tract to being just another Basica who settles, gets used, and gets tossed back in the dating pool to repeat that pathetic cycle.

What man doesn't love a dumb bitch who does the most? Stop being so Basic!

It’s time to hit reset and get the love you actually want, from a person who can match your energy, not drag you down. The problem is you don’t know where to start. Your life has been up and down, and mentally, your trauma is getting in the way. Victim or God? Unfuckwitable or Low Vibrational? It’s on you to change because waiting on someone to come in and "fix you" isn't happening!

You want to be powerful. You want to be respected. You want to achieve what you're capable of... Yet you contradict then betray your own standards! You don't want to embrace Godhood, you want to submit and be a man's pet because all you ever wanted is the validation of "Daddy love me!" Enough is enough. Get off your knees and become the woman you know you are because it's never too late to Spartan Up!

Breaking Free From Victim Trauma

Do you know how to show love, receive love, and test that bond to know that it’s solid and not just another start-and-stop relationship? Today, we’re going to revamp your love life with some tough love:

Seek Therapy and Heal: Fuck that. I’m going to show you how to self-heal without spending all that time and money going in circles.

How Do You Know You’re Ready For A Relationship: Fuck that. Stop looking for signs and start creating your own reality where you easily test and see if this person is right.

Unsure of what to say: Fuck that. No more introverted relationships where you let people lead you, or you allow opportunities to pass you by because you lack the confidence or the words to express what you want. It’s time to open your mouth and get what you deserve!

All it takes to reignite your love life, no matter if you’re single, in a relationship, situationship, or just stuck—are these 3 Steps I talk about on today's episode. Plus, we answer YOUR top questions. This is the ultimate class on fixing trauma, killing anxiety, and healing that actually works!

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Goddess Mindset = You Can Manifest At Will. The Universe Conspires To Give You What You Need. Life is Amazing.

Victim Mindset = You Have Bad Luck. Nothing Ever Works Out. Life Sucks…what’s the point?

Every time you step foot outside, you’re either in control or at the mercy of the world you’re living in. You either have the confidence to push through everything that comes your way, or you’re filled with anxiety because you know that you’re not built to be tested.

The biggest test I’m emailed about is: How do I find love, keep love, and not fuck it up.

Your dating life is mid and inconsistent. Why aren’t you dating on God Mode? At least 2-3 times a month, you should be taken out by men who can actually bring something to YOUR table.

Your relationship is dry and unsatisfying: Why isn’t your relationship giving Happy Ending? Instead, you don’t go anywhere, you don’t get anything, and be honest-- you don’t feel special. It’s giving “be happy with crumbs,” because you chose to be content instead of truly happy.

It’s time to hit reset and get the love you actually want, from a person who can match your energy, not drag you down. The problem is you don’t know where to start. Your life has been up and down, and mentally, your trauma is getting in the way. Victim or God? Unfuckwitable or Low Vibrational? It’s on you to change because waiting on someone to come in and "fix you" isn't happening!

You want to be powerful. You want to be respected. You want to achieve what you're capable of... Yet you contradict then betray your own standards! List of dealbreakers longer than Beyonce's hair, buy you STILL settle for the man with the red flags. You can tell everyone else they're being dumb and give good advice, but in your own life you STILL make rookie mistakes and get talked into staying in unhealthy situations. You're so strong intellectually, but so weak emotionally. You don't want to embrace Godhood, you want to submit and be a man's pet because all you ever wanted is the validation of "Daddy love me!" Enough is enough.

Breaking Free From Victim Trauma

Do you know how to show love, receive love, and test that bond to know that it’s solid and not just another start-and-stop relationship? Today, we’re going to revamp your love life with some tough love:

Seek Therapy and Heal: Fuck that. I’m going to show you how to self-heal without spending all that time and money going in circles.

How Do You Know You’re Ready For A Relationship: Fuck that. Stop looking for signs and start creating your own reality where you easily test and see if this person is right.

Unsure of what to say: Fuck that. No more introverted relationships where you let people lead you, or you allow opportunities to pass you by because you lack the confidence or the words to express what you want. It’s time to open your mouth and get what you deserve!

All it takes to reignite your love life, no matter if you’re single, in a relationship, situationship, or just stuck—are these 3 Steps I talk about on today's episode.

Plus, we answer YOUR top questions. This is the ultimate class on fixing trauma, killing anxiety, and healing that actually works!

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Delusion: “The person that’s meant for you will find you.”

Reality: People are manipulative, and they will pretend to be everything you’re looking for in order to gain control of your heart and mind.

Delusion: We’ve been on and off forever, but we always come back to each other. I think it’s meant to be.

Reality: You’re wasting the best years of your life trying to force a person who isn’t right for you because you ignorantly believe that comfort = compatibility.

Delusion: I’m going to end up happily married because I’m good, loyal, and I know how to please a man.

Reality: Fuck that. How smart are you? How good at vetting are you? How good at reading between the lines are you? Your entire life, you’ve said you were “special,” but how often have you shown that you were special?

You’re loyal to men who have lied to you on more than one occasion. Clap it up. After everything you’ve seen, you still believe in men who aren’t consistent. Clap it up. You throw pussy on a man, hoping it locks him down… how has that worked out for you? Since you were in your 20s, you’ve lost at love. You’ve been fooled by big talk, you’ve fallen in love with potential, and you’ve wasted so much wet vagina on men who were never what they appeared. Clap it up for your delusional ride through life.

There’s a difference between being positive and being delusional. Confidence dictates that you push through your current fear and past setbacks and go for what you want. Your actions, thoughts, and choices shape your destiny. The lessons you learn by making mistakes should help you eventually make better choices. The key word is “should”.

Delusion is when you don’t learn from life, and double down on stupidity. You buy into some cliché saying or baseless belief and prop yourself up with false confidence. Why are so many women Placeholders? Why are so many women holding on to toxic relationships? Why are so many women single, and unsure of how to attract more men? 90% of you reading this don't know how to play the Love Game, you hope, wish, and pray, but you don't know how to activate your inner Bad Bitch, Spartan Up, and Get What You Need!

When you’re caught up in delusion, you convince yourself that a basic man is a king, water is dry, down is up, because your pride and ego have to be right... you're so afraid to fail that you keep lying to yourself.

“We’re going to get married, girl,” remarks your Basica bestie after two months of dick and promises. “Fuck him, these men ain’t shit,” growls your Basica bestie a few weeks later. It’s always fuck that last relationship, I've moved on. Never. Wait. What is going on inside of me that I got so caught up so fast. All this talk about the latest makeup bronzers, reality show reunions, and what you have planned for your birthday... but ZERO mention of your own mental health and why you feed into delusion, end up chosing the wrong people, and keep getting hurt.

 “Whatever, God got me... What’s meant to be will be... I'm waiting until the Sun is in Virgo...” Spiritual excuses are spit from your mouth, and you sound like a pychopath. Waiting on supernatural forces to bring you a husband or using it to explain away why the last man didn't want you is not taking accountability, beloved.

You can’t keep making mistake after mistake in the name of “I’m highly favored.” Your delusion has you believing that you have some kind of spiritual shield that will keep you protected. But why isn't it working? The truth is your intuition is broken, busted, and more off than a clock radio after Day Light Savings Time!  You're not highly favored, you're hard headed. The Universe opens a door but you choose to walk into a wall in the name of "I got this," No, you fucking don't.

Destiny is manifested. It isn’t handed out to everyone who clasps their hands together in prayer. “Please show me true love! Ancestors bring me my match.” Sis, your ancestors are disgusted that you still act dumb over dick at your age and routinely got left when the universe tries to push you to go right. You have all the tools to win but never use them. Instead, you wait until you’re sad, lonely, or disappointed—again, and try to lean on superstition and fake positivity, aka Delusion.

Look at you, Ms. Know It All... who doesn't have any results that prove that she's figured out this game called love. The reality you're afraid to admit is that you're too egotistical to tell if they're good for you or playing you. “This is the one. Our last few dates just felt right!” It didn’t feel right. It felt safe. They weren’t amazing. They were just different from the trash you’re used to dating. They weren’t perfect for you. They just gave you the perfect level of attention that you’ve been craving since childhood. But go ahead, pretend that you're so smart and see where it gets you.

Not everyone ends up with “the right person”. They end up with “who’s left.” Most people settle for a mediocre partner and call them the love of their life, but the truth is they fumbled their shot at a fairytale ending. Do you want to be the person with the leftovers? Or that person who got everything I wanted?

Placeholders stumble upon great men, then get passed up, and that’s not because “the universe has something better,” it’s because the Universe is screaming—when are you going to level up instead of shrinking yourself into just another basic woman who gets ran through and tossed because she’s afraid to flex the full power of her personality!

If you're reading these words, it's because you're in alignment with something you need to receive-- THE TRUTH. Stop running away, stop trying to figure it out on your own, and stop pretending you'll be okay. With each new day, you'll keep taking another loss, because you aren't following the SIGNS. On today's episode, I want to show you how to lean into your power, not run from it. How to get what you want, not what you’re given.

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